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标题: 梁志强一哭 我笑了 [打印本页]
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:04
标题: 梁志强一哭 我笑了
交代婚外情·妻崩溃昏倒 梁智强三哭认错
2010/03/11 5:49:07 PM
●南洋商报
（新加坡11日讯）最近因嫩草事件而“声名大噪”的导演梁智强召开记者会，只认错不道歉，梁太太还在记者会现场崩溃。
梁智强的记者会前后只有3分钟，但在这短短3分钟内，他便三度哽咽，两度落泪；而一直支持丈夫到底的梁妻，更在记者会结束后，一度昏厥过去。
今早10时，梁智强针对婚外情事件召开的记者会，准时在东方天蝎的礼堂召开。
梁智强的经理人邓咏徽先做开场白，他说：“这个星期，梁导、他的家人和媒体都很辛苦。希望这次记者会后，这一切都会平息。”
他也说明，记者会将不允许记者提问。
从头到尾没说对不起
邓咏徽走下台后，梁智强和妻子康美凤才从侧门进入，走到台上的椅子坐下。两人紧握双手，康美凤穿着紫色外套、黑色上衣和蓝色牛仔裤，看来十分憔悴，而且整个人瘦了一圈。
梁智强则穿着灰白格子长袖衬衫，头发整齐，和之前和嫩草谈判时比起来，精神好了许多。但平时开朗的梁智强面对镜头，只挤得出一丝苦笑。
“庆幸老婆原谅我”
梁智强说：“早上好，感谢大家今天过来。这几天，我们都过得不好，相信大家都知道。”
“这件事完全都是我的错，跟任何人都没有关系。我最幸运的是，我老婆原谅了我。”
这时，梁智强深深叹了一口气，并用麦克风遮住自己的脸，痛哭大约5秒，再趴在桌上约20秒，心情才平复，继续说下去。
“这些年来，我的老婆忍受了很多女人无法忍受的痛苦。可是，她还是原谅了我。”
“我老婆跟我说，她不懂怎么样应对媒体。我希望这是我们最后一次和媒体讲话，请大家给我们一个机会。”
梁智强声音越讲越小，连最前排的人都听不清楚他说什么，许多记者只好站起来侧耳倾听。
记者发现，他从头到尾没有说过“对不起”这3个字，也没有提到对嫩草、家人和社会大众的歉意。似乎不甘心开口道歉。
原本媒体期待他会鞠躬道歉，但他全程一直坐着。
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阳大侠注： 梁志强太可爱了嘛，这事前后可以载入厚黑学的经典案例。阳某一笑绝无半点轻浮，只是觉得，这么精彩的故事，看他自己再怎么导演下去。学习嘛~
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:06
舆论风向不同滴报道：
婚外情记者会：梁智强道歉认错 梁太几乎昏倒
(2010-03-11)
本地导演梁智强今早（3月11日）10点在太太陪同下，召开记者会，针对婚外情正式面对媒体。
在记者会上，梁智强道歉认错，表示事件是他一个人的错，与其他人无关。他也对太太表示感激，并郑重向社会大众道歉，希望媒体不要再追问此事。
梁太太也泣不成声，表示自己不是艺人，不懂得面对媒体。她说，很爱自己的丈夫、家庭和婚姻。她希望大家能够祝福和支持他们的家庭。
两人都说，这是最后一次对媒体说明此事，以后不会再有任何回应。记者会历时约3分钟。
梁太太在离场时，出现体力不支站不稳、几乎昏倒的情况。她在梁智强和李国煌等人的搀扶下离开现场。
（编辑：Ruru 联合早报网）
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:07
梁智强婚外情风波：安顿太太孩子后 将一次过说清楚
● 李亦筠 报道
本地知名导演梁智强（50岁）婚外情曝光后，一直避开媒体，不过梁太太康美凤（46岁）昨午接受本报访问时说：“我们都没事，孩子也很好。”她也说，孩子们明天将照常上课，她说：“这是大人的事，孩子们的生活还是要继续。”
至于为什么选择原谅丈夫，她不愿多谈，只表明目前大家需要沉淀心情，她说：“谢谢大家的关心，过阵子再约你出来喝茶。”
康美凤也透露，事件曝光后，他们一家暂时不住在家里，她说：“只有女佣一个人在家。”至于一家人是暂住酒店，还是亲友家，她则不肯透露。
梁智强一直不露面，记者昨天再到梁家位于白沙的三层楼半独立洋房碰“运气”，只见大门依旧深锁，厚重的窗帘还是拉上，黑色马赛地停在门外。梁太太虽不在家，但体谅记者们为工作得忍受烈日曝晒，她还透过手机对记者说：“天气太热，我请女佣拿水给你们喝。”
昨天守候的媒体已没有前晚多，不过梁家的邻居显然还是觉得受到干扰，还打电话召来交通警察。
梁智强的经理人邓咏徽受访时很肯定透露，梁智强一定会出来讲话。
邓咏徽很坦白的说，他与梁智强商量过了，等到事情告一段落后，梁智强将一次过出来对媒体说清楚。他说：“他现在需要安顿太太和孩子。”他也透露梁智强昨天并没有出席城市丰收教会的礼拜。
梁智强婚外情事件刚好发生在新电影《做人》正式上映的第二天，圈内不禁怀疑是不是造假炒新闻，连发行《做人》的嘉华（GV）院线的洋老板也问自己的宣传人员，是不是宣传伎俩。邓咏徽认为应交由公众去判断。
本报记者昨天多次尝试联络梁智强的婚外情对象钟佳燕，但对方不接电话也不回短讯。
钟佳燕毕业自理工学院，是2008年“新加坡地球小姐”的大决赛佳丽之一。她是客串梁智强的《钱不够用2》一个护士小角色后，与梁智强发展出两年地下情。她上周五闹上梁智强家，过后与梁智强夫妇到樟宜机场第三搭客大厦皇冠假日酒店一餐馆，“谈判”了4个半小时。
杨荣文呼吁给予梁智强家人支持
梁智强的婚外情曝光后，圈内外一阵哗然，杨荣文部长也在博客撰文，他说事件曝光前，梁智强已亲自拨电告诉他事情的来龙去脉。他说当时梁太太在身边，他也要求与梁太太通电话，给予梁家精神上的支持。杨荣文希望人们在这个困难时期给予梁智强和他的家人支持，让他们顺利渡过这个难关，圆满解决问题。
杨荣文是在今年初和梁智强开设Blogkakis网站，并邀请白薇秀、郭明忠、Tracy Phillips和新大毕业生Vincent Ha一起写博客。一群博友常相约聚餐。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:08
本地导演梁智强婚外情爆出第2号女郎
22岁女模钟佳燕自爆与梁智强搞婚外情后，晚报追踪到梁家班有一辣女郎，曾遭受梁智强“性骚扰”，梁还约她上酒店开房！
她是芳龄25岁的乐轩，长得性感漂亮，她爆出梁智强以要一手捧她当“第2个范文芳”，对她作出性骚扰，并在她签约成为梁家班成员后，约她上酒店去开房，但她没有赴约。
乐轩透露，梁智强告诉她，已经在某酒店订了房间，就是要等她来，好让彼此能“安静而私密”地好好“相处”。
乐轩04年因参加智强节目《Jurong Point西游记》夺得主持人冠军荣衔，同年9月加入梁家班，成为梁家军。
她也曾参加古天乐、陈奕迅电影《豪情》在本地的“辣妹”甄选活动，赢得“辣妹冠军”！
乐轩直言：“梁智强跟我说很多甜言蜜语，表现的就像我‘男友’。”（档案照片）
乐轩参演过不少新传媒电视剧，也是本地鬼魅电影《灵问》的女主角，新作是电影《福星到》。
乐轩指出，在签约梁家班期间，她与梁智强、李国煌、辉哥程旭辉等一起参与综艺节目《欢乐颠峰》主持。
乐轩04年与梁家班签约3年，期间，梁智强对她开了很多“空头支票”，但无一兑现。
因不堪精神骚扰，不想与有妇之夫有任何纠葛，她尽量与梁智强疏远。
她也发现自从与梁智强努力保持距离后，分派到的工作越来越少，毫无作为，3年合约期满，她提前至1年9个月就与梁家班结束宾主关系。
乐轩表示，梁智强确实是个充满才华的导演，他的努力已被很多人认同，但他有必要自我检讨，对太太、对孩子负责，不要再胡搞婚外情。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:09
乐轩直言：“梁智强跟我说很多甜言蜜语，表现的就像我‘男友’。”（档案照片）
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:11
梁智强 梁智强，新加坡著名导演，演员，综艺节目主持人。
梁智强的制作公司，J Team Productions Pte Ltd, 是第一间和新传媒签下合约制作综艺节目的外制作公司。从1990年到现在，梁智强在新加坡综艺节目方面成功地制造了无数的神话。他与众不同的主持方式，让他在新加坡综艺节目里脱颖而出。 新加坡电视史上最长寿的综艺节目“搞笑行动”就是他最全情投入，最具个人风格的代表性作品。
在“搞笑行动”这个节目里，他的主要工作除了主持和演出之外，他也负责创作和设计大部分的爆笑内容，把这个节目推向全国最高收视率的宝座。 J Team 之后也为新传媒制作了“我是创新王”和“欢乐巅峰”等等的收视冠军节目。梁智强也是新传媒筹款节目每年指定的节目主持人。
梁智强在新加坡电影方面的贡献和成就是非同凡响的。从新加坡开国以来最卖座的电影“钱不够用”到近期的“小孩不笨2”。每一部电影都深受国人的喜爱。电影“小孩不笨”还成为了中国小学生的教材之一！电影“跑吧孩子！”也夺得了六个国际电影大奖。
可见梁智强对电影的贡献是功不可没的。我国前总理吴作栋先生还在国庆献词里表扬了梁智强对社会的贡献。 梁智强在2004年，获得了总统分发的“总统勋章”，也是第一位获得“总统勋章”的新加坡艺人。2005年更荣获电影“文化奖”，是被受国家肯定的文化奖项之一。
梁智强的神话
电视:
脱口秀
搞笑新闻
梁婆婆短剧
Office Politics
School Politics
神经一法
梁细妹短剧
欢乐巅峰（目前步入第八系列）
我是创新王 （红星大奖2004荣获“最佳综艺节目”）
跑吧艺人
电影: (导演/故事人)
1999 – 那个不够
2002 – 小孩不笨 (电影票房：S$3.8 million)
2003 – 跑吧孩子！
2004 – 突然发财
2005 – 爱都爱都
2005－三个好人
2006－小孩不笨2
2009—吓到笑
(故事人):
1998 – 钱不够用 (电影票房: S$5.8 million)
1998 – 梁婆婆重出江湖
(演出)
1990 – 大小老千 (Hong Kong)
1991 – 杂牌军 (Taiwan)
1996 - 12 楼 (Singapore)
1997 – 钱不够用 (Singapore)
1998 - 梁婆婆重出江湖 (Singapore)
1999 – 那个不够 (Singapore)
1999 – 魔镜 (Hong Kong)
1999 – 相约2000年 (Hong Kong)
2001 – 一脚踢 (Singapore)
2002 – 小孩不笨 (Singapore)
2003 – 跑吧孩子！(Singapore)
2005 – 爱都爱都 (Singapore)
2005 – 三个好人 (Singapore)
2006 – 小孩不笨2 (Singapore)
舞台:
棺材太大洞太小
单日不可停车
专辑:
17张唱片
5张录象光碟
漫画:
乌龙回营记 （三本）
电影 “魔镜” 漫画版本
电影 “小孩不笨” 漫画版本
电影 “小孩不笨2” 漫画版本
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:13
新加坡著名导演梁智强搞外遇，今年50岁的梁智强背著46岁的妻子，搞上22岁的女模特儿，两人的地下恋情已长达两年。
女模钟佳燕过后受访时说，她与梁智强是在两年前，因拍戏结识而发展地下情。她透露两人在近一年来多次关系闹僵，她昨天终于忍不住内心的积怨，决定向梁太太公开两人的关系。他们3人在下午5时抵达酒店餐厅，女模途中通知父亲和姐姐，在6时左右赶到。而梁智强也通知教友、牧师和经理人前去帮忙，他在谈判过程中，整个人显得非常沮丧。男女双方总共8个人，在餐厅内谈了两个半小时才分别离开。
担心孩子知道，梁太驾车外出谈判，女模闹上门时大声嚷嚷，梁太太担心孩子知道，毅然开车载丈夫和女模去酒店餐厅谈判。“当时我的孩子和女佣都在家，我不能让她在那里乱喊乱叫。我叫她冷静下来，大家可以慢慢谈，她才静下来，所以我决定开车载他们到餐厅谈。”梁太太说，钟佳燕到了餐厅也是很大声说话，她怕会出事，所以打电话要求牧师和教友前来帮忙。“万一发生什么事，也有个证人”。
梁智强：我的错，忘年恋曝光后，梁智强认错、道歉、求原谅！
钟佳燕告诉父亲，梁智强前天晚上才说爱她，昨午却骗她，她也说不清楚自己到底要什么。后来，记者多次追问，她想清楚后说：“其实，也不可能有什么结果，因为我不可能跟他在一起，我只是希望大家知道，他可以一下说爱我，一下又骗我。”
妻子早已原谅，梁智强的妻子说，她早就原谅了丈夫！梁太1年前已知情“感情的事，一个巴掌拍不响，我的丈夫有错在先，我怎么还能报警赶她走？”梁太太说，娱乐圈五光十色，诱惑太多，丈夫又是导演，她已见惯不怪。“我不管智强和谁搞在一起，重要的是，我爱他，所以，我已经原谅了他。”她说，两人结婚已27年，他们的家庭将不会受这次事件影响，她只是担心丈夫接下来会很辛苦，因为要面对舆论压力。
钟父原本以为，是自己的女儿倒贴梁智强，著急地问梁智强：“我女儿是不是为了往上爬才跟你在一起？”梁智强马上说不是，他说两人一开始就冲昏了头。
22岁女模钟佳燕自爆与梁智强搞婚外情后，晚报追踪到梁家班有一辣女郎，曾遭受梁智强“性骚扰”，梁还约她上酒店开房！她是芳龄25岁的乐轩，长得性感漂亮，她爆出梁智强以要一手捧她当“第2个范文芳”，对她作出性骚扰，并在她签约成为梁家班成员后，约她上酒店去开房，但她没有赴约。 因不堪精神骚扰，不想与有妇之夫有任何纠葛，她尽量与梁智强疏远。 她也发现自从与梁智强努力保持距离后，分派到的工作越来越少，毫无作为，3年合约期满，她提前至1年9个月就与梁家班结束宾主关系。
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作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:16
梁導偷情風暴‧梁智強：我錯了 2010-03-11 13:10
（新加坡）新加坡著名導演梁智強“偷吃”風暴延燒數天之後，梁智強今日（週四，3月11日）首次面對媒體，他在太太康美鳳以及梁家班成員陪同下，正式向外界承認，他是整個事件的始作俑者：“完全是我的錯，跟任何人都沒有關系！”
在這場全程只有4分鐘，且是完全不設問答環節。會上，先由梁智強發言，他說：“過去日子所發生的事故，整個事件都是因我而引起，完全是我的錯！跟任何人都沒有關系！
“今日我覺得很幸運的，是我老婆已原諒了我！”語畢，梁智強開始痛哭，並暫時終止談話數秒鐘。
接著，他語帶哽咽地說：“我老婆忍受很多人都沒有辦法忍受的情況！她告訴我，她會勇敢的面對媒體！”
在這番簡短的講話後，梁智強把發言權交給了太太。可是，康美鳳在發表講話不及1分鐘，因觸及傷心處而一時情緒崩潰哽咽痛哭，新聞發佈會也即宣告結束。
梁智強夫婦倆週四在梁的愛徒李國煌開車載送下，一起到位於新加坡泰成區工業區內、發行梁智強電影的東方天蝎公司的總部召開新聞發佈會
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:20
我们的新加坡电影大腕，我看好你：
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:21
敬爱的梁导blog:
02 02nd, 2010
50岁了！
Author: jackneo
不知不觉，已经50岁了。
一直不想公布，哈哈哈，还是很多人知道。
老同学一定知道，老朋友也一定知道。
稍微有一些安慰的是，看到我的人还经常说。。。
看不出来啊。
哈哈哈
就算是骗话，听了还是很有说服力
人就是这样贱
喜欢听假话，因为假话很顺耳
真话很伤人，不是每个人都承担得起真话的
50岁了
是不是应该还活在假话的世界里。。。
很多爱美的人，老了，皮皱了。。。
拉皮打针，就是为了要听到一句话。
A。。。你这么大年纪啦，一点都看不出你老了。
你看那谢霆锋的老爸，快80了，还是一副年轻小伙子的样子。
除了眼皮怎么补救都不行，其他可以遮可以盖的
一一不放过
所以必须依赖太阳眼镜
梁智强
不要老是说人家
也许有一天，你也一样，甚至更糟。。。
哈哈哈。。。
50岁了
还有很多不懂的
回头看
真的一切已经走远了
50岁，最重要的是要往前看
千万不要放弃
哪怕有什么事情发生。。。
千万要提醒自己
路还是要继续的走。。。
最重要的是
家人还在一边支持着。。。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:23
梁导这张照片似乎有“劈腿”嫌疑
：
在雪中独照一张
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:25
再来两张梁导玉照：
雪漫漫地飘落，掠过你的脸上，给你一个个凉飕飕的亲吻，
感觉很浪漫；这和淋雨是截然不同的，雨只会让人感觉到沮丧。
寒冬的感觉是很难用言语表达的，不过这种湿湿冷冷的空气，让人难免满怀诗意，
心头有股怀念过往的暖流滑过，这些真的要亲身体验才能有这种鸡皮疙瘩般的感受。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-11 22:30
阳大侠叹曰： 新加坡弹丸之地，文化沙漠。幸而有个梁志强，脑筋灵活又把国人的娱乐当成己任，这很难得，他也的确拍出了一些带给大家欢乐的电影。别管怎么说，没有梁志强的电影，新加坡的娱乐界是不完整的。
现在，他老人家出事了。我得给他喊一嗓子打打气：JJ掉了碗大的疤，怕啥滴？你老兄有胆有智，更有出奇制胜之出神入化，而今三两下就已安住局面，大势搞掂，主动权还是在你手上，接下来如何别开生面，千万不要辜负一干热心观众哦！
作者: 东海岸 时间: 2010-3-12 15:23
嘿嘿，“吸吸这里，擦擦那里，简单极了！”
作者: 东海岸 时间: 2010-3-12 15:28
Jack Neo 是不是在炒作新戏阿？ 他给太太 情人 自己设计的角色和台词都很成功啊……
严重怀疑，是江湖八卦耍了梁志强，还是梁志强耍了江湖八卦
作者: 心情好 时间: 2010-3-13 05:32
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三菱电机向新加坡名人梁智强说“不”：撤下其广告10/03/2010 10:55:00
新明日报截图
综合讯，新加坡演员兼导演梁智强绯闻案爆发后，新加坡各界没有对梁智强采取任何行动，相反却出现大量的要原谅梁智强的呼声，电影院照常播放其电影，甚至还有报纸访问了一百人就公布所谓的“民调”指七成人原谅梁智强。
新加坡一些机构尤其是媒体偏袒梁智强的同时，日资三菱电机却站出来说：“不”。
三菱电机亚洲公司曾在两年前和梁智强签约，在电视台和出租汽车上播放和展示梁智强的广告，现在，三菱电机宣布，结束和梁智强的合作关系。
这项宣布是在媒体披露梁智强和一名现年22岁的嫩模钟佳燕保持两年的婚外情之后。
三菱电机发言人昨天告诉海峡时报：“公司正在撤除所有的使用梁智强形象的广告。”
梁智强在两年前拍摄了三菱电机的电视广告，广告在本地的电视台和出租汽车播映了两年。
三菱发言人强调，公司也不会和梁智强的梁家班续约。
但是，新加坡本地一家女佣和外劳仲介公司Jack Focus Helpers目前还在公司于全岛三个服务部门口大门，使用梁智强的广告形象。
该仲介公司员工承认梁智强是公司的代言人，但没有表示是否终止梁智强代言人的资格。
另外两家以梁智强为形象广告的公司，包括美珍香则拒绝置评，海峡时报说。
一家原本和梁智强电影合作的发型公司则表示继续和梁智强合作。
梁智强绯闻案是在其情人、22岁的钟佳燕在上星期六前往梁家后被公诸于世。事件迅速成为报纸的头条。
但是，新加坡有政要和媒体则呼吁人们给梁智强及其家人以支持，虽然梁尚未正式面对媒体向公众道歉。这引发了公众的不满。
联合早报网一位网友写道：“梁智强明明自己有老婆，却要去玩弄一个才涉世不久的年轻女孩，无论如何，受害的是女孩子才对。当然他太太也是受害者。可是舆论界却一边倒的述说女孩子的不对。对于梁智强，却用‘犯了天下男人所犯的错’来原谅他。难道年轻女孩子不也是犯了‘天下女孩子都容易犯的错’吗？”
曾经是梁家班职员的艺人乐轩因为不满媒体偏袒梁智强，而向媒体揭发了梁智强当年对她提出非分要求的事。
乐轩在接受报章访问时说：“我要人们知道，梁智强是个系列骗子（serial cheater）。”
“很多记者现在偏袒梁智强和他家人。他说他依然爱他的家人，公众怜悯他的妻子，却指责钟佳燕。这对梁智强不会有什么影响，但女孩们会继续被梁智强诱骗。”
而昨天的联合早报的报道引述乐轩说，自己当初年纪小怕事，不敢得罪人，因此没站出来说话。现在看到钟佳燕的告白，乐轩相信钟佳燕所说属实，也认为梁智强应该被揭穿。
回想以前在梁家班的时候，乐轩就碰过几名客串过梁智强电影的模特儿问她，是否有收到梁智强“miss you”的手机简讯。
载于http://www.nanyangpost.com/news/singapore/3804.html
作者: 心情好 时间: 2010-3-13 05:39
三菱电机向新加坡名人梁智强说“不”：撤下其广告10/03/2010 10:55:00
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综合讯，新加坡演员兼导演梁智强绯 ...
