《中英版》两极哲理之（七）怎样应用两极哲理

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两极哲理之（七）怎样应用两极哲理

朋友，当你在生活里遇到不如意的事件时，就会令你产生不平衡的心理情绪，这些不平衡的心理情绪最终是以怒、恨、忌、疑、怨、思、愁、哀、惊、惧等表示出来。这些情绪如果经常、持久地发生着，你的心灵就无法平静了。这些事件包括：被别人多批评了两句、家人的罗嗦、薪水加得不理想、工作太烦重、股票卖了才起价、你爱的人却不爱你、希望没有实观、被小贩敲竹杆、不喜欢却偏偏遇到那个人、不喜欢国家的某些政策……等等。这都是由于你的“执我”太重而无法接受这些事件的发生，因而产生了怒、恨、忌、疑、怨、思、愁、惊、惧等情绪。这些情绪都可归为两极哲理的恶性前极，会令你身心受伤的。“执我”是什么呢？它就是佛家所说的“空”的反意词。执我太重，烦恼也愈多，如果你要减轻执我，就要像俗话所说的“看开点”才行。讲完这些“道”理，现在就来谈真的两极哲理的运用方法。
　　
其实你在还没听过两极哲理之前，或许你早就运用了两极哲理了，只是有的人用的不知不觉、有的是后知后觉，而有的却是先知先觉罢了。两极哲理的运用，其实也须经过不知不觉、后知后觉及先知先觉这三个阶段，最后却还须再进入“不知不觉”的境界，这才算是两极哲理的高手。在运用两极来平衡心理情绪时，你也须牢记：
（一）凡事常是“有弊也有利、有失也有得”，或“有利也有弊、有得也有失”的一般性。
（二）善性前极制造善性后极、恶性前极制造恶性后极是不变的道理。
（三）怒、恨、忌、疑、怨、思、愁、
惊、惧的情绪都是恶性前极或后极，千万要避免发生。
不知不觉：新加坡著名的鸡饭在小贩中心目前是卖二元到两元半一盘，但偶而我们也能买到促销的一元鸡饭，那时即使鸡饭里的鸡肉少了一点或没加青瓜你也不介意。因为便宜所以质量差一点嘛。但如果你付的是两元半或三元一盘的鸡饭而鸡肉少又青瓜不见了，你多半会生气或口出怨言。因为便宜的“一元鸡饭”在两极哲理里便是前极，而对称的后极是“鸡肉少又青瓜不见了”，即有得（便宜）又有失（肉少等），所以能被你接受。但后者的前极是“两元半或三元的鸡饭”却得到不对称的“鸡肉少又青瓜不见了”的后极，即有失（即价钱贵）没得（即肉少等），所以很难被你接受，你可能因此生气了。而“生气”又是另一个前极的开始，后果又会怎样，你也许自己已经知造答案了吧？又如你较喜欢向亲切有礼的售货员购物，也是一个用得不知不觉的例子。因为售货员亲切有礼是善性前极，能导致你向他购物的善性后极。前后极都很对称，自然的对称使你心情好，你说对吗？
　　