心情好 发表于 2010-3-13 05:32 
这篇报道有趣，可能不在两支枪的势力范围内，说得也算公道。
作者: 心情好 时间: 2010-3-13 05:52
家事有时也需清官理
（2010-03-12）
社论 2010年3月12日
在任何正常的社会，家庭都是最基本也是最重要的组成单位。儒家强调的社会秩序，正是从个人到家庭不断向外扩展的道德过程。按照这个逻辑，国治天下平的基础必须建立在身修家齐之上。换句话说，一旦家庭失去了养老抚幼的功能，受影响的不光只是家庭成员，如果不健全家庭（dysfunctional family）数量增多，也可能波及社会的稳定。
国会拨款委员会在辩论社会发展、青年及体育部的开支预算时，一些家庭面对老无所养、寡无所依等问题成为了关注焦点，从社青体部部长维文回答议员的结果观察，政府似乎要更积极主动地插手不健全家庭的家务事，保护受害家庭成员的权利。
政府计划修改《妇女宪章》，进一步保护离婚妇女，法庭将被授权向拖欠赡养费的配偶采取行动，包括从他们的银行户头预拨存款支付后续的赡养费；再婚者也必须申报自己是否拖欠前一段婚姻配偶的赡养费。同时，拖欠赡养费者将面临更严峻的法律后果，包括罚款、坐牢、劳改等等。
此外，向离异配偶追讨赡养费的机制，也可能适用于让父母向不孝子女追讨赡养费。维文表示，欢迎理念相同的议员集体提案，修改赡养父母法令，让他们也可以依法向子女领取应有的生活费。
除了离婚妇女及年长父母，另一类需要公权力介入的弱势群体是缺乏经济来源、体弱多病、子女收入低的独居老人。为了减轻他们的生活负担，公共援助金的申请条件将在7月放宽；他们也能因此免费到综合诊疗所及重组医院看病。父母失踪，靠退休又年迈贫困祖父母照顾的儿童，在条件放宽后也将获得教育补助。
出于保障公民权利的考虑，现代文明国家对于公权力的界线有明确的定义，无论从法律面、制度面，甚至日常观念，什么属于公领域，什么属于私领域，基本上有明确的共识；当然，两者并非全无交集，如何处理好其中的平衡，必须靠社会成员的集体思辨，比如在解决离婚赡养费及子女供养父母等个案时，应努力寻求化解公私领域冲突的具体办法。
亲密的夫妻关系以及家庭关系，原则上应该属于被尊重的私领域，西谚有家即城堡，国王人马不得进入之说，中国古代也有“清官难断家务事”的结论，但是公权力也并非全然没有介入的正当理由，当发生类似家暴事件时，身为公民的无助受害者完全有受到国家保护的权利。
身为一个现代公民，国人有受到国家保护和照顾的权利，当家庭失常之际，无论是妇女、老人家或儿童，身为受害者的当事人也须要学习如何运用既有的法律和机制来争取应有的权利。同样地，对自己的家庭身份及行为负责，保护和照顾好自己及家庭成员，也应当是公民的义务。从高处看，通过处理好家庭这个私领域，避免它成为公领域的社会问题，借此保证公权力维持其应有的位置，也是一个现代公民该有的责任意识。
有意思！俺后知后觉，也谈点看法：
这篇社论写得好，四平八稳的全是废话，说了和没说基本没两样。替早报表个立场勉强可以，真正对问题的研究，毫无帮助。无非是强调运用法律武器帮助“弱势群体”，这个就算不说，真正用得到的也会拼命用这招，但要是一再推广到日常生活中，那是负面暗示，降低国人的幸福指数。
好奇真正对人们的婚姻困境有帮助的热心人和好主意还有没有，建议哲理网站展开讨论。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-13 20:31
关注敬爱滴梁导，JACK NEO博客最新哦
03 12th, 2010
告白Author: jackneo
我对我所做的一切感到非常抱歉。
我有一个好太太和幸福的家庭，但我却没有好好珍惜，搞到今天这个下场。
我的背叛，深深伤害了老婆也深深伤害了孩子的心，我非常的抱歉惭愧和难过，最令我感动的是，老婆在她最痛的时候，仍然咬紧牙根，选择了原谅我，我很感恩她的宽容和爱，因为她的不离不弃，让我保住了我们家的完整。
至于我的父母和兄弟姐妹，还有一路来信任我的亲戚朋友老同学和风雨不改支持我的影迷粉丝，了解他们对我的失望之后，我真的感到无地自容。我辜负了大家，咎由自取。
婚外情是家事，很多人也告诉我，只要老婆家人原谅就足够了，其他一概不必理会。但是想想，过去二十几年来，你们跟着我的电视和电影作品一起成长，如此的熟悉我关心我，对我毫无保留的信任和支持，我怎能把你们也当外人呢？所以能获得你们的原谅也是我的愿望。
有一句话说:「人种的是什么，收的也是什么。」以前经常用这句话来当台词强化情节，没想到这次竟然应验在自己的身上，“人在做，天在看”， 千万不要不相信报应，也千万不要以为躲在黑暗的地方做坏事“天”就看不到，我的下场足以证明。
这件事对我来说，是一个非常痛苦但也是非常珍贵的醒悟。让我牢牢记住，好好珍惜太太和家人的重要，因为他们是你人生中最宝贵的宝藏。
美凤和我会一起继续努力，经营成功和美满的婚姻，我也会更加小心自己的言行举止和对待所有女生的方式，避免引起误会，也要对老婆更加的忠心，一切以家庭为主。
我犯的错已经回不了头，我是一个凡人，会犯错，虽然我在第一时间已经承认了我的过错，但是对于关心我的人，我还是要在一次的祈求你们的原谅，给我一次重生的机会。
虽然老婆孩子已经原谅了我，但是，这段关系还是需要一些时间医治，我也要特别感谢在这期间，爱我鼓励我和支持我的朋友们。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-13 20:33
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63 Responses to “告白”
ss Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:32 pm
Trasure your Loved Ones before they are gone
珊瑚海 Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:34 pm
”人不可貌相“这一句话非常适合梁导你了，样貌老实的人原来也会搞婚外情，真令人大跌眼镜。”家庭“在你的心理到底是什么定义？如果当初在你即将要背叛之时，想想你所谓的“家庭”，今时你就不会连续上了三天的头条新闻，其实你已经没有资格说家庭了，因为你选择外遇的开始，一次不忠，百次不容。
gemineve Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:40 pm
既然要开记者会，为什么不把一切一次过交代清楚？
这不仅是个大众一个交待，给其他男人的一个警惕，也是给你妻子一个公开性及表现诚恳的认错方式。
这样草率的记者会，留下的是更多的疑问及猜测。
我看过你和家人一同享用晚餐，同吃一道菜肴的温馨样，你舍得因为贪念而破坏全家人的幸福？？
想想吧！
镇辉 Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:43 pm
经过这次的教训，希望梁导你要好好的珍惜你的家庭。
我祝福梁导与梁太可以长长久久。
身为影迷的我，也不希望梁导你有下次。
也希望你们两可以振作起来，继续带给我们更多的电影。
steven Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:47 pm
梁导啊，您满脑子惦记的是你家你家的人。
被你伤害的那些人呢？难道没有一点愧意。
你道德败坏为社会做了坏的示范。 难道不该道歉？？？
水平好低！
shiva Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
希望你经过这件事情后可以得到教训,我还是会很支持你的电影。
毕竟对我来说，你的私事和你的所执导的电影完全扯不上边。
不过我想你自己应该也有心理准备，不是每个观众或听众都可以接受一个“这样的你”。
很高兴看到你能醒悟；也很欣赏你在做错后可以勇敢承担。
人非圣贤，孰能无过？
其实你和普通人没两样，只是你是公众人物，所以你做错后所要承担的后果也是“公众”的。
其实想想，每天在我们身边都有好几个case跟你一样…只是因为不被认识，或者是没有知名度，所以很自然而然就被其他人所淡忘。
你是个好导演，希望你也可以是个好男人，好男人其实不难做，从现在开始你除了挑战拍电影，我想怎么做个好男人对你来说应该也会是个不错的挑战。
你懂得在你的电影里放进“家后”这首歌曲，我想这首歌背后的意义你比我更能感同身受吧？
祝福你。
Yanying Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:54 pm
Please bear in mind that your family has gone through an extremely tough time because of your foolishness. Be grateful that you have gotten their forgiveness, most importantly their unfailing love for you especially Irene. You need to do all you can and all you have to love her and protect her.My prayer for you and your family is God’s abundant Grace and Strength be upon you and your family.
Jasmine Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:58 pm
hey, I watch ur show since young,love ur show. I got no right to comment on anything coz it ur family problem. but hopefully you will treasure your family more, and hope your relationship will last forever. Now is to show your wife how u will change and rebuilt the trust between both of you. also have to rebuilt your father image to your children. Jia you. Time will heal and will prove your sincerity to everyone. I heard a saying, once a person get famous or rich they will take things for granted, will neglect most important person who support him/her. so bu yao wang ben.
Joon Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 5:59 pm
Dear Jack,
I know this is your personal matter that needs to be sorted out within your family. Glad that you have wife who loves you so much. Glad that you have turned around and to carry on with life in the positive light.
I will always support you. No person is perfect and you are not alone in this episode too. Just want you to know that there are many people out there is supporting you. I am not supporting what the wrong you have done, I am only supporting you for the fact that you have learnt to treasure your family more than ever and decide to turn over a new leaf. Everyone should be given a chance, including you too!
May God bless you and family!
JinJie Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 6:00 pm
You show a bad example to the media ,as a diector / producer. yo expect the girls to have sex w you.
You think that “hole” can be plug by saying sorry?
Do yu even think what will happen to the girl future, who can she married?
What will other guys think abt her.
If one of the girls is your daughter, which sleep w other director/producer, how do you feel?
You disgrace us Singaporean/media/as a father.
同情心 Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 11:03 pm
粱导啊，我儿子是初院学生，下午一回来就上网看你昨天的记者会视频，
他说这是这几天学校同学关心的重大新闻。我联想到你的孩子，他们实在可怜，被同学指指点点，饱受异样眼光。
我很为你的孩子难过，孩子受到的伤害不比你老婆少啊。这种伤害是刻骨铭心的，这阶段还是不要让他们去学校吧。
Shan Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 11:16 pm
Hi, Jack. As this is your family problem, is not suitable for outsiders to comment. Just would like to share a story with u. I’ve went through the same problem before as your wife having now. My husband seek for my forgiveness, and I agreed to give him one last chance, but not because of kids, because we still don’t have any, is because I do really love him, but the process is not easy…. Fortunately, we’ve went through that period.
So I hope that u’ll understand, it’s really not easy for Irene to accept and face the fact. Hope u’ll treasure her more than before.
Jasmine Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 11:16 pm
I hope that you really mean what you say. But to be honest, you should have explained everything at the press conference yesterday and not only blog about it now.
If you haven’t done it in the first place, all this wouldn’t have happened. It’s karma.
candy Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 11:24 pm
“I love u” takes seconds to say, hours to explain and a long lifetime to prove.
Irene need more time to cure her broken heart.
U need more effort to rebuilt your wife’s and your children trustworthy.
As your fan, I just can hope everything will be back to normal and wait for your new movies.
Gambateh! “family comes first before others”
yanni Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 11:40 pm
The girls are other people’s daughters too..not equipment for you… 16, 19, 20. blar…. how young do you want? think of your daughters…
客里思天 Says:
March 12th, 2010 at 11:59 pm
SOMETHING ONLY LOVE CAN DO (Jacky Cheung)
When you’re lost and the light is fading
The wind blows cold and
you can’t find your way back home… See more
Remember that the darkest hour is
just before the dawn
Sometimes a leap of faith is all it takes
Chorus
Cause only love can see the path to set you free
Just close your eyes, look inside
and let your heart believe
There’s been a force so strong
beside you all alone
You’ll know it when your dream comes true
There’s something only love can do
In your quest for a new horizon
Set your course find a star to light your way
Although the task may seen
sometimes to be more than you can bear
One thing you need to know you are not alone
Chorus
If you believe in miracles
then you can be the one
To shine you light and show the world
There’s nothing love can’t overcome
Chorus
There’s something only love can do
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-13 20:33
wilson Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 12:00 am
You disappoint yr 1st wife,now u disappoint yr 2nd wife,u destroy all the hardwork u have build all these years.it’s over.
Jocelyn Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 12:02 am
The past few days of reports of your ‘affairs’, made me realized about the common comments that most Singaporeans have! Bloggers who visit Jack Neo’s blog, please read the following-
Who are we to comment on his behaviour, his affairs, let alone how he handle the problem? Are we that perfect as humans? No, OF COURSE WE ARE NOT! Everyone made mistake. I do not believed that no one made mistake! Who are we to judge what kind of person Jack is? Are we that perfect as a ‘God’ to make that judgement? I urge everyone here to think and look at one’s own self before we judge or comment on another. Who gives us the right to condemn him? Has anyone put aside his personal affairs and just judge on his work performance? NO. During these period of time, all I heard from the reports are people condemning him, some even say they will not support his movies etc… Don’t all of you think it’s ridiculous? Is it fair to him as a person? When he produce good movies and even won an award, does the media or public stirred a big fuss? But when he make a mistake, the whole of Singapore started to condemn him to death sentence. Has anyone think how it feels when you will be in that situation? Of course not!!! I strongly urge fans to look out of the box and not just targeting his personal problems!
Secondly; Who are we to comment on the actions of his wife? It is very easy for many women to say that they will divorce the husband if he is having an affairs. But when you are put in that situation, you may think twice!!! Who are we to comments on their relationship when we, ourselves are not good in handling relationships.
Thirdly; For those women who claimed to be involved, this is the only comment I had for all of you- It takes 2 hands to clap!If you do not be tempted, why should he even have a chance? Blame on yourself! In evey action, there is always consequences to bear. It is reported that some of you wanna get fame but please, don’t cheapen urself and give yourself some respect and dignity as a woman!
Lastly, we should always remember good things that the person does and don’t condemn a person because of a mistake. And do not judge others when we are not perfect ourself.
sin ai Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 12:03 am
“求祢将我的罪孽洗除诤尽。并洁除我的罪！因为我知道我的过犯，我的罪常在我面前。我向祢犯罪，唯独得罪了你，在祢眼前行了这恶，以致祢责备我的时候显为公义；判断我的时候显为清正。” 诗篇51：2-4
梁导..只要知错能改，上帝的慈爱永远长存！
Eric Lai Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 12:10 am
加油！！！我会支持你的。。。
人谁无过？？男人经常都是用下半身思考的。。。
以后真的不要再犯错就可以了。。。
我们人往往在做错事后才学会珍惜。。。
我知道你已明白这道理了。。
所以真的要好好珍惜你太太，孩子，和家人咯。。。。
加油！！！！。。。。。
Jen Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:54 am
God’s love is wasted on people like you
Tan ah teck Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:00 am
Hi jack I sarpok u, that girl so ugly good that u dump her , she’s the one gana owned ha ha
Lynn Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:06 am
Just put yourself in those women’s shoes. If a 50 year old do this to your daughter how will you feel? Is an apology really enough? goodness gracious me!
Angels Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:06 am
I feel sad when I saw what has happened to Jack’s family.
I hope that all the unhappiness will be over soon and Jack’s family will
grow even stronger after this.
Jack, you have a good family and I’m sure you will treasure your family even more from now on.
Cheer up and be strong!
Sincere best wishes
Jack Wood Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:26 am
So how’s your feeling now, feel bad right?, i think it will be over for you in a few months time, please bear it and everything will be back to normal as what you did.
Jeffrey Sin Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:27 am
Jocelyn, I agree with what you had said. We are in no position to comment on others… and I believe we should be giving the guy a room to breath, another chance. If you had made a mistake, would you also wish that others will forgive you?
Frankly speaking, Jack’s movies had inspired many of us. I love his movie “三個好人”. I was in prison since teenage, and had not learn my ways. in my mid 20s, I had wanted to change, but had not bee accepted by the society and people around me, couldn’t get a job and such, and so I kept going back to prison within 3 months of my release. That was just pure weak in my part and being unable to take the pressure of can’t get a job, I turn back to crime.
But his movie… “三個好人”, had inspired me, and what Mark Lee had portrayed inside, that’s me. Being inspired, I hanged on, and I can proudly say that I am free from prison for 5 years now, and am still with the company for almost 2 years now.
I am not here to tell you on my stories, as it will either be like a movie, or it will bore you guys to sleep. My point here is… How many of Jack Neo’s movies had inspire us in our everyday life? We all have days when we had been down in our life. But his movies and gag’s had always done it’s part and make us smile, laugh, and even inspire us to move on. Why didn’t we give the man the credit for what he had done TO OUR LIFE, and yet keep on complaining on what he DID NOT DO ON OUR LIFE?
Finally, this is the guy’s private affairs. So let him go settle this himself, and move on.
Here’s to Jack:
Jack, thank you for the movies which inspired us in our life, and the laughters which you had brought to us in your gigs. I owe what I have to you here. If not for your movies, I believe there would be that much laughter in my life. Please go settle your matters, and come back with more better, funnier and life inspiring movies for us ok? Cheers and God bless.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-13 20:34
ladytulip Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:38 am
你说以后你对别的女孩会特别小心以免引起误会？这么说，以前你对那些女生性骚扰也是个误会？是人家自己一厢情愿？？？看来你更本就没悔改！！！还不敢认错！这件事情从头到尾，你都没处理得像个真正的男人，还是去做回你的梁细妹吧！
NotPerfect Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:39 am
I agree with what Jocelyn wrote (comment 18). I had never judge u as only God can judge us. Yes, what happened is morally wrong, but there are thousands of such behaviours happening out there, even in the midst of the current saga. Lots of people comment of what Jack had done, blah blah blah… but I believe among these people, there will be people who had done the same wrong (even if it’s just a thought)! It’s always easy for you to point your finger at others, but were you just one of them who had done the same thing? I think everyone is making such a fuss just because he is a celebrity.
All these negative comments will not help them! Does everybody want to see the breaking up of another family?? So let us not judge Jack Neo and give him and his family some space to mend their relationship. His future behaviour shall show whether or not he has learnt his lesson and repent…
To Jack : Be brave and be strong, protect your family as will God protects His children. All the best!
YY Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:44 am
我觉得梁太所做的不只是宽容，而是纵容，明明知道您有图谋不轨却睁着眼闭着眼不揭发不劝阻，她也是导致事件恶化的帮凶，我知道这样讲好残酷，不过是事实。还有，拜托你不要在罪恶之后才想到主耶稣，您犯罪时耶稣遗弃您了?
Buddha Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:49 am
Or mi tor for
路人甲 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:52 am
人非圣贤， 谁能无过？
现在他又没有没有不认错，
大家又在那里嘀咕什么呢？
什么叫做交代？
在众人面前吊颈，
还是把偷情过程一字不漏的诉说出来，
又或者是搬演片段？
我的确觉得他的家人很无辜，
受伤害很大，
那既然他的家人也肯原谅他，
他也肯站在媒体的面前认错，
我们这些外人， 还想怎样？
唉。。。
Crayon shinchan Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:53 am
I 41 yrs old this yrs,no gf b4.
can teach me how to get a gf?
Thanks alot
crayon
Cy Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:02 am
On the contrary to what wilson says, I believe its only the beginning. Perhaps life’s not about whether or not we can successfully dodge each and every wrong move; because more than often we can’t… perhaps the real test in life really is what we do after we’ve stumbled…. And i think you’ve done well… really…
Others, perhaps you yourself might doubt and despise your initial motives of coming clean (because you can’t hide it anymore, because it’s the easiest way out, who knows?).. but even if we can’t initially be sure that we were 100% sincere in our appologies…maybe not now, but one day.. one day…. I believe 100% will come to you eventually, if it hasn’t already, because there’s no way you don’t love your family more than yourself; and there’s no way you don’t wish that you could bear the sin, pain and shame you’ve caused them alone without involving your loves one right this moment…..
don’t let guilt hinder you from becoming what you can be, even at times like these where ppl like choosing guilt, because it’s less painful than reality, and because we feel better if we punish ourselves…
No doubt ppl, even some who didnt deserve it got hurt, and some wounds might never really recover. But i believe, i truly believe its what happens next that determines whether these hurts were worth it or not.. Life’s cant possibly be just about preventing scars, because we are just not built to be able to do it properly. Rather real strength and living might just really be about where the scars brings us. And if we are sincere enough, perhaps here is where we find the Truth of Life, because total acknowledgement about our weaknesses and ugliness brings us closer to our core, and total submission essentially draws us closer to out Maker… And these: the things you and your family learn, that intimacy gained with the Father, despite the pain, might be the most important things a person can ever hope to have in life..
I guess what i’m trying to say is, even if the law might condemn you, you probaly already know that your Father and His grace doesn’t (though it might be easier on our so call “conscience” to wallow in condemnation). Don’t struggle, brother…Let go of this burden than others are trying so hard to place on you…even if you feel that it’s yours to carry..don’t focus on this self reliance to gain rigtheousness and acceptance that seems so unachievable….The moon doesn’t hide its inabilty to shine or its imperfect craters by struggling to do so, it shines naturally by facing the sun….
I know its easier said than done, and i wish you peace….Know that you and your family are in good Hands. I am proud of ppl like you..not because of your past, but because i beleive in your future..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JIv-gfrse84
- Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:25 am
Learn from your mistake, Don’t ever let your family down again…
Jon Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:42 am
我记得有个故事是这么说的：
一些宗教领袖把一个行淫时被捉的妇人带到耶稣和众人面前，然后对耶稣说这妇人是因行淫而被捉的。他们也说，按当时的宗教律法，那妇人应该被众人用石头打死。他们问耶稣有什么意见，以刁难他。耶稣就对他们说“你们中间谁是没有犯过错误的（罪），谁就可以先拿石头打她。”众人听见了，就慢慢的走开了。
其实我们这些旁人都不过是旁观者，或许我们不再能够尊重你，不过我们也没资格拿起石头打你。我衷心的为你和家人祷告，婚外情对家庭是一个残酷的伤害，但在主里，他总能够把我们过犯的后果转变成最大的祝福。愿你和太太在重建婚姻时，耐性的等候他。
凯蒂 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:51 am
I would like to share my experience with your wife – I went through similar experience. I have kids too. I forgave my husband after some struggling. The process was so torturing till i suffered from depression without knowing. Tell your wife BE STRONG. Contact me if she need someone who went through the process…..
看到你就觉得噁心。 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:52 am
珊瑚海说得对。人不可貌相海水不可斗量。看你表面为人端正，还常常通过电影说出我们的心声带给国人欢笑，没想到你在被后却是这么一种人跟外面的女人搞三搞四还跟wendy在车上做了房事。真噁心。
梁智强。看看你名字里的“智”。你根本就是失去理智了。你到底有没有诚意道歉的？为何要用你老婆当挡箭牌？你这么无耻请不要用上帝来掩盖你的下流无耻，不知悔改。你在记者会上根本就是没诚意。倘若你真的见到上帝，主耶稣一定把你打入地狱! 请不要再提到上帝了。
你已经失信了。国人不只不会在支持你的鬼电影，下一次看到你也会重新评价你的人格。。
好好反省，等你觉得你诚心诚意想悔改，想道歉，才跟国人，你太太，你儿女，你伤害的无数的人，向他们鞠躬忏悔 跪地求饶！
keykey Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:30 am
（美凤和我会一起继续努力，经营成功和美满的婚姻）
你们的婚姻不会在有成功和美满，因为它有了污点。。（全因为你犯了大多数男人都会犯的错）
有资格拥有成功和美满婚姻的人，是不因诱惑而犯错的。。（全因为你不懂得珍惜和心疼她和你建立的家庭）
给梁太太：
如果真的辛苦，就离开吧。。
（爱）
不一定需要拥有。。（女人啊醒了吧！如何面对一个你今生最爱他而他却背叛你的男人呢？）
这男人给你的伤害，你对这男人从心底发出的疙瘩。。
离开，或许对你和他都好。。（他对给你带来的伤害感到内疚。接下来的日子他是因为爱呢？还是补偿呢？只有他自己才懂）
（家庭）
永远属于你的。。没有任何一个人可以夺走（勉强，欺骗自己会过的很好。。只会更辛苦）
真的辛苦就离开吧。。每天需要面对着背叛你的人和他睡同一张床。。
犯错了，求原谅。。就被原谅
可是，求不回的是‘信任’。。
一段感情，除了‘爱’更多的是‘信任’
人以人之间的感情可以很坚固也可以很怯弱
Jen Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:30 am
Jack, what is past is past. My wishes for you is that your family will be able to find peace and harmony again. It is not going to be easy for you and your family to avoid the criticisms of the public. However, I hope that you will not give up… at all times,look towards the LORD JESUS for healing. Ultimately, it is your relationship with GOD that matters most. When your relationship with GOD is right , then you will have a guiding light on how you relate to mankind. I dont mean to sound preachy but I REALLY want to wish you and your family well because JESUS loves YOU. He will never give up on you no matter what sins you have committed. All he ask for is repentance and ACKNOWLEDGEMENT that he is your saviour!
008807 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:31 am
Wendy ask 30 times to break with her, but you refused to let her go because you have not got enough of her sex.
Do you know you have ruin Wendy’s life ?!? She is still so young, i do not know how she going to face her long years ahead her life.
Jack, You pls ask yourself, how many women you have ruin in your 50 years ?
Jack, you should be canned in the jail !!!
Seth Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:31 am
You have brought shame to the name of Christ…
Janet Nioh Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:32 am
hi, i m fr Penang. ” As far as the east is fr the west, so far has He removed our transgressions fr us”- Psalms 103:12.
There is no sin too great for God 2 forgive, except if u sin against the Holy Spirit. Most important thing is, u r really remorseful, feel sorry, and REPENT. Everyone has sinned against God, even when v r already children of God, bt our Father is full of grace and mercy.. Repent, that’s what He wants us to do.
I m a lady, i know how ur wife feels.. both of u need time, and both of u need inner healing. Love ur wife, brother, for she is given 2 u by God. Love-with words n in actions. Continue 2 ask God 4 miracles in ur marriage, trust God with all ur heart.
I suggest u meditate on PSALM 103
Take care…
RT Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:34 am
3 issues at hand now.
1) Jteam. You build it up and groom the artists. They have feeling too. So I hope you will continue to rebuild them into a stronger outfit and reward your supporters. Just hope Mark Lee will support you too.
2). It take time. Hope time will heal the sorrow and injuries. Be patient as it may take another 5 to 10 years to regain the family trust.
3). Please do more charitable works, show to your fans your sincerity and regrets. Do charitable work to make up for your past wrong doing. Your supporters and fans are multi-religious, so PLEASE DO NOT RESTRICT YOURSELF TO ONE. It will be great if CITY HARVEST CHURCH will donate some monies to help u set up a multi-religious foundation to help the under-priviledges. This is a testing time for you to see who are your real friends.
But still I have to say… your past actions are just unjustificable in all human perspectives. Just wonder have you been guide wrongly?
Patrick Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:42 am
Well said Jocelyn. Jack and family, hope you all recover quickly and become a stronger family.
NG Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:44 am
Think this should be first and last chance for you. You should feel truly grateful you have such a great wife. She needs the most supports from all people. The pains of hurting not just stop here. It’ll will go on may be for a few years. It’s really not easy for a wife and a mother.
Irene, be strong, okay. Life still have to go on.
Angela Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:47 am
人都会犯错，但知错能改这是最要的！梁导，加油！！好好珍惜你的家人。
Ah Mei Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:54 am
“We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck … But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness.” –Ellen Goodman
Samantha Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:55 am
Let he who has no sin throw the first stone. We all have made mistakes, though in different ways. God disciplines us as all good fathers do. In God, there’s always forgiveness, a new beginning. If you can’t win everyone’s approval and forgiveness, so be it. People are not the Judge, who are we to judge? If you pull through this storm,you will emerge stronger. You are talented, believe in yourselves. If you make good movies and they are good inspirations, people will come watch again. Jack & Irene, you have my prayers and blessings. God heals all wounds and will always work for your good,trust Him and His timing.
Derrick Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:59 am
Dear Jack,
Hope that you really learn from your mistakes,treasure your family ,loyalty fans and friends.You still have got a number of loyalty fans and friends with you.Do not let us down again.Be brave and move on.
Peng Yew Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:00 am
一切在于*自身*,在于*心之定力*。所有的神仙妖魔都在自身中，它是不会在于您困难／快乐远离／亲近您…是您远离您自已。
DC Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:01 am
洪水泛滥之时，耶和华坐着为王；耶和华坐着为王，直到永远。耶和华必赐力量给他的百姓，耶和华必赐平安的福给他的百姓。（诗篇 诗29:10，11）
问题不是主耶稣离你而去; 他永远坐着为王。问题是你在那里？
Velle Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:03 am
Hi Jack,
It must be really hard on your family for the past few days. It is a experience that most people will not have. Everyone makes mistakes but as long as one is willing to change for the better, there will always be hope and a chance. You really have a very wonderful and forgiving wife, so please do treasure her and this fmaily that you have. All the best! You have my support!
God bless!
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-13 20:34
Josephine Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:04 am
Hi Jack….You made the choice and this and more will be your consequences.