如果你是在不知不觉的阶段，请你开始做善举及以助人为快乐之本，它能帮你减化许多心头的烦恼。
　
后知后觉：你或许已经了解到某些事的后果是不好的，但偏偏又做了过后才后悔。譬如做出错误的决策、在不合适的场所或时刻发脾气或失言等，这就是两极的后知后觉了。这时候你须紧记怒、恨、忌、疑、
怨、思、愁、惊、惧都是恶性前极或后极，它会使你招惹更多的麻烦而令你身心损伤，所以要避免。
　　
在这阶段你也会觉得为了做出善性前极或后极而往往失多得少，或付出的多过得回的。譬如：被小贩敲竹杆付了三元却得到肉少的鸡饭但不可以向小贩发怒（发怒是恶性前极）而是以和气的态度（和气是善性前极）向他讨回公道。被别人多批评两句后自我反省或一笑置之（反省或一笑置之是善性前极）而不和人家争吵（争吵是恶性前极）。对家人的罗嗦左耳进右耳出（善性）
而不发火发怒（恶性）。薪水加得不理想还要继续努力工作（善性）而不是自暴自弃地马虎工作（恶性）。工作太烦重找同事帮忙解决（善性）而不是马虎应付（恶性）。股票卖了才大起价就自叹例霉（善性）而不是整天耿耿于怀（恶性）。你爱的人不爱你的话就祝福对方好运算了（善性），而不必要死缠着对方或整天愁眉苦脸（恶性）。不喜欢却偏偏遇到某个人的话，就静悄悄的走开或大大方方的和对方打个招呼（善性），胜过在他面前冷嘲热讽（恶性）。不喜欢国家的某些政策就找对策（善性），好过批评谩骂（恶性）。
得与失是非常主观的，只要不伤到身心，失了又何妨？如果伤到身心，得了又有何益？
先知先觉：你的经验告诉你，的确善性前极经常会产生善性后极，而恶性前极也经常会产生恶性后极，所以你能预先知道事情的后果，这就是先知先觉。譬如你对“一元鸡饭”不会抱着太高的要求。你不会因“三元鸡饭的肉少青瓜少”发怒；如果你和气地和小贩交涉，也许他会不好意事而多加鸡肉送给你，这就是两极的道理。你所招惹的麻烦也会越来越少，但在这个阶段里你却有另一种烦恼，就是因为你能先知先觉但却无法说服周围的人。现在两个方法可以克服这方面的问题：
（一）不同人有不同的认知层次 (LEVEL OF UNDERSTANDING)。你不可能要求每个人都达到与你相同的先知先觉层次，所以你最好是找精神寄托来渡过这个阶段，如学习新的艺术知识、参加团体活动，或把精力时间多花在个人或家人的身上。
（二）你须要耐心地等待两极发挥力量，虽然后极是马上发生了，但还须时间才能让周围的人看到它的结果，那时他们就会逐渐重视你的意见了。
　
不知不觉：你已经领悟了两极哲理原来就是“大自然”的力量，它具有惩罚及奖赏的能力，即善性前极制造善性后极、恶性前极制造恶性后极这个道理。譬如你的同学或同事朋友爱说谎，他终有一天会被自己的行为所伤，即所谓的“狼来了”或“上得山多终遇虎”的造理。又如公司里同事不接受你的好建议，最终他的工作常遇到麻烦，以后对你的建议就不再掉以轻心了。如果你和蔼可亲，你会有很多朋友，你也会生活在快乐的日子里。
　　
一旦体会了两极哲理的巧妙奥妙作用之后，你即能随时随地接受和解决任何的恶性前极或后极，并能随时随地制造出善性前极或后极。换句话说：你的执我之心越来越少了。至于两极之如何巧妙奥妙及具有什么“大自然”力量，你只能体会但无法言传，就如母爱及其力量的伟大一样，你只能体会而说不清楚。
　　
朋友，你问我学会了两极哲理，又有什么益处呢？我可以很肯定的告诉你：当你完全领悟了两极哲理之后，你将会生活在顺境之中，这之所以我要大力“促销”它的原因，它对所有的人都有益。虽然两极哲理不能让你突然大富大贵，但却能把你在目前的生活起点里带入另一个更顺利的境界。至于你是否能到达第三篇及第八篇所提到的内智慧境界，那要靠你的悟性了。

英文版
Part Seven: How to Use the Law of Event(s) upon Event

When frustrated by daily events, you can experience the psychological imbalance which often find expression through anger, anxiety, envy, fear, gloominess, hatred, resentment, sorrow and suspicion. If such a state of mind lasts long, you can never remain tranquil. Which are the daily events that could cause frustrations? There are plenty of them, such as criticisms, tedious family gossips, unsatisfactory pay raise, overwork, failure in stocks or love affairs, unrealized expectations, dishonest hawkers, unexpected visitors, and unpopular government policies.

Normally, because of your "self-consciousness", you cannot tolerate these events which in turn will result in your psychological imbalance, which will then express into emotions. Emotions like anger, anxiety, envy, fear, gloominess, hatred, resentment, sorrow and suspicion, all being classified as negative subsequent events, are the end products of your frustration, may do harm to your health. Then, what is "self-consciousness"? It is the antonym for "void" in Buddhism. Over-consciousness causes more vexations which can be reduced by being broad-minded and by your "take things easy" approach.

Now let us come to the use of LEE. Perhaps you have already used it subconsciously, or have used it without knowing what it is. The application of this law, as a matter of fact, undergoes 3 stages — subconsciousness, post-consciousness and pre-consciousness, then finally comes back to the stage of subconsciousness. When using this law to achieve spiritual tranquillity, you must bear in mind the following points:

1. Every cloud has a silver lining and no rose without a thorn;
2. Positive starting events lead to positive subsequent events, vice-versa;
3. Negative events should be cautiously avoided, such as anger, anxiety, envy, fear, gloominess, hatred, resentment, sorrow and suspicion.