It’s tough for you..it’s tougher for your spouse and kids.
Nonetheless….do not fall into the TRAP of condemnation.Go and fall into the GRACE OF GOD. Allow HIM to heal and restore you.Go to HIM with truth and honesty and LIVE again….for greater things! Greater things are yet to come ….DO NOT allow this exposure go to waste…USE IT and TURN IT AROUND …..to bring LIGHT and GLORY to Papa God.
ladytulip Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:06 am
上一位说得很对，你已经犯了基督教徒最严重的错误，你根本就没资格把耶稣给搬出来，你的所做所为，真是给我们基督教徒一大耻辱！
Jon 所说的故事，那个行淫的妇人是在认识主之前所干的，可是你已经是一个基督教徒了，还一而再再而三得做出这些见不得人的事，上帝怎么能那么轻易地原谅你？？？
请你不要再把上帝给搬出来了，真让人觉得恶心！！！
jessica Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:06 am
I have a question.
If your lady-mistress had not stepped out to expose this matter, would you have realised your wrong-doing?
小黑 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:06 am
although ur actions were not accpetable, but the most important thing is tat u still ve ur family with u. a lot of ppl ve been giving their own opinions abt ur story, ppl ve diffrent views, i hope u will bounce back and produce better movies in future, because i know “u not stupid” to repeat the same mistakes again. so next change will be 梁智强重出江湖!
PS Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:10 am
你的言谈举止根本就是不知悔改，这不只是婚外情，你是在欺骗无数的无知少女，你很无耻。不要忘了，你的嫩草只比你的女儿大三岁，将心比心，你要你的女儿遇到你这种男人和受到这种伤害吗？
Disappointed Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:12 am
Hi Jack,
I chance upon ur blog when my Dad says that I should read ur blog to see what you’ve got to say(He doesn’t know how to read Chinese). When the sandal broke out, intially my first thought was,”Is this a promotion thingy for your upcoming 做人 movie?” But news after news of the sandal broke out, I was shock, angry and surprise! Shock because I watched your 搞笑行动 since I was like 6 yrs old?(now 25) And I grew up together with your shows and your movie productions, all along, my image of you has been very good. To me, you were a good husband, a devoted father and a great director.
Angry because you didn’t chose to walk close with God and commit sins that could have been avoided and could have destroy your career and your family. Plus sometime ago Pastor did shared about “Making marriage work” which also address to issues you are in now. Didn’t any of the topics moved you at all? The press conference end abruptly. I understand that Irene could have fainted due to stress and pressure all these while plus those emotions that she has been keeping inside her heart even though people told her about your affair. No matter how strong a woman is on the outside, deep down in their heart, they are actually very fragile. They also need affection, care and concern from their husbands. She chose to trust you despite from all the hear-say in the early stage of your affair. I seriously admire her as a woman, to have to endure such pain that is beyond words. She could have chosen the easy way out to divroice you and leave with your kids but she didn’t. She chose to stay and go through this period of time with you. Be grateful of what you have. 人要懂的感恩
I understand there will not be anymore press conference but at least could you write to the newspaper of what actually happened? Your updates and all? I wish you all the best in your future productions and May God bless you and deliver you and your family through this tough period
ahha Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:12 am
Jack don make this site a religion properganda,we knew u as u were pls don put christ name in , let our relationship be what were don do like any other chrisitian to glorify god in every occassion. u r different keep it that way.
orangeel Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:13 am
加油~看了这些留言，发现到还是有人与我有同样想法的~
你的私生活与指导完全扯不上关系~
只要好的电影出炉，我还是一定会支持~
耶稣说的嘛，要原谅七十个七次~
你老婆都做到了，身为观众的我们又为何做不到呢？
继续加油！
祝你们幸福~
David Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:13 am
当做错事时，就假借耶稣圣名，认为既然耶稣能够原谅，那大家就应该原谅。
当你在左拥右抱时，你会不会认为这也是上帝给你的一种恩赐？那就让大家认同你的艳遇吧。
天大的笑话，天大的讽刺。
假如你的妻子也有同样的很多艳遇，你会像上帝一样去原谅她吗？（自私）
我相信药厂会拿你来代替“老牛吃嫩草”。
来一个，“一马当先，万女莫挡”吧。
johnny Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:14 am
Hope you have learn a lessom. what ever goes around,comes around.
Alway remember to be humble and treat people around you equally with sincere
Good luck to you
apple Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:16 am
作为你的影迷这么多年，你让我彻彻底底的失望！
你的形象一向来时很正面的，很顾家很爱老婆孩子，竟然搞外遇，让我惊震之余，也很痛心和失望。
站在女性立场，觉得你老婆被你伤害得太深了，很同情你老婆。如果你真爱她，怎么舍得如此的伤害她呢？我真的不明白，当你偷吃的时候，可有想到老婆的感受？你怎么吃得下去？
说真的，我无法也不想再支持你了，但我会祝福康美凤女士。希望康女士会坚强。
作者: 联合早报 时间: 2010-3-13 23:09
梁志强一案带来的思考：
1 梁志强人品大致应该如何定论。
2 社会反响说明的问题：
1） 舆论对道德监控的力度持续走低。
2） 早报社论背后的笑话。
3） 多数网络评论站在一个莫名其妙的立场——梁志强陷在泥坑里了，自己却是品行完美，就算有考虑到自己的道德高度也忽略不计，一副高高在上的口气。这里面误区多多！首先对梁志强来说，基本上没有任何损失，反而因之备受关注，你以为他崴了，其实呢？这些发言者的定位可谓愚蠢。
其次，可见坡人的麻木程度。凡事都只会这么三言两语地浮浅思考，究竟种种世俗苦难可否找到妥帖的“人性关怀”？难怪国民幸福程度一路滑坡。
3 此案有没有触动？没有，或者说基本可以忽略。
4 导演本身和其作品可以截然分开吗？
5 没有哲思是愚人！现代人愚病不轻。
作者: 联合早报 时间: 2010-3-13 23:48
梁智强婚外情风波：安顿太太孩子后 将一次过说清楚
● 李亦筠 报道
……
杨荣文呼吁给予梁智强家人支持
梁智强的婚外情曝光后，圈内外一阵哗然，杨荣文部长也在博客撰文，他说事件曝光前，梁智强已亲自拨电告诉他事情的来龙去脉。他说当时梁太太在身边，他也要求与梁太太通电话，给予梁家精神上的支持。杨荣文希望人们在这个困难时期给予梁智强和他的家人支持，让他们顺利渡过这个难关，圆满解决问题。
杨荣文是在今年初和梁智强开设Blogkakis网站，并邀请白薇秀、郭明忠、Tracy Phillips和新大毕业生Vincent Ha一起写博客。一群博友常相约聚餐。
梁智强人品如何？这是风波促使人们去关注的一个问题。
现代社会毕竟是发展了，除了少数自己把自己（并非外力）“完全”浸淫在天真的宗教说辞里的三姑六婆以及等而下之的人，几乎没有人看到这个问题后会当它是一个问题。
一般人。普通人。正常人。不过是“犯了一般男人都会犯的错”。
个人而言，我觉得“一般”的评语对梁志强来说是公允的。
有人会对于他的“盛名”和“红利”提出置疑，可是有没有法律条规说过红人或富翁的道德尺度应该格外苛刻呢？没有！梁大导演金钱美女人缘名望通通捞了个滴水不漏，的确羡煞世人，然而那是人家头脑灵活又积极行动换来的，劝君平心静气，临渊羡鱼不如退而结网，更不必口沫飞溅夸大其词。客观点说，梁智强是“一般人”里的“能人”，亦庄亦谐能大能小，有市场为证，至于混下的产业、妻儿、庞大关系网、投怀送抱的女子，那都是力证。
因此，这桩事，只能客观表述为“能人崴泥”，最多可放一个“笨”字。庄严的人品文章爱好者可以休矣！在废除了“沉猪笼”以及宫、黥、劓、笞、杖、乱石打死等一系列针对性的刑罚之后，道德看客们基本上也被废了，越多计较，貌似只能暴露抨击者的失败和无聊。
何况，梁智强能压得住婆娘，这是“笨”上的“大巧”，不枉了又“智”又“强”的名字。和前段陈建斌鸡飞蛋打的案例相比，这边厢红旗不倒、彩旗在望，生活的精彩程度丝毫不减，真是强得很，智得妙！
作者: 联合早报 时间: 2010-3-13 23:58
（接上文）
“杨荣文部长也在博客撰文，他说事件曝光前，梁智强已亲自拨电告诉他事情的来龙去脉。他说当时梁太太在身边，他也要求与梁太太通电话，给予梁家精神上的支持。杨荣文希望人们在这个困难时期给予梁智强和他的家人支持，让他们顺利渡过这个难关，圆满解决问题。”杨荣文部长一言九鼎之力，这个表态基本上就给此风流案定调、定性了。
真是令人无限唏嘘！！
梁智强之能堪为当世楷模，兼万世之表！
有人说是“幸运”“福气”之类，差矣差矣。馅饼不会从天而降，幸运和福气也不是没头苍蝇一般瞎飞乱撞！自古大德之士绝非无能之辈，原因就在这里：不是“德”祈来了“能”，而是“能”造就了“德”。
想以“德”名世么？有方法、要本事的，做白日梦没用，有空研究一下梁智强吧。
作者: 联合早报 时间: 2010-3-14 00:38
舆论对道德监控的力度持续走低
在哲学网站谈谈这个问题是很有意思的。
说起来这事第一要怪美国！
第二要重新认识一下“舆论”。
第三要探讨社会制度和舆论的脱轨。
美国人民是无辜的。一个源于苦难和挣扎求存的移民社会，要求点自由和人权是无可厚非的。没有大统一的核心传统与文化，争取相安无事的最好口号就是自由、人权这些。
但是从根本上来说，移民文化是不应该着意培养的，其动荡的特性对安定局面来说是个克星。话说回来，过度的“自由”、过度的“人权”首先打击的就是公众舆论这一类的东西。对于一个大局、一个体系、一个社会而言，舆论就像一个人的皮肤毛发，除了修饰面貌，也有对骨骼内脏的保护作用。
美国就是这样，消除了舆论的阻碍也消除了舆论的保护，他们全社会都视激情为珍宝，以此脱胎换骨、滋颜养生，培育重要的创造力。这是有代价的，当事人安然付出就好。
万事无两全，选择需慎重。他们甩甩头让舆论见鬼去吧，一来二去舆论自己无地生发，倒也总体和谐、上下圆满。
怪就怪美国的强大。一强大了立刻成为举世瞩目的风向标，各种文化如同泛滥的江河，势不可挡地向世界各地滔滔侵入。新加坡本来就禀赋不足、水性善变，新新的一个四十多年的小国家一向如履薄冰。坡人深得其奥，学得快用得猛，可惜学得了美国人的个性，学不来美国人的认命，不出事就扮老美的潇洒，出了事还是再来拜老中的中庸，祈求家人支持社会谅解，像个新入选的太监，痛哭流涕表示顺从。
社会舆论让人感觉怪怪的，中庸的话上上下下说了一大堆，都是隔靴搔痒，离要害很远。
隐患还在，就还会出事。这才是问题。
作者: 联合早报 时间: 2010-3-14 02:09
（接上文）关于“舆论”，一种定义是：
舆论是指在一定社会范围内，消除个人意见差异，反映社会知觉和集合意识的、多数人的共同意见。在舆论的定义中，最关键要讨论的是，舆论的本体是“意见”还是“态度”。
在梁氏风流案中，如果强调“态度”，那么看来梁导不光没输还赚了很多。杨荣文部长的发言是主流态度的缩影。有心为善的人们也都对梁氏夫妇劝和不劝分，大事化小，小事化了完结。其次，据说“有一干风流剑客拍案叫绝，大呼人不风流枉少年”（《早报》载文），这也是真实态度的写照，以男性为主。最后，和新加坡的“独善其身”的移民思维惯性有关，事不关己高高挂起，理你都觉得累。那么怎么还会有“意见”？
那看立场了，兔死狐悲物伤其类，阿嫂们养尊处优，闲来以督导社会舆论监视男人为己任，难得有触动的话题。这个，哪个机构有物力可以热心统计一下发言者的身份，大致是不差的。
笔者关注的问题是：在“伪舆论”和“真态度”的交织下，有谁真正对当事人付出深度关怀？几时坡人才可以正视这些不了了之的社会问题，切实解决问题提高和谐度？
作者: 联合早报 时间: 2010-3-14 02:20
笔者早年就职于大中国，对其“舆论与体制接轨”的做法深有感触。阔别多年，物是人非，据说中国发生了巨大改变。农历年初二，新传媒八频道转播了部分“春晚”节目，还是看得出他们对于“个人问题”与职务还是没有完全脱轨的。
本地民风淳厚，大家说起来还是对舆论心存敬畏，畏惧它对事业的影响。不过一来行业不同情况也不同；二来这种制约基本限于公共关系，并不像中国以前在各种评比表格、晋升表格、选举表格中把群众认可度公然列为一栏。也就是说公众舆论如何，都和体制没有挂起钩来。理它作甚？如果你足够自信，不是活在别人的认可中的话。
鉴于中国的进步，以及世界发展的主流方向，可见反其道而行之是不可能的。
指出这一点，也是对舆论爱好者提个醒：对国家社会富有责任感是好事，但是时候改变策略，停止做无用功了。
作者: 联合早报 时间: 2010-3-14 03:08
此案有没有触动？
梁氏风流案有没有触动？没有，或者说基本可以忽略。
沉默的自是沉默着，自重的也在沉默着。除了混饭的职责所在，制造“舆论”的无非是三姑六婆型的长舌妇、长舌男。他们的“触动”都是演给自己看着玩的，说到底是讲着过瘾，就算有所谓“触动”也是肤浅的。
如果有人说最触动的是梁妻康氏，有崩溃为证，有昏厥为证，有照片上的斑秃为证。
我看没有人不同情康氏。然而稍微关注多一点，大家就会发现在钟姓女模之前还有乐姓艺人。27年的婚姻不算短，有没有其他“触动”取决于梁导的行为方式，外人很难猜测，但无论如何，说康氏被嫩模“触动”，不够恰当，除非另外有医学报告说康氏智力有问题。
康氏的种种“被触动”如果不是情境使然加上演艺之家的耳濡目染，就是除了女人之外另有财产瓜分等困局来袭，不然第二次（？）都被触动成如此不堪的情状，那梁家不是成了活生生的人间地狱？
以梁氏的聪明，角色设计对他从来都不是难事。先找出安抚公众激愤的突破口，然后用“捆绑”的态势拜托无聊的三姑六婆施舍一点本来就泛滥的同情心，轻松过关，简直连难度都没有。
只是佩服他的好头脑、好手段，短时间内就可以按下《妇女保护宪章》罩着的婆娘们，可见自是别有过人之处，估计是天赋特长。
梁氏本人被触动？
除非指他被局面的失控而小小“触动”了一下。
不然真是看低了大导演满肚子的弯弯绕，也看小了“色胆”的尺寸，更小看了梁智强的名字。
当事女模被触动？有也不是现在，据说是“两年地下情”，心动了欲动了气动了都不是这当儿的事，眼下的该叫“发动”。个中情由大有奥妙，可惜没有人找出来拍一部电影，肯定比最近的表面风波热闹十倍不止。
有人在梁导的博客里跟帖说梁家的小孩被触动。这个角度太煽情了，也欠公正，多半是平时没有机会和名人沾边，所以发言前才没有三思。
“名父”之子，光彩和荣誉会常常“触动”他们，偶尔来点平常百姓家小孩会遇到的问题，不必为他们担额外的心吧？
难道说名人的家庭除了财富等优渥，心理屏障也该由社会一应奉献？
那位网友说梁智强有没有考虑过他的孩子在学校会被别人的异样眼光看，我看以梁导之“智”、之“强”，之五十岁的江湖历练，他不光考虑过，而且是深思熟虑对前后轻重都有了一个足以行动的考量之后，才去拈花惹草的。
热心网友如果觉得自己更“智”更“强”也不要紧，重要的是自身从旧时代的幻想中走出来，面对现实。现实的情况是推动新风潮的人，80后之后是90后。虽然有着“绵羊音”的东方少女曾轶可是个特例，也不要低估了90后普遍钢缆一样的神经。
这事搞得！
基本上是给公众制造话题呈现娱乐，梁氏风流案既不是第一个，也决不是最后一个。当事人既没有吃亏，也基本没有被“触动”。甚至连个“秋菊”都没有，可谓郁闷。劝那些讨伐梁导的长舌妇们，敷个脸歇歇去吧。
匆匆于洛杉矶
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-14 20:17
嘿嘿，有深度！
好玩好玩
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-14 23:19
谁可以回答：康美凤女士在记者会出来做什么？？
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:28
我贴在梁智强博客的：
阳阳 Says: Your comment is awaiting moderation.
March 15th, 2010 at 10:27 am
梁导，希望你还好。相信以你的智商不会有什么问题。
对当事人而言，没有什么不公平，一切都是公平的。
之前我曾经抵触你的电影，认为只有“低俗”两个字可以奉送。后来我发觉可能要求太高了，几百万新加坡人里，能够找到途径把大家心声表达出来的，怎么说你梁智强都算一个。仅凭这份闯劲，希望你不要折旗，生活里难免有变奏，至少，活出你的个性来。加油！
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:30
isaac Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:12 pm
hey people why can’t you people stop saying “i am disappointed in you” this and that…people do made mistake…no matter who…even god made mistake too…when you made a mistake you have to realise your own mistake doesn’t it enough ?…STOP making him like as through everything is his fault…part of it is his fault…but not totally…in this singapore…goverment said to everyone give prisoner a second chance right?…singaporean cannot push jack neo to death penlty right…didn’t jack neo made wonderful movie? all his life work always put up our singaporean lifestyle…our hard work…our hard life in this singapore…when you people are young you do made mistake than what your parent does ? forgive and forget right? no matter how big the issue is….even now jack neo had a affair outside…ok i can say is normal…in the oversea..in the state too…people have to be modern not close minded…singapore always move forward…but i can see singaporean are close minded instead open to everyhing…for an example someone does a mistake in the office the worker in that office will get scolding by that boss…but what is after that everyone forget about it…so ya Jack neo you shouldn’t care these type of people…Pull yourself together you still had a big war coming your way..which is winning your family heart back…eventhrough you destroy the image in their heart…you can try your best winning them by building back amend it…it take 5 mins to let a building goes down…but it takes 5 years to build it back to the place right…so ya…action speak louder than words…so man do take care yourself…don’t fall before you start fighting…you should try listen to one of your movie 爱都爱都 ost 冲冲冲…its may give you some motivition…don’t wory everything will be right back it is…if you try your best…k jia you jia you…anything i am right here if you need help
A brother. Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:17 pm
Jack,
Like you, I am a fellow Christian. Even though we are well-acquainted with how God loathes our sin, we still sin sometime or another because it is part of the nature of our flesh. But that’s not an excuse for anyone.
After all:
“but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” —James 1:14-16
During this time, I would advice you to pray for God’s forgiveness more than anything else.
There’s a reason why you are in your current situation. Having your misdeeds exposed was God’s way of saving you, before you fall deeper into sin and end up in eternal hell. Or perhaps you have drifted too far away from God.
You can blame yourself all you want, but please remember to translate those feelings into action and a sense of urgency to steer back onto the right path. If you still love your God and your wife, and all your friends, please live right from now on.
“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.”—Jack 1:12
He is waiting for you the pass this test.
You’ve spent so much of your life directing—now it’s God’s turn to direct you to his path. No tainted mark is too unforgivable. Re-evaluate your objectives in life and may you find true meaning in the gospel and live by it for the rest of your life.
That’s the only way you can evade temptation, and live righteously among the pitfalls and degenaration of this world. God bless you.
~ a concerned brother.
Minjmrhm Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:17 pm
Hi Jack,
I got a shock why all of a sudden everything burst out. Wow, people out there are clapping hands. Happy when you’re in trouble and having bad reputation.
Human tend to make mistake and you realised it. Not too late. Go back to your family as they need you and treasure their love. You have built your fame with their moral supports.
Remember, do not take all the negative remarks and be positive. Life have to move on. Back to your normal life. Be strong, take this as a challenge. Relax your mind and have a break.
Reasonable man points of view Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:25 pm
Cheating innocent girls(who are approximately same age as your daughter)by promising them bright career/future as a director. This kind of behavior is absolutely deplorable and shall not be condoned.
利用她们的弱点，来欺骗她人。
你也许有重新开始的机会，但出自于好心的小姑娘就不同了，她为了避免更多无辜受害者，挺身而出也因此而把她自己前途和梦想给毁了。你该当何罪！？
无法否认的是你有一个很伟大的妻子很爱惜家庭。很让人同情与敬佩，请你好好珍惜她。
-完-
Mei Mei Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:36 pm
You indeed have a truly gracious, wonderful wife. You must from now treasure her even more.. Not many women can do what she has done.. Irene, you have my support. Wish you well.
danny-TW Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:41 pm
基於理性的觀念跟想法
我會繼續支持你的電影
正如有些人說的
你只是對不起自己的老婆
首先要一直對老婆彌補你的過錯
畢竟這不是殺人重罪
只要當事人老婆可以原諒
我們外人確實沒有資格說話
但是不要在有下次了
再有下次 說真的就不可原諒了
我覺得大家只要是個腦袋成熟的人
相信不會對你的家人跟小孩怎樣的
但是我希望梁導梁大哥好好沉澱一下自己的心情
好好停一段時間
好好陪陪老婆補償老婆
順便可以好好寫一些劇本
Wendy Tay Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:41 pm
Hi Jack
Remember John 8 where the woman caught in adultery was brought before Jesus? Jesus said: Neither do I condemn you, go and sin no more.Realize Jesus said He did not give the woman condemnation and then this woman has the strength to SIN NO MORE.This woman received the gift of NO CONDEMNATION 1st.Stop beating yourself Jack, know that Jesus is already punished for your entire life of sins put together.Today many places and even churches said stop sinning first and then we forgive you. But thats not the Bible says…Hebrews 10:17:”AND THEIR SINS AND THEIR LAWLESS DEEDS I WILL REMEMBER NO MORE.” stop punishing yourself because Jesus has already took ALL your punishment, your entire life of wrongs was put on the body of Christ on the Cross and you are still of right standing before God because of what Jesus has done for you! Keep looking to Jesus who is your Righteouness
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:30
bmw Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:42 pm
梁導!這一連幾天新聞幾乎都是你的事情連台灣新聞也不例外
我對這件事希望你好好加油吧人都是會犯錯的，希望你可以早
日走出傷痛在拍好看的戲給社會大眾跟支持你的人看，畢竟事
情也發生了你老婆也原諒你不必管別人說什麼嘴巴長在他身上
愛說什麼給ㄊ們說就好了加油我會繼續支持你的
AlanSgInKL Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:48 pm
I think everyone have already said what i wanted to write here. Anyways, i hope you change to be a better husband/father to you family. Please don’t let us fans down. I’ve been you fan since i was a little boy. To tell you the truth i was a bit shocked when i read the news about your affair though the newspaper here in KL.I wish you all the best in sorting out this mess.God Bless
Dave Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:48 pm
Hi Jack,
You are a famous artist in S’pore. Remember! Not only you, every move of an artist will be under the microscope (magnified) of its audience and fans becos’ they care about you. Too bad, unlike in film production, the mistake made is not reversible. Whether it is due to temptation, the spur moment of foolishness, or whatever reasons, (and I would think you have gone off the track because of your success. You have forgotten your true self), you have realised and the courage to acknowledge publicly that this is a mistake of yours.IT TAKES TIME TO HEAL.
Whether there is one, two, three or more affairs, that is not the focus. The point is how you conduct yourself from now on. LET TIME and YOUR ACTION PROVE IT. You have come so far, you achievements, your family (wife and children). What a pity to let it fall just that. ALWAYS LOOK BACK, what bring you the success and who is always behind you and your success. This should serve as a reminder for you in future. They are your motivation for success in the past, now and the future as well. Think about contributing back to the society (e.g. needies) if you can.
Whatever it takes, salvage the kinship. Once you miss it, it may not come by so easily, cherish it. Kinship – the true, ever lasting element that stay with us till the last moment of our lives. Jus a food for thought.
珍珍@小珍 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:50 pm
记得中学时期，听到梁导演写得：“不要以为自己没有用”激励了我。而且很欣赏他的才华。人非圣贤，孰能无过？当一个人的隐私赤裸裸地呈现在大家眼前，受伤害的不单单是那些女模，当事人、其妻子、家人都牵涉其中。。。他只不过是犯了一般男人会犯的错，就这样毁了他的一切，未免太残忍了吧?images是很重要，没错，可是试想一个人要鼓起多大的勇气，在大众面前忏悔？？时间会冲淡一切，希望梁导演可以和妻子努力地克服，携手捍卫这段婚姻。支持你~~
kenny ng Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:51 pm
“我也会更加小心自己的言行举止和对待所有女生的方式，避免引起误会”
is this meant to be an apology or a joke? you mean you have been 不小心 sending those messages repeatedly to different girls, young and old, for the past few years?
or is it that u mean u shdn be more careful when expressing your love to them… that u shdnt leave any evidence for the girls to show the messages to the media?
thanks jack, you are really a comedian.. even your apology must joke also.
Toto Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:53 pm
“人”
你懂得写，懂得拍，懂得导。。
但是你懂得做吗？？
简简单单两笔画。。
你却把它写成 “叉”(X) ！！！
Scale-of-Justice Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 3:56 pm
You keep apologizing to your wife and the public. How about those young girls who were involved with you? Shouldn’t you apologize to them for your abuse of authority?
Sui Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:02 pm
第七條 不可姦淫；
第八條 不可偷盜；
第九條 不可作假見證；
第十條 不可貪心。
梁倒，您都犯了哪条？汗颜啊！
Give Grace Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:05 pm
Jack & Irene, Take a break from all the condemnation and seek God’s grace. Irene， I know this is the toughest time in yr life and I can understand how u and yr children are going through as I had been through myself. Jack, hope that you will treasure yr wife more and u have to rebuild the trust that u have broken in yr wife and yr 4 lovely children. I really pity them as u r a celebrity but they have to endure with all looks from others. Public pls give them time to heal their family first, we are really not in any position to judge him. I really support what Jocelyn(19th comment’s) had said. Go for family counselling if u can and let Irene let go all the anger that she has inside although she has forgiven u. Seek God’s guiding in your path!!!!!!!!
May God Blessing shower You All In This Difficult Time.
Gillian Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:08 pm
I am a fan of your movies and have been watching them since young. I know that I am in no position to judge, and what more I am only a 20 yo kid. However, I hope that my comments can take you back to reflect upon your actions.
As much as I wanted to support you through this tough time, I must say that I am utterly disappointed with your actions. I do not know what prompted you to have extra-marital affairs and to be unfaithful to your wife, be it lust, greed or selfishness, you have hurt so many people who love you, people who really matter to you.
The person you hurt the most is probably your wife. She, now has to suffer because of what you did. While she loves you unconditionally, what have you done to her? Is that what she really deserves?
At times like this, you have to accept that people will be angry at you, people will criticize you, and people might not forgive you for what you’ve done. Have you ever thought about the consequences when you commit those affairs? You might wish that this day will never come, but face it, this is the time to be responsible for your own actions.
I really hope that you are truly remorseful and hopefully, you will be faithful to your wife from now on. The fact that you were having affairs not just once, but multiple times, shows that you are not someone who will change to the better unless you receive the punishment you deserved. Hence, I hope that after this incident, you will become a better man.
It is so true that behind every successful man, there is a woman; but if you have way too many women, you are doomed to fail, soon, if not now.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:30
恩玲 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:11 pm
Hi 梁导,
我非常支持你想改过自新的念头，也因为这样使我会更加想要支持你的才华和电影。加油！
你的犯错让我们看见人不是完美的事实。就算是大人物，你们也不过是平凡人。
你已经说明了你的立场，也承认了你自己的错。不管是通过媒体对大众道歉，或是对你的亲朋好友道歉，或是（更重要的）对上帝表明了你想悔改的决定，我相信你已经尽力了。
那些正在批判你的人仍继续批判下去，有些人从支持梁导变成恨梁导-那是因为他们无法接受人不是完美的事实。希望梁导不需要为这些仍活在自己的梦想世界里感到过于的内疚。
最重要的还是学习如何跌倒了爬起来。I believe Christ’s resurrection power will be upon your situation and to heal the relationships between you and your wife, and your children.
新加坡需要你的才华和天赋。你还是我心目中很有本事的梁导演！
八爷 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:21 pm
上帝是不会离开你的，上帝在你搞外遇的时候就在看着你。看着你什么时候能觉悟，看着你什么时候能明白，看着你什么时候能回头。
不要指望上帝给你原谅，上帝只能给你力量去获得原谅。不是自己原谅自己，是来至受害人的，来至家人的，来至朋友的原谅。
人就是这样，等到落魄的时候才想起上帝。犯贱！
Kc Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:22 pm
Mr Neo not only prey on 16 yrs old kids ,this include those married womman with husband and children as well.Your acts cant be forgiven .Your action with those married woman might even lead to the breakup of their family .
For those who commented that we should give him chance ,pls reconsider again.He has been given more than a second chance .From the media reports ,he played around with 11 gals .So that means 11 chances have been given.One of the 16 yrs old french gal even gave him chances by warning that police report will be file against him if he continue but that does not deter him.
And for those who push the blame to the victims by saying it needs 2 hands to clap,then what about those gals who rejected his advance?Did they deserve the sex harrasement from MR Neo?Lastly ,did God condone and encorage adlutery?Now even a transexual is involve .
Mr Neo ,two words for u .Total demolish for your image and career .
death note Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:22 pm
haha… you is an actor.. you sure your tears is real… or just telling the whole world how pity you are now…
this is your own problem, dont understand why u should bring up to the TV…
SHAME ON YOU!!!
JJ Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:25 pm
Jack Neo, you are a bastard. Unfaithful to your wife yet push her to face the media. Look at Tiger Wood, he faced the media on his own. Yes, this is your personal affairs, we have no right to say anything, but bear in mind, if you still want to make a living in filming you have to depend on us.
Life still have to go on. We hope you wake up after this incident. Take good care of your wife who is the woman behind you. You are lucky, because of her, most of us are willing to forgive you. And hope you be more humble if you are successful.
Tell you the truth, a lot of us hate you even without this incident. This incident could be a blessing, hope you can started all over again and let us see the humble side of you. Good luck and mya God bless you and your family.
Tan Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:32 pm
Perhap you are a public figure which easily catches attention. This often happened to any public figure. Although you are wrong in the first place, Everyone deserve a second chance as long as you are willing to change and be good. Your family had given their best support to you. Please do not let them down again. All the best!!!
also50 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:45 pm
你以为你是谁，犯了错还学 Tiger Wood 开记者招待会。还把可怜的老婆推出去面对公众！你人格太差了，专门欺负女人！！！你的报应何止你目前所看到的，还有将来‘来世呢，将来有你受的了！！！
en Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:45 pm
After following this scandal for the whole week, I can’t help but to think that Jack Neo is a victim himself. Especially after last night’s 前线追终 interview with Foyce. This girl and the others who claim that they were hit on by Jack Neo are just out to get him. If Jack Neo is nasty, he could have say that Foyce threw herself at him instead. Foyce is out to gain some publicity for herself. But 梁智强，你应该跟 Wendy Chong 道歉。Even if the apology is a private one, you should say sorry to her for causing hurt to her. Anyway 加油!
Jackhead Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:48 pm
I say boycott all Jackhead’s films. You not stupid, you VERY stupid!
what is, is Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 4:58 pm
Jerk Neo,
Money is really not enough for you. You also craved for public recognition and YOU GOT IT ! Cultural Medallion award! You do not deserve it! you are NOT worthy to be called a Singaporean. You do not lead by example and have no honour. YOU USED YOUR WIFE AS A SHIELD! you are a coward and exploited and abused your position of power and abused YOUNG WOMEN! NO SINGAPOREAN WILL TRUST YOU AS A HUMAN BEING EVEN! I WILL NOT TRUST YOU AROUND WOMEN! THROW BACK YOUR CULTURAL MEDALLION AWARD, YOU MAKE IT DIRTY AND YOU MAKE ALL SINGAPOREAN MEN ASHAMED!! NO AMOUNT OF SORRYS CAN REVIVE YOUR CAREER UNLESS YOU GIVE BACK YOUR AWARD.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:31
what is, is Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:00 pm
ONE DAY YOUR CHILDREN WILL PREYED ON BY PAEDOPHILES. HOW WOULD YOU LIKE THAT.
Anoymous Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:04 pm
Let this trial be a lesson learnt… life is such we have to learn from mistakes and move on… where we fall.
Let time to heal the pain, sorrows. Sometimes a real life sad biography can be well share in publish into a book or even a movie show…
At this meantime, hope you will take time to recover. When you have recovered, start again be that better man share your life testimony share with others do not fall into such tempation.
May God bless you
Justin Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:10 pm
Jack, I thought your tears are not real. Athough you are an actor but I still cannot see the sincerity from you. You did not apologized to the girls you have hurt over the years. Be brave to face the media’s questions. Don’t hide like a mouse. Live like a man and cry like a man.
steve Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:12 pm
Indeed, nobody can judge Jack, not even the Super Being, except his own family! Many have questioned what if the so-called victim is your own daughter. So what? If your own daughter is doing it willingly and not being forced into it, she has only herself to be blamed – maybe her parents ought to be blamed too for her upbringing.
To those so-called victimes, stop telling us how pitiful your are. If you are a willing party, no one will sympathize with you. However,if your are a true victim and was being forced into it, then report it to the police and let the State protect you and press charges against him, otherwise, zip your mouth and stop pretending.
Truly, we all should give Jack and his family a break and not be critical all the time. You see, when he did not apologize, some people think that he is not forthcoming and trying to evade the issue. But, when he apologizes, some groups think that he is put up an act and lack of sincerity etc.
To criticise him with all sort of negative remarks is totally unless at this point in time. Most importantly, his family has fogiven him. We should therefore join the Neo family and give him the utmost support and encouragement. The media too, come on, give your countryman a break and let them go on with their lives!!! I am sure you have othere stories to tell…
Lastly, to those who choose to BELIEVE those so-called victims. What makes you think that they are not lying???
下半身 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:13 pm
什么婚外情是家事? 什么是乘人之危? 借年轻女孩爱慕虚容的弱点,利用职权上的便利来满足梁大导演个人的私欲.不是嗎? 在这部分上完全没有一絲悔过的心态.
如果梁大导演的胡搞不被公開的話, 谁敢擔保梁大导演會自動地約束下半部嗎?
网上一些邏輯是”被發現了,就悔改? 不被發現的話,放心,請繼續亂槍掃射嗎?”.
好奇問一下, 这些信仰是不是没有报应,忏悔就能上天堂的那種?
Johnny Tng Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
Jack, you may feel that you have fallen from grace in the eyes of the public but you would never fall from God’s grace because you are the righteousness of God in Christ forever. You cannot run from Him because you are the slave of Righteousness. You ask for it! In time like this, your good friends may leave you but He never forsakes you.
Christ was condemned for our transgressions so that we are made righteous. You are just as righteousness as before in the sight of God because He see the blood of His Son. God remember our sins no more.
Our wrongdoing does not disqualify us from the grace (unmerited favor) of God because Christ qualifies us eternally through His own blood. His gift of forgiveness of sins is irrevocable. If we honor His word, He will honor us.
So, come boldly with confidence to the throne of grace so that you may receive mercy and find grace to help in time like this. You are His beloved son.
_________________________________________________________
The Pharisees wanted to condemn the woman who was caught in the act of committing adultery by stoning. Interestingly, Jesus said to them, “He who is WITHOUT SIN among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”
Beware of Satan, the accuser of the brethren (Rev 12:10, Zech 3:1). He is the persecutor in the court of Law who brings charges against believers. His ultimate purpose is to condemn. He said, “Now in the Law, Moses commanded us to stone such women….”
Instead, Jesus turned to the woman and said, “I do not condemn you, either. Go. From now on sin no more.” It is this gift of no condemnation that gave the woman the power to sin no more.
Believe it or not! The power of sin is the Law (1 Co15:56). This is observed in the Bible, “Now in the Law, Moses commanded us to stone such women.” The Law refers to the Ten Commandments, thou shall not commit adultery. The letter, the Law, kills (2 Co 3:6), is a ministry of death (2 Co 3:7), and is a ministry of condemnation (2 Co 3:9). Thank God, Christ is the end of the Law.
The Bible said, “Sin shall not have be master over you, for you are not under Law but under grace.” (Romans 6:14) Literally, if we try to keep the Law and sin not we immediately places ourselves under dominion of sin, fallen from grace (Ga 5:4). We literally re-arm Satan because the power of sin is the Law. Christ had already disarmed Satan and stripped off his power.
In the Parable, the prodigal son returned to his Father not because he had repented but for reason that he was dying with hunger. He had no bread (speaks of Christ) to eat and yet when the Father saw him from a distance felt compassion for him, and ran, and embraced him, and kissed him. This is the love of our Father, so deep.
In every page that I turned in the Bible, the teachers of Law were never able to keep the Law though they taught others to do so. For example, in John 7:19, Jesus said to the Pharisee, “Did not Moses give you the Law, and yet none of you carries out the Law? Why do you seek to kill Me?” They broke the Law, thou shall not commit murder.
Does it mean that we can sin? No, God hate sins. In our flesh (self-effort), we are not able to keep the Law and sin not. Self-effort is only outward behavior modification and inside is defiled. Only God who is workings in us can transform from the inside out. He looks at our heart. Charles Spurgeon said, “The inward work must be supernatural.”
Does anyone commit the same wrongdoing as Jack Neo? Jesus said whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. How perfect is the Law! So, let none of us be the one to throw the stone.
Life in the Spirit is one that is not dependent on our flesh (self effort); our performance to do good things but is centered on the finished works of Christ on the cross. Do not walk in the flesh, but according to the Spirit. There is no balance, half flesh and half Spirit.
Johnny Tng Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:20 pm
Jack, you may feel that you have fallen from grace in the eyes of the public but you would never fall from God’s grace because you are the righteousness of God in Christ forever. You cannot run from Him because you are the slave of Righteousness. You ask for it! In time like this, your good friends may leave you but He never forsakes you.
Christ was condemned for our transgressions so that we are made righteous. You are just as righteousness as before in the sight of God because He see the blood of His Son. God remember our sins no more.
Our wrongdoing does not disqualify us from the grace (unmerited favor) of God because Christ qualifies us eternally through His own blood. His gift of forgiveness of sins is irrevocable. If we honor His word, He will honor us.
So, come boldly with confidence to the throne of grace so that you may receive mercy and find grace to help in time like this. You are His beloved son.
Mrs Goh Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:21 pm
Hi Jack,
I am surprised and glad that you are a Christian and I thank you God for that. Be rest assured, Christ will not leave or forsake you. Just cling to Him for forgiveness and for strength. Keep the commandments of the Lord in your heart and He will show you His plan for you. Just dont betray again. Go for a holiday with your family and enjoy.
Most of us, I believe, will pray for Irene and you. Only God can heal her wound.
God blessed!
dxpy Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:26 pm
这个我认识了二十年的老朋友；竟然搞上了一个可以当他女儿的小女生。还带着她开房、在车上玩车震等等。。。真的有点傻眼。我当年认识你的时候；你还是个没没无闻的小演员。就算你成名之后。我还时有去支持一下他的电影。《梁婆婆。重出江湖》《钱不够用》等等。今天看到你爆出有‘婚外情’还是搞上一个可以当你女儿的小女生（对方才22岁。。而你的女儿才19岁）男人是否一有钱有名就搞鬼？？
我个人是很卑视这种行为；因为在我的印象中个性里；我一直认为‘男人’就该有担当；男人不该让女人流泪。既然已经结婚了，就要对自己的婚姻忠诚，不能因为有了钱就找借口在外面‘拈；花惹草’。这是对女人、对老婆、对孩子的不尊重。不能因为你发财了。不能因为你有几个臭铜板就以为全世界的女人都是你的玩物。
这是什么世界
我最讨厌的就是见一个爱一个或者是一脚踏着两条船的男人；虽然说：
男人不坏、女人不爱
但是有必要伤害一个和你共同走了半辈子的老婆和一直把你当偶像的孩子们吗？你在搞小女生的时候；有想过她的年龄其实可以当你的女儿了吗？你有想过如果你女儿也搞上一个年龄跟你一样的老头子；你做何感想？？真的很看不起你这样的男人。真的有一股冲动想扁你。
老朋友。。。
你该感到‘羞耻’也该感到‘惭愧’。。。因为你曾经让我们新加坡人感到‘骄傲’现在却在丢我们新加坡人的脸。 老朋友。。你倒底想怎么样？有钱就做怪。真的丢尽我们男人的脸。
public 1108 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:30 pm
jn team now like gangster
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:31
connie Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:30 pm
我这次对你很失望！你的每一部电影我都一定会支持，你真的是人才！每一部都很棒！你的外遇可以不顾你的前途，未来着想，而为了自己利益而出卖了你，每一个你对他们有意思的女人都要让你难看，对报章大肆公开你丑陋的一面！！！你老婆虽然早已知道你外面的事情，他还是静静的默默承受，为你守秘密；事情揭发之后他还是站在你前面为你当子弹，这种老婆哪里找！！！你真的好改咯！希望这件事过后可以看到你变成好那男人，为家庭老婆孩子想想吧！！！我还是会支持你的！放心！
HelloJACK Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:35 pm
Yo Bro!
Want play soccer?
Ken Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
我深信，主耶稣不会在苦难的时候离我而去的。
我也深信，这两年来，主耶稣也教导你甚末是知足常乐。
主耶稣赐你一好太太，珍惜她吧！
愿主再一次祝福你倆。
Stuart Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
would suggest you to intoduce with new show name ….. with following sure gonna be a big hit in cinema…
1. 錢不夠用 = 女人不夠用…
2. 小孩不笨 = 女人不笨…
3. Mitsubishi = 擦擦這裡, 摸摸那裡………..
Cactus Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:38 pm
If you are nobody – this is your private matter, who are we to judge you?
But as a public figure – you have the responsibility to be a role model.
cat Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:48 pm
truth to be told, i am rather disappointed in you.
even when i watched the interview of you and your wife. i felt that you were acting. it didn’t seem sincere, nor did it seem it to be from the bottom of your heart.
what i felt was that you thought, ‘ah, just a few more months and all this will be over.’
it maybe what you have thought, it may not.
whatever it is, i would like you to think.
it takes years for trust and love to build up, but it can take a mere 3 seconds for it to all crumble down.
and that was what you have done to your wife and children.
you said that you want to emphasize on the fact that it was soley your fault, not your wife. isn’t that something obvious? why would you want to blame your wife? for not pleasuring you in bed or her treating the way you wanted her to?
your wife love you for who you are why did you not bear that in mind every time you kiss a face that is not your wife?
you knew that it would be exposed one day, you knew that your wife and family would be hurt and scarred by this. yet, why do you still do it? all i see and hear are excuses now. but it does not matter.
whatever it is, good luck with you gaining back the trust and love from your family.
the media and your fans will never look the same way at you again.
and i too hope, that that will be the last time i see you and your wife being interviewed.
remember. time may heals all wounds, no matter how deep.
but the scars are there and will always be.
take care of your wife while you still can, while you can still be proud calling yourself a husband to your wife. and a father to your kids.
god bless you and your family. take this chance, before it is far too late to even think about it.
Elias Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:54 pm
错误不会令人失去价值，只会更增值生命，执迷不悟和放弃才会贬低生命的价值。
大家的反应，代表着过去他们对你的支持和看重，期望越高，失望自然越大。负面的反应只是强化你对这错误的感受，帮助你更有能力避免未来再犯同样和类似的错误，并不会贬低你生命的价值。
我们无法改变过去，但我们可以重新创造未来，过去你的生命祝福了许多人，这次的错误将成为你更大的资产，让你的生命能够帮助更多人。
过去你得到的支持是来自你的才华，所以越成功越令你膨胀，才令你迷失了自己。感恩有上帝的怜悯，让你及时领悟。未来你若要再获得支持已经无法靠自己的才华，只能靠你的生命和恩典。约翰一书：一章九节： “我们若承认自己的罪， 神是信实的、公义的，必定赦免我们的罪，洁净我们脱离一切不义。”你若已认罪，上帝已赦免你，你已获得这恩典的允许，不要再犯了，用你的新生命再去祝福更多人。
这经历给你的价值：
1）幸福，让你更体会和感受你妻子对你的真爱，没有礁石激不起漂亮的浪花，你的家庭和婚姻将更真实和美满，其实这次你若战胜这挑战，你才真的比以往更有资格成为模仿。不是顺顺利利才叫美满婚姻，要经得起考验的婚姻才能体会幸福。
2）谦卑，辉煌常令人骄傲，挫折让人学会谦卑。你既是梁家班的领袖，你的经验就是他们资产，今天新加坡的演艺能兴起那么多有才华的艺人和行业，你的贡献是不少的，如今你的生命也将祝福这些后起之秀，有前车之鉴，有学习的版样。试问你过去的经验有哪一件不是用你得用生命去换取的。很多人常把领袖的经验当里所当然，我希望你的班底要懂的感恩。
3）茁壮，你的孩子过去一直享受你的成功，也是时候让他们经历挫折，免得娇生惯养。让他们体会成功者是要付出代价，权利和责任一不平衡，有时候会带来更大的破坏和杀伤力。孩子曾因你的成功骄傲，也当学习因你的错误承担代价。这对他们的生命和往后的成功更有帮助。
真诚的向你伤害过的人道歉，我们做错时必须敢于认错和道歉，但不要花精力去祈求别人的原谅，因上帝已饶恕你，无人能审判你。但要用上帝给你的恩典去祝福更多人，特别是你曾伤害过的人。道歉并非是要求得原谅，是为承担自己的错误。
祝福你！这件事完全没有影响你在我心中的地位和形象甚至价值，记住，你的人没问题，是你处理的反式出了问题，每个人都有盲点和成长的空间，继续加油！
Watermelon Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 5:55 pm
I am very, utterly and extremely disappointed at you. You have yet to get the lesson learned in this incident. You are totally irresponsible and don’t even have the courage to admit the past mistakes you have made, by denying those Neng Cao’s stories.
Hope you could quit the Singapore showbiz as I do not wish to see such a coward and shameful director in Singapore filming sector. You are truly ruining the clean Singapore showbiz image.
Christine Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:05 pm
Hey Jack to men natural yap 8 out of 10 will do “wrong thing” as they dun think for the consequences yet when having fun outside, but look no matter how a men betray the love one, things will be reveal out sooner or later. As a woman position once they really fall in love is hard to let go just like you can’t let go your family same thing cause they are important, so do her(scandal). To be honest i quite pity her(scandal)but too bad her immature thinking had brought her harm when she chosen the wrong path to be with a family man who can’t give her any future, obviously knew that ending won’t turn good for her. Anyway what you have done can’t be undone hope your wife and your children will forgive you and trust you one last time, it will definately take long time to let someone trust you back therefore you really have to prove it as action more than words. god bless you goo luck
梁婆婆supporter Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:06 pm
嗨,我是QQ.看到你最近的报道觉得很难过…记得小时后,只要看到梁婆婆的戏就会觉得很开心….真的,因为看了你的演出就会很开心很好笑….经过这一次,希望你能勇敢gia ki lai(站起来)…人总是会跌倒,最重要是自己跌倒自己爬…要懂得苦中做乐….我也希望你能够在演艺圈里能够东山再起….也不希望你退出演艺圈,因为这样就再也看不到你好笑的作品了….我一直都很喜欢看新加坡戏,也觉得全部演员都演得很厉害,希望自己能够当个艺人,所以我真的一直都有在看每部戏…好了,不说废话..最后希望智强大哥只要你是真心知错,我相信关心你的人一定能够原谅你的…还有要疼爱你家人,因为他们才是你精神的支主…记得不要放弃演艺圈哦….QQ和我的妹妹心仔永远永远是梁家的SUPPORTER…HUAT啊….
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:32
梁婆婆supporter Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:10 pm
还有忘了和你&家人说耶稣爱你们哦…god bless u…
sharpeyes Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:13 pm
梁导所谓的告白真是避重就轻，不断地重复知道错了，怎不说说错在哪里了？还老拿老婆当挡箭牌，真不像个男人。
随着后续报道的曝光，我们看到这件事情不只是婚外情这么简单，还涉及多起性骚扰，性索取和性交易！
以前有媒体光环的眷顾，梁导春风得意。表面谦谦君子，背后却干着声色犬马，淫乱无度的生活，好虚伪啊！
别用虚假（竟然还搞笑地扯上上帝）和廉价的道歉继续欺骗大众的感情，现在不是继续施展导演才华的时候。
作为公众人物却做不良示范，亏你还好意思拍给你的电影取名《做人》，你的勇气和诚意比陈冠希还不如。
Katherine Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:15 pm
我看到了许多人留下的留言。 我也有一些心里话要说。 虽然你已经向媒体，家人道歉， 也象有些人所说的， 这是你的家事，真的于外人无关， 但为何人人都会那么生气呢？ 说真的。。我对你好失望。一个活了半个世纪的人这么会犯这样的错误。 不管你是有心或无心， 你已经伤害了你的家人。 身为一家之主的你， 失败了。彻底的失败了。 虽然那些女人爱慕虚荣， 但这不是你出轨的借口。 身为一个爸爸， 你有责任保护你的家人， 身为一个公共人物， 你有责任注意你的行为。 事情已经到了这个地步， 你应该好好的反醒。 “老虎” 虽然犯了同样的错， 但他没有牺牲家人来挽救他的事业。 而你却让你的妻子面对媒体来博取别人对她的同情，希望这件事可以静下来。。 这是你解决问题的方法吗？
该说的别人说了很多， 该做的你也做的很多， 不该做的你却做的更多。 也许多年以后大家会忘了这件事。 但在我的心目中，你错了就是错了。你说世人都会犯错，你不过是一个普通人。错。。 是难免的。。 这样是你所为的忏悔吗。。 到这时候你还在为自己找借口。。
梁智强－ 你的智商。。。 真的有很强吗？难道你还不知道。。 你的信用。 刷暴了。。 你现在说的每一句话听起来。。 都会让人心寒。。 信任是需要时间建立起来。。 可是当你把它摧毁了。。。 它永远不会再回来。 。。
Jocelyn Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:15 pm
TO: Lynn, statement no 23,
In the first place, I do not feel that the girl deserve any pity at all. For someone as old as her, she should be ‘mature’ or ’sensible’ enough to know from the start that it is wrong to even start the relationship with him, isn;t it right? Do you think she deserve any apology too? From the reports, it seems like she is a willingly party! Remember what I mentioned earlier; one has to bear the consequences of what he/she does. It also reflects on how the parents bring her up, isn’t it? Her parents should stop her from this relationship right? Instead they seem to encourage it…isn’t it? I am a woman myself and I do not believe in taking any sides. I feel that the public feel sorry for the girl, which is in fact RIDICULOUS! What apology should she get? No, she DO NOT deserve any!!! She is the willingly party! So I urge you to look at the bigger picture.
devil&angel Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:17 pm
Hi Jack,
Been a fan from the time u were a comedian til a director.
This is a bad time… I understand how u feel as a Man.
Hmm looking at all the comments posted by the rest shows a lot of disappointment from the fans. Well…. its like that dun worry abt it.
After all we are all humans, we make mistakes. And We love you.
But i really hate it when they scold you….. I see no point. What is really important is ur wife and family.
U should have think of how she stood with u when u were nothing so show her with extreme concern and love now is most important.
The kids may have pressure in School especially being laughed by other kids in school so try ur best to protect them.
And most probably other people whom u offend or u disturb them previously may cme out and point fingers….
But dun worry these pple whether they are genuine or fake… too much of such stuffs wold only be seen as bullshit!!!!
And to ALL die-hard fans of Jack.. What is the problem???? so what if he is a flirt ? He is a HUMAN….. What is important is that he still loves his wife and children…? He did his duty as a husband ,he bring bread and butter to family… So let him handle the problems now…. we just keep quiet and support him in slience….
WHen a Man has power and money , we tend to be proud & arrogant but i strongly belive Jack you alrdy know what needs to be done.
I just hope that you climb up again. Your movies are Singapore’s signature… and i believe all ur fans will support you.
And to all those pple who intends to put down Jack…..
” BACK OFF ….. Dun Add OIL TO FIRE…. Be
fore you point ur fingers , Look in the Mirror!!! How well have YOU Manage UR OWn LIfe? Are YOU PERFECT???”
Last but not least,
Jack though this series of problems may be a bad ting.. but on the other hand, its a good time to look around and see who is thruly ur frens…
So GAMBATE and yes u are still our favourite Jack Neo.
Jack Teng Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:25 pm
My advice to you is once for all admit what you have done right from the beginning. DO not tell half true stories.
You may have only one affair. But do you harrass the other ladies.
kaiting Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:37 pm
jack,
虽然这次是你的错，但看了你的press conference和对媒体所说的话，我相信你是真的有心悔改的。从今以后，你一定要更加珍惜那默默支持和爱你的太太美凤，不可忘记这次的教训。
我算是你其中一个忠实影迷吧，因为我一直以来都会去看你所有制作的戏，可说是一路来，你的电视节目和电影一直以来都陪着我长大的。所以发生这种事，令我感到非常惊讶，没想过这种事会发生在你的身上。虽然发生这种事，我要跟你说，我还是会继续支持你的。不要气馁，因为这不是end of the world，而是生命中的另一个开始。
希望你和irene都会坚强。不要因而放弃，因为还有我们这些默默支持你们的粉丝都不想看到你们俩到下。加油! You and irene have my blessings! Do take care!
失望的人 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:41 pm
记者会那场戏好烂。我们无法再支持你了。
dominic pok Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:43 pm
i feel that since jack neo had already apologized to the public and the person that concern, i feel those who should leave them alone and let them have some space .. jack neo i want to tell you i think you are brave man and you got my respect for them which i can learn from you … jia you you are still the same director i know … god bless you and i believe that God will bring you through this storm
Nicole Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:43 pm
梁导，我10岁的儿子都知道你的丑事了，他告诉我你是坏人，真不要脸。你已没有资格再谈‘家庭’了。找个地方躲起来吧。
恶心
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:32
支持你的影迷 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:48 pm
梁导， 你所犯的错是天下男人都会犯的错，有哪些男人敢站出来说自己这一生中没有犯过这种错？ 最重要是知错能改，过去的就让它过去，最重要的是将来。
无可否认你的电影是得到认同的，时间会冲淡一切，现在就好好休息好好陪陪家人，再回来将好的电影带给大家，我与家人都会支持你的！！！！加油！！
Clement Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:53 pm
All the best! God bless!
Ping Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:54 pm
奇异恩典，何等甘甜，
我罪已得赦免；
前我失丧，进被寻回，
瞎眼进得看见。
如此恩典，使我敬畏，
使我心得安慰；
初信之时，既蒙恩惠，
真是何等宝贵！
许多危险，试炼网罗，
我已安然经过；
靠主恩典，完全不怕，
更引导我归家。
智强导演，献上这首经典的赞美诗给你。上帝的恩典与爱是何等长阔高深（以弗所书3:18），任由信祂之人所支取。
Today is the FIRST DAY of the rest of our LIFE! 加油！
梁婆婆SUPPORTER Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:55 pm
给所有的读者: 我不知道这样写会不会引人讨厌,但是我也是有站在自己立场的权力….希望你们读了会认同…我希望你们能够给他一次改过的机会…也给他机会弥补他对家人的伤害…我们是人他也是人,难道人没做错过的吗?为什么就只拿臭鸡蛋往他丢但你们没有想过很多事情是一支手掌拍不响的…这种东西不是你情我愿的吗?怎么只能怪一个人…难道某人不知道他有家室吗?!一路以来都是梁大哥带给我们欢乐..难道现在不应该轮到我们给于他支持吗?我相信这也是她太太及家人最需要的..虽然这段时间他们会很煎熬地走下去,但起码他有我们的支持啊!我明白现在他已成为大众所谓的”人渣”,但是,你没看到梁太太的心酸吗?她真的很需要我们大家的支持.可能你们会说,既然梁太如此地痛苦,为何当初还要一次次地原谅他,就因为爱他及家庭啊!这次的创伤我相信梁大哥已经”领教”了!朋友们,该说的就说了,你们决定吧….我选择原谅他…
Patricia Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 6:59 pm
Hi Jack,
无论你是否真心悔改， 我们无从知道，因为人心难测。你的心唯独上帝知道。It is really between you and God. 但我可以肯定的，也是神在圣经里说的。。耶稣是不会离弃你的。Yes, He will not leave you or forsake you, and His grace is sufficient for you. 希望你在这段时间能专心仰望主。。He is the only one that can deliver you.
衷心希望你和家人走出阴霾，重新建立美满生活。希望能见到更强的智强重现！
Irene, 辛苦你了！ 你做得好！我支持你！
David Woon Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:01 pm
Hi Jack, I have been watching your movies and shows since I was a young child and hence, this incident is really very unexpected…
As a fan, I accept your apology because you’re just human and have realized your folly. I hope you’ll emerge stronger than ever from this episode and continue to make good movies to promote family values that will prevent similar incidents.
You have a most wonderful wife, so please treasure her and remember: “Action speaks louder than words” – so move on and live out your promises.
It’ll take time but I’m sure that with your sincerity and concrete actions, you’ll win your family and your fans back. Will keep you & your family in my prayers.
Stop it Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:02 pm
You people are very funny, keep saying Mr Neo did not explain enough during the press conference, he did not explain what happened actually and etc… what do you guys want him to explain???!!Explain what??!!!!!
He already admitted the whole extra—marital affair and got his wife and children to forgive him, what else do you guys want him to explain??!!!!
Explain why he had extra—marital affair? Explain what is he going to do about it? Explain what?! He only needs to explain to his family members what is he going to do about it, not to us!!
Many people wants Mr Neo to apolagize to the entire Singaporean, for what? Ok, if he really does that, which means he also apolagize to my little nephew (who is also a singaporean) but my little nephew dont even know who is Jack Neo becos he is only 3 years old, so for what?
Look at Edison Chen and Tigerwoods, said sorry to the entire country but in the end, still got people said they are fake. Apolagize also make noise, dont apologize also make noise!!
Just hope Mr Neo will learn his lesson and move on with his life with his family.
weienf Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:12 pm
You’ve totally disappointed me and i am really shocked about the news..
Now i’ve finally realised looks can really be deceiving.
You disgraced all men, and ruined the girls…
I felt that you deserve this.
It’s just karma.
But i’m really glad that you’ve realised your mistake (i hope you really did) and i will still continue to support your movies because i feel that you have all the potential to create good movies and all your movies have been great, also i think that this incident has nothing to do with your movies.
I’m always inspired by them.
Good luck Jack,
be a better husband, father and role model.
I pray for you.
faith lee Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:18 pm
i support u!
Ling Hu Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:18 pm
嗯，你选择幼模。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:33
Malaysia Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:33 pm
We will support you always!!
Be strong!!
感同身受的人 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:43 pm
看到深爱你的妻子痛哭和崩溃，你的心，应该感到刺痛吧？
对你，我感同身受。
你接下来的实际行动，才是最重要的。
每个人都该得到一次改过的机会。
盼你能知错了，从这次的事件中得到教训。
不要再伤害深爱你的妻子，家人，朋友了。
你的妻子对你的不舍不弃，深得我钦佩。
愿你们能早日走出阴霾，重新出发。
祝福你们。加油。
Jason Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 7:59 pm
Dear Jack
We’ll always forgive you, Jack Neo. Everyone will make mistakes and hope this incident won’t repeat again.
Best Regards
Crystal_Belle Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:00 pm
Jack, my family and I have always been great fans of your productions. What you have done really disappoint all of us. You have completely tarnished the ‘Mr Nice Guy’ imgage that I have had on you. Being a celebrity have magnified your horrid behaviour million times more. My heart goes to your wife and children. Take this time to not just ponder over what you have done wrong. REPENT, REPENT & REPENT!
No doubt we will still support local productions, your integrity as a producer is now discounted. You need to work much harder to prove yourself.
Do not just say “Sorry” as words are free. Action speaks louder than words. So, work on it!
SJ Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:18 pm
请你不要在把你太太拖进来了!是你的错，为什么记者会她要帮你说话!如果WENDY没
爆出你和她的事，我看你也不会说出真相吧!”美凤和我会一起继续努力” 为什么要她要和你努力!是你自己吧!
当你偷吃的时候，可有想到老婆的感受？你怎么吃得下去!!!!!!!!
SP Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:22 pm
I take my hat off to your wife.She is really a woman with great dignity.What she has done is out of love for the family, the greatest gift of all for any family man. Well said by you that she has put up the endurance that not all women can take it. Give her all the morale support and build up her confidence.Love and treasure her much more than before.It’s really not easy for her to go through. I wish that I’ve a chance to tell her that I really admire her courage and she’s the most beautiful woman and mother that I’ve seen. She makes life goes on as normal despite the difficult time. God will help her overcome this difficult transition.Pls convey my sincere regards and blessings to her.
Katie Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:31 pm
I truly believe God has the power to make rise you up till people around you bow down to you and the smartest people the fool of themselves. He also has the power to bring you down till the deepest depth.
“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.
Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full grown, gives birth to death.”
James 1:12-15
Mr Kiasu Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:35 pm
大丈夫敢做敢当，你却把太太拿出来做挡箭牌。这是懦夫的行为！我瞧不起你！你丢进了所有男人的脸！我呸！你不只找女人，还专门挑选嫩草，越年轻越好，这证明你不但是“一只披着羊皮的狼”，而且还很“色”绝对是有阴谋的，而不是一时的冲动，你骗得了你的太太，却骗不了所有的男人。
heartless Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:36 pm
It is very true that what you have done are not for the public to judge or comment, but the real reason why many S’poreans feel angry and not justified by your actions is only because 你说一套，做一套!!!!
We have been proud of you, Jack Neo the director, because you represent a lot of S’porean, especially the low and middle-income families and citizens. We watched your many films and learnt from them and associated with them and we sort of think that there is finally one person who can ’speak up’ for us through his film and that is you!!
However, all the admiration and trust that we built with you and your films throughout the years, have gone into the drain in just a matter of days… in just a matter of your ‘moment of folly’.
You may still feel that you do not owe us, S’porean, an apology coz what you did wrong is only to your family, but, THINK AGAIN!!! Real hard, this time. Coz without us and our support, would you have been where you are now???
Bring your macho-nism down and eat the humble pie, Jack. Stand up and be a man and face the music that you have played yourself. Apologise sincerely and properly like Tiger Woods did, and this time, leave your wife alone. She is the victim here, and she shouldn’t be put in such limelight and such a spot in front of the media’s glare.
rongping Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:49 pm
振作！
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:33
random Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:52 pm
Look, it seriously isn’t our problem. Even if he had an affair, that’s his problem. If he wasn’t a public figure in any term, he wouldn’t even need to come clear with everything. Even if he is a public figure, there is also not a need to tell the entire of Singapore what he had done wrong. Everyone make mistakes and maybe everyone should just take it all normally. Stuffs happens and the only person he needs to account to should be his wife and his family, but not the entire herd of Singaporeans.
wic Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:58 pm
我只想问梁导，如果不是东窗事发，你会忏悔吗？几时？
Doris Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 8:59 pm
I’ve been through what Irene is going through, so I understand how it feels to be betrayed. But I chose to forgive my husband and now, our love for each other is even stronger than before.
It takes a lot of courage to forgive and to forget, so Jack, I hope that you really appreciate your family more after what happen.
Don’t be bothered by what other people say. Life got to move on!
加油吧！Jack & Irene
alicia Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:00 pm
Hi Jack, I am your big supporter! I have always been very supportive of your movies and have watched em all. I am extremely disappointed by your actions of late. You have a wonderful wife and a family, yet you chose to be involved with other women. I feel what you did was low-down and shameless. As a public character, it is very unacceptable for you to make such mistakes, even though that is the moral lesson you are trying to teach in your movies. I also feel the way you handled the situation was extremely uncluttered. I find that during the press conference, you not only did not address the issue at all, nor did you apologize to any of the women, but most importantly, you are very irresponsible for using your wife to shield yourself and gain sympathy. I feel that Mrs Neo, who is the biggest victim here, should not have been at the press conference in the first place at all. You should be brave enough to step out and answer for your own actions. What you did at the press conference truly changed my perception of you as I though you would 一人做事一人当. Screaming at reporters as though you were a loving and caring husband only came across to me as hypocritical. It was a really bad move because it only made things worse. As your fan, my biggest advice to you is to stay out of the limelight till the thing blows over and then conduct a real sincere press conference alone to answer for your own actions and then leave showbiz. Be strong and wish you all the best!
blog reader Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:12 pm
I am shock when I got to know that you are a christian. I wonder have you accepted Jesus Christ as your saviour or is it because you have not been reading the bible? God knows.
As most of the movie which you made have encouraged people to gamble,worship idols, commit adultery, indecent…etc which the bible greatly discouraged. Though your movie please human however it does not please God.Make sure you reflect on your movie making content too. Everything we do we need to glorify God.Read Exodus 20
If you really want to change your behaviour and repent draw near to God, pray and read his words daily.You will commit adultery again if you do not draw near to God. Praying or speaking in tongue does not draw you near to God but praying with understanding will draw you near to him.
Use God strength to repent and not rely on yourselves.
Regards
Blog reader
Fernando Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:13 pm
As your fan, I’m disappointed with your action. But really, I would say whoever criticise Jack is a DISGRACE. I totally agree with what Jocelyn says here. Who are you to judge Jack’s actions? You applauded him when he won all those awards, but criticised him when he’s in trouble. Ask yourself, what sort of fan are you? Simply pathetic.
To Wendy Chong who claimed she is a victim, you are responsible for you action. Jack wouldnt even stand a chance if you didnt accept him in the first place. So to be honest, I don’t feel pity for you at all.
I will always support your films! Stay strong!
Haha Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:14 pm
Hahahahahahaha!
jesusloveme Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:16 pm
Personally I do not think You owe anyone an apology but You DO OWED THAT to Your LOVELY WIFE AND BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN.
(PS understand that I do not Condone Your ACT… But Since YOUR LOVELY WIFE HAS FORGIVEN YOU, who are we to forgive and not forgive you)
Your Wife has the Best Virtues of JESUS CHRIST, which is LOVE.
And LOVE is JESUS’ GRACE OF FORGIVENESS.(Romans 5:15)
She has, a HEART OF GOLD, THE HEART OF JESUS CHRIST. SHE IS FULL OF GRACE, AND IS AN ADMIRABLE WOMAN/WIFE.
Our LORD is a FORGIVING GOD(Colossian 2:13) WHO LOVES MERCY(Micah 7:18d,19)
And I believe GOD HAS FORGIVEN YOU for It is by Your Confession (to YOUR PASTOR) and Repentance that have saved You from Fallen Grace.(1John 1:7b,9)
Honestly I’m not an ardent fans of Yours, NEITHER I’m a fan of INFIDELITY.(I’m Not from CHC) I’m a fan of JESUS CHRIST, and believes in CHRIST WORDS. I’m a single mother who had been through what Mrs Neo is going through, It is not easy. As what You’d said:” No woman/wife can tolerate ” and she did far much better, SHE FORGIVES YOU .
Hence FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR LOVELY WIFE AND BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN, (I pray) YOU MUST REPENT.
LOVE AND TREASURE HER also to Your beautiful Children;
And continue to live in the LORD JESUS CHRIST FOR HE FIRST LOVED YOU
(1JOHN 4:10) .
HE WILL BE MERCIFUL(Hebrews 8:12); And HE WILL NOT FORSAKE YOU ,just as YOUR LOVELY WIFE AND CHILDREN WILL NOT TOO (Nehemiah 9:17c,31).
If YOU are Willing, I believe YOU CAN… REPENT, AMEN !
MAY LORD’S MERCY, PEACE & LOVE BE YOURS (Jude2) and HIS BLESSINGS BE UPON YOUR LOVELY WIFE AND CHILDREN IN ABUNDANCE, AMEN !
GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU.
rockbliss Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:24 pm
Think you guys who wish to critic him should just put an end if you do not wish to encourage.
Put yourself in his shoes and do you think when the time this thing happen to u, will you still say the same thing?
Enlarging his mistake , don’t you think it is the irony of nature tt with good times, you are with the person and bad times you just attack him?
Don’t tell me you guys never do anything tt is disgraceful before.
may Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:27 pm
你犯了全天下男人都会犯的错。
但你却勇于认错，你的勇气，我很欣赏。
the past can not be change but your future is still in your power.
希望你能弥补你的过错，
希望你们一家人可以好好的。
老婆家人孩子不管做什么都是为自己的老公爸爸好，
亲情胜过一切。
我希望你是一念之差，
而不是死性不该。
梁导~
你可以制作出那么多深入民心的电影，
我相信你肯定可以重组美满的家庭。
上天一定会保佑你的。
加油！
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:33
Eugene Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:28 pm
Jack, you have my respect. You’re a bigger man than most of us to have faced up to your failures in such a public way. God has forgiven you and He who has began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it. And your retribution was taken on the cross. Your Saviour said to someone else along time ago, ‘He who is without sin, cast the first stone’.
It’s very easy to criticize you from the comfort of our private lives. Many people who have left their comments here, if their lives were placed under the spotlight, would we be able to stand under scrutiny?
You have been forgiven by the highest court in creation. Take your forgiveness and love your wonderful family again.
Someone very wise said a long time ago, ‘He who is without sin, cast the first stone’. He who said that could have cast a stone, but he didn’t, He paid for it.
rockbliss Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:30 pm
it takes 2 hands to clap.
don’t put the entire fault onto him.
No matter what is done is already done.
For those that say he brought shame to christ – Don’t judge him before you judge yourself.
All of us makes mistakes .
做人 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:40 pm
道歉需要诚意，人家马英九做错了，也会鞠躬，说对不起。
还有，只有区区3分钟， 还大呼小叫德，让人失望…
还是拍电影的，难道不知道观众是怎么想的嘛，
更讽刺的刚拍了<> 这部戏，不由得让人疑问，梁导自己是否知道怎做人！！！
stranger Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
Hey Jack,
U cant change what has happened, but u can choose the future u want to make with ur family. I wish u n ur family blessing on the road to healing and recovery. The only One who can restore is the Lord, n only He can restore our brokenness even better than it was broken.
Ppl can be cynical n say that everything is staged, but i choose to believe that u sincere regret ur mistakes n want to repent.
I also want to say that u do not have to apologise to the public at all as this is a private matter, and the true opinion n forgiveness that u seek should be that of ur wife n kids. On the other hand, thanks for the laughter u have given the singapore public through the years.
做人 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:43 pm
道歉需要诚意，人家马英九做错了，也会鞠躬，说对不起。
还有，只有区区3分钟， 还大呼小叫的，让人失望…
还是拍电影的，难道不知道观众是怎么想的嘛，
更讽刺的刚拍《 做人 》这部戏，不由得让人疑问，梁导自己是否知道怎做人！！！
做人 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:45 pm
道歉需要诚意，人家马英九做错了，也会鞠躬，说对不起。
还有，只有区区3分钟， 还大呼小叫的，让人失望…
还是拍电影的，难道不知道观众是怎么想的嘛，
更讽刺的是刚拍了《 做人 》这部戏，不由得让人疑问，梁导自己是否知道怎么做人！！！
coolingstar9 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 9:54 pm
Human beings bound to commit some mistakes. Since you have repent yourselves.
We should give Mr.Jack Neo the chance. We should selflessly forgive and encourage him change for the better.
Jack, I believe you can do it.
Jason Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:00 pm
你们这些人，说到这样哦。真心的悔改，神会原谅你的。 不要去听那些自以为是的信徒～
如果真是如此神不能原谅的话。。换去信佛吧。。因为放下屠刀立地成佛～
ladytulip这些的话是凑着你来的。。如果你不是基督徒，那么你就该了解～如果你是基督徒～那么请你不要那么肤浅
顺 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:04 pm
我很喜欢看你的电影，从小看着“梁婆婆”到长大看“做人”。虽然我也觉得把妻子拉上记者招代会，搞外遇很错，可是我以然会支持你的作品。我觉得你的作品很杰出，很好笑，很反映人们的心声。希望经过这次的“浩劫”，你会推出更搞笑，更反映人们心声，更杰出的作品。
真欺待看到你下一个作品。加油！！！
DN Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:04 pm
Jack Neo bro, may this be a turning point of your life. We forgive as we’re forgiven. I pray that God’s grace, love and mercy will heal your family relationship and may his strength enable you to stand up on your feet again.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:34
Keith Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:04 pm
在影业这么多年的梁导，一手安排搞一场这么drama的记者招待会。
你明知道各路媒体一定会到的，是媒体伤害了你们俩夫妻？还是你利用了媒体？还是你给予你太太的2度伤害？一般读者观众，看到这么多闪关灯镜头对着你们，多少一定有怜悯之心。
但是，你是影业人，在娱乐圈里的，和媒体是相辅相成，你开新戏，上片子的时候，还怕记者来得不够多叻！！不是吗？
的确是家事，但伤害的不只是你的家人，除了那些‘有关系’的女人，小女生外。。
不要忘了你是公众人物，不要忘了你是电影人，不要忘了什么叫社会责任。
但道歉真诚就好，
要忘了你是公众人物，放下身段。
要忘了你是电影人，别再搞那么多桥段情节。
H2O Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
有没有想过你犯下的错误需要这么多人为你承担痛苦。为什么不满足你所拥有的一切？你的太太很伟大， 因为爱你而原谅你， 可是不要把这当作是理所当然。因为你的才华， 你曾经为社会做了很多，可是在社会给予你荣耀和地位之后， 你却没有珍惜而将它毁于一旦。希望你对所有因该道歉的人说声对不起， 然后坚强的面对。
Relativist Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
People to realise that this is none of their business. If they have done any wrong, regardless of any magnitude. They have no rights to criticize.
Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof when your own doorstep is unclean. – Confucius
Helen Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:15 pm
梁导，我看了你的新闻，说真的，我很替梁太难过， 看到梁太在记者会上崩溃晕倒，我跟着难过的掉眼
泪，很希望能够抱着梁太安慰她。要勇敢面对所发生的一切，梁太，你要照顾好自己的身体，给梁导一次重生的机会，我相信日后梁导一定会加倍的珍惜你们的婚姻， 弥补你心里的创伤。梁太，看到你消瘦，我心里好难过，也很心痛，你要好好保重，我支持你！梁导，说过的话要做到，好好珍惜梁太的付出!
mineowyn Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:25 pm
btw, you claim that you cut the conference short because your wife stood up to leave, how come I stare and stare at the video, it’s you Jack Neo who stood up to urge your wife to leave leh???
Pian Gin La??
Faith Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:31 pm
Really pity your wife and ex-wife to love a heartless and faithless man like you.
Ken chaw Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:32 pm
I Learned lesson form you, you v honestly and admitting your mistake in the first place.
Everyone will make MISTAKE in the life , cos noone is perfect.
I here to wish JAck NEo all the best and get this over cos LIKE IT OR NOT LIFE STILL NEED TO CARRY ON .
JIayo Nei.
catherine Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:34 pm
看完你的告白后我不禁感叹为何您在出轨时没想起你的太太及家人？为何当您面对诱惑时没好好的向上帝祷告，求神将一切的诱惑从您们的婚姻中除去？苦了您的太太为了让您没后顾之忧的打拚事业而将一切家庭的责任扛下，除照顾孩子外还得兼顾您的公司，结果换来这样伤心的回报。。。。如果你能多关心家人，多耗时间陪伴他们，看见太太为家庭的付出，今天的问题应该不会产生了。。。。
虽说这是您的家事，您个人品格的问题，我相信只要您回到上帝的面前认罪悔改，祂必赐您恩典力量来面对这一切问题。 这不是灾难，我相信这是上帝的管教，好好学习这宝贵的功课。
梁太，辛苦您了！！在这非常时期，您要面对舆论和其他接踵而来的问题，各方面所带来的压力是常人未必能承受的，好好照顾自己，透过祷告将一切交付予上帝，祂必与您同在！！
祝福您们的婚姻美满，夫妻关系坚不可摧！！
Sunflower Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:38 pm
Dear Jack Neo,
This was what you said on your 50th birthday:
50岁，最重要的是要往前看
千万不要放弃
哪怕有什么事情发生。。。
千万要提醒自己
路还是要继续的走。。。
最重要的是
家人还在一边支持着。。。
whatever that was done cannot be undone, life have to move on….
Hope that you can treasure your wife and children….they are the most important people that you have now…And most important your relationship with GOD….
Recite in Psalm 71…..
GOD Bless.
Aerie Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:41 pm
In the end of all these affairs, the ones who ended up being seriously hurt is not yourself, but your wife and your children. Sadly, people will only realize the heavy consequences of the actions they have done when things got stirred up badly.
Not that everyone have or not, the right to judge others but, if it happens that your negative actions outweighs your positive actions, no matter how much joy your have brought to your fans in the past, cannot cover up those negative deeds that you have done. Whats done, is done.
The consequences of being a well known person, whatever deeds you have done, people will be talking about them and judging them. Although there may be similar cases happening out there, but, you, a well known person, who inspired thousands to live a positive way, think the right way and do the right things, ended up doing the exact opposite. Of course it will cause such an uproar in the public.
Why though? All the actions that you have done. Now you have destroyed a peaceful family and a good career. A few minutes of ‘joy’ to exchange for such a bad ending. Worth it?
At least, don’t just blog about your apology, or what-so-ever.You will give people the feeling that you are still avoiding. Stand out and face it yourself in person. Don’t drag your poor wife around anymore. She is tired enough. Mentally and emotionally worn out.
All the best to your future.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:34
Mr Go Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:56 pm
你说“我深信，主耶稣不会在苦难的时候离我而去的。“
那当你在搞婚外情的时候，你其实已选择离开主耶稣了！
Geraldine Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 10:59 pm
Dear Jack,
Although there have been lots of nagative news about you even after you admit your fault, but I do really hope you will start to treasure your wife & your family. Irene has been very supportive and I salute her for that. Do your best in gaining trust and keeping the family. May God bless you through these difficult times.. Look forward to your works.. Jia you…
Stone Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:02 pm
Hi Jack
In Life Everybody make mistake. It how we deal with it,So no matter how hard your life never give up.Your family & Fen are behind you but make sure you learn your lesson..BECAUSE IT NEVER TOO LATE TO LEARN YOUR MISTAKE…..last Word Jack..Those criticise you are not your enemies.You can use thiers remarks to find out the mistake in yourself,which you cannot see youself
kkyeo Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:02 pm
Dear Jack Neo
IMO, whatever event that has happened is a kind of “occupational hazard” because, to be a creative actor and director, you’ve no other choice but to “expose yourself” or should I say, to “put yourself” in all kinds of “situations” in order to get first-hand real-life experiences and challenges(of various kinds)for your inspirations. Right?
I’m happy that your wife is so understanding and I do hope most of your friends and fans will have the same understanding too.
Wish you and your family the best of health and happiness.
Qiuting Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:09 pm
Jiayou! Love will conquer all.. And Love is all you need!
Best blessing to your wife, your family and yourself.
无语 Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:11 pm
伪男人，东窗事发后，因为除了会拍电影以外不会做别的了，只好走亲人路线，先稳定家庭，女人通常很傻很天真，如果以后的日子需要全新加坡的人帮你看老公，你们的婚姻还有意义吗？真的很好笑。没有担当的男人算什么？那颗嫩草无论是何居心，毕竟还小，要走的路还长，你跟梁志强这种人真不值得，两年的感情，连一句道歉都没有，以后要带眼识人。以前对那头老牛没有什么好感，现在看起来，毕竟人家还有担当！真为这两个女人不值！
CJ-XinG Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:15 pm
Agreed on the comments given by
Jocelyn Says on March 13th, 2010 at 12:02 am.
A Huge lesson to be learnt, a lesson that no one in life would want that to happen.
Jack,
That’s life! The path of life on your own to decide, to choose to go to.
Live with pride than regrets. Life Short, live with happiness and treasure whatever you have before it ends… Don’t ruin your life. Have my support! No 1 is perfect til the mistakes it made, DON’T commit again. Jia You!
Sapphire Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:19 pm
If time is to revert back, will you really never step onto this kind of path ever again? Will you keep in mind that you have to think before you act? Will you really appreciate your family and fans again? Will you still misuse your fame to con the young girls?
Then, will you still say that “I made this mistake ‘cos I’m just an ordinary human”?
I believe that you had been given many, many chances for you to stop your actions. But you just are blind to the hints dropped to you by God. This is why this ballooned and everything just popped.
Annoyed Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:21 pm
Who have not made mistake before, big or small, also mistakes. Just learn from it, not as if u have committed a big crime, just that u are a public figure, that is why every damm thing u do people to will comment.
God will forgive u.
Doreen Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:38 pm
Hi Jack, I know that this is a very difficult phase of your life with nasty criticism against your doings. There is no way you can change anyone’s impression and condemnation and however aggrieved you may feel, time will heal your wounds and do not allow all this to drain your energy but instead you must have the courage and patience with God’s blessings to face it. Not all who criticise you are your enemies. You can use their remarks to find the weaknesses in yourself which you cannot see. You should not give up good work just because of criticism. If you can admit your own weaknesses, indeed you have the intellectual strenght to succeed. So Jack, what I’m trying to tell you is don’t give up, God will always be there for you. My prayers for you, your lovely wife and wonderful children.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:34
Chen Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:52 pm
智强大哥，接下来你还会在狮城娱乐圈发展吗？就此结束了你的导演才华会不会太可惜呢？有想过去海外如台湾，香港，中国发展吗？外地的吴宗宪，曾志伟，成龙到现在也是那么吃香啊！就当我们失去了个国宝，但你别埋没你的导演才华哦！别气馁了，继续往前走吧，虽然真舍不得你离开狮城娱乐圈。
Tay Kok Yong Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
加油！我会一样的支持你。呼呼呼~
ngan Says:
March 13th, 2010 at 11:57 pm
大头无法控制小头!
Supporter! Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:02 am
I know this is a really difficult time for you and your family, i hope you can stay strong and treasure your family after this incident. You have an amazing wife who loves you truly and deeply.
I am in no position to say that i will forgive you because i am not the victim of this incident. I just want to tell you thar i will still continue to support the flims you make in the future. You are one of the very few successful flim makers in Singapore so please do not give up. I hope you will continue to make flims that will touch people’s heart.
What’s done cannot be undone. The most important thing is you admit your mistake and not repeat it again.
Jia you!!!
JTP Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:02 am
It’s really time we should give all of them a space to breath & when I mean ALL of them, I mean Jack, his family and the women who claimed to be involved in this whole incident. There are so many people saying that Jack had ruined the women’s life, Jack had hurt his wife, Jack is this, Jack is that… Think again! By writing your comments in this blog or in your own blog, newspapers, websites etc, aren’t you also ruining people’s life when they are intending to let go of all the wrong doings they did but you guys just do not want to give them a chance to. If you are writing a positive comment to help them stand up once again, I’ve got nothing to say. But if you are spreading salt on the wound, you are nothing better either. If commiting adultery is a sin, you who judge people are sinning too. A sin is still a sin, be it big or small. If you are intending to stop supporting him & his movies, dun worry, just turn your heads off away from him and dun support him anymore cus he will still do as well even without your support. There is no such thing as when 1000 ppl dun support him anymore, he will not be able to produce good movies again. God’s gifting towards a human is not something any human in this world can stop or control. So seriously it doesnt matter who is going to leave cus afterall, the people who are willing to forgive all that he had done will still support him and that’s more than enough to keep him going on and on. He is absolutely right that during this period of painfulness, Jesus will never leave him. & I totally agree that its easy for women to say “just divorce him la” bcos we are nt in her position. If one fine day, your beloved husband cheats on you, you wun say the same thing anymore. Afterall, its someone you love so dearly and it’s nv easy to give up on someone you love so much. Truth is, Jack did smth wrong but he admitted and his wife forgave him and they are willing to start everything afresh. Fact is soooooooo many ppl are not willing to give them that chance to start everything afresh. Let’s give them a chance, will we?
Lg Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:03 am
Dear Jack,
I know i have no right to interfere, cos this is your family problem. But i hope you have learnt your lesson.
You are a very lucky man, cos your wife and children had forgiven you. I really admire your wife’s resilence. She had to endure so much of your nonsense and yet she could still forgive you at this time, all because she love you so much. You have such a wonderful wife, so you must treated her well from now on. Treat the rest of your family equally well too, cos they had also endured your nonsense.
Once again, i hope that you have learnt your lesson and continue your career in filming. Don’t forget, in this world, lust can come from anywhere, but you have to learn to “keep your hands to yourself”.
May God bless you for your path ahead, and continue to stay strong.
God Bless.
t Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:04 am
Jack, at this difficult time, it will be in your best interest to lie low and keep a low profile. Let the storm blow over. Everyone may be picking on you period, but they’ll eventually get bored and move along to something “juicer” when the next scandal comes along. This too, shall pass.
The best thing you can do now, is 忍.Spend time with your wife and kids.I have also written a blog entry based on your turmoils. Do visit it when you are free:
http://boh