Subconsciousness: In Singapore the chicken rice at the hawker centre presently sells at $2 or $2.50 a plate. Sometimes you may have it at a reduced price of $1.00 during the promotion by the hawker. On such occasions you will not have any complaints if the chicken rice has less chicken or no cucumber. You naturally accept the low quality because it is cheap. However, if you spend $2 or $2.50 on a plate of chicken rice having less chicken or no cucumber, you will naturally resent about it. To interpret this with LEE, the one-dollar chicken rice, as a starting event creates the subsequent event of "less chicken and no cucumber". There are both gain (cheap) and pain (less chicken and no cucumber). So you accept it as it is. On the contrary, you can seldom accept the a two or two-fifty-dollar chicken rice having less chicken and no cucumber, due to your psychological imbalance of no gain (paying two or two-fifty-dollar a plate), but pain (i.e. having less chicken and no cucumber), you may get angry with the hawker. But being angry is the beginning of another starting event which will obviously result in negative subsequent events. Another example is that you often tend to buy from friendly salesmen. Friendliness, in this case, is a positive starting event which leads positive subsequent event of you coming back to the same salesman. This agreement between starting and subsequent events makes you feel balance and harmony, you therefore have a peaceful mind. Doing good deeds alleviates your vexations, make you feel balance and harmony. Please do more good deeds if you are at the subconsciousness stage.

Post-consciousness: Sometimes you do not realize the negative effects of an event until you have done it, such as making a wrong decision, losing temper at the wrong place and wrong time. This is the post-consciousness stage of LEE. On these occasions, you must never forget negative starting or subsequent events such as anger, anxiety, envy, gloominess, fear, hatred, resentment, sorrow and suspicion, may lead you further into trouble, hence you should cautiously avoid them.

At the post-consciousness stage, you may often feel that you have contributed more than you have gained by creating positive starting or subsequent events. For instance, when being cheated by the hawker, instead of flying into a rage (negative starting event), you politely and calmly ask to be compensated (positive subsequent event). In face of criticisms, instead of starting up a quarrel (a negative event), you get down to self-questioning, or simply laugh away the criticisms (positive). Instead of getting angry with verbose family prattles (negative), you let them in through one ear and out of the other (positive). When failing to get the desired pay raise, you continue to work hard (positive) rather than fool about pessimistically (negative). When overworked, ask your colleagues for help rather than take a perfunctory attitude (negative). Accept the losses in stocks (positive) rather than always begrudge them (negative). Bless the one who does not love you rather than cherish a hatred for her/him or feel depressed all the time. Silently evade or courteously greet the person you hate to bump into rather than satirize him. Deal tactfully with the policy you do not like rather than criticize or wickedly attack it.

The concept of gain and loss is subjective. As long as it does not inflict any injuries to your body and soul, it does not harm to lose; similarly if you gain at the expense of your body or soul, what, then, are the benefits of gain?

Pre-consciousness: Experience shows that positive starting events bring about positive subsequent events, vice versa. The ability to anticipate the results of events is called preconsciousness. For instance, you will not expect too much from a one-dollar chicken rice; instead of getting angry for the two-fifty-dollar chicken rice having less meat and no cucumber, you negotiate politely with the hawker. Perhaps he will doubly compensate you for your politeness. This is the effect of LEE. If you understand the real meaning of discreetness in word, you will surely have less trouble. Furthermore, at the stage of preconsciousness, another vexation may perplex you. That is, despite the preconsciousness you possess, you may not be able to convince others of the truth of this law. The following two method are meant for you to solve problems of this kind.

One is to resort to spiritual enjoyment to tide over this stage, such as learning something about arts, participating in various social activities, or spending more time on yourself and your family. Bear in mind that the level of understanding varies from person to person. You cannot expect everybody to be at your level to understand your know. Secondly, you should patiently wait for LEE to take effect. Though subsequent events are bound to happen, time is needed before others see the effect of LEE and accept your opinion.

Subconsciousness: Having understood that this law represents the power of Nature which is capable of rewarding and penalizing. That is, positive starting events create positive subsequent events, vice versa. For instance, if you have a colleague who often tells lies, he will eventually suffer for lying. A friend who rejects your constructive suggestions will take into careful considerations your suggestions after suffering from rejecting them. By being friendly and courteous, you will make many friends, which will enable you a pleasant and happy life.

Once the wonderful effects of this law sink in, you can readily accept any negative starting or subsequent events, and accordingly create positive starting or subsequent events. In other words, your self-consciousness will diminish. The wonderful effects and great power of this law, like the love of a mother, can only be felt but is beyond description.

You may ask in what ways you will benefit from mastering this law. The answer is that a complete mastering of this law enable you an easy and pleasant life. This is why I have been trying my best to popularize it. Though LEE cannot make you rich or successful overnight, but it certainly leads you to a new way of life. Whether or not you will reach the world of inner wisdom, which is referred to in Parts Three and Eight, rests upon your level of understanding LEE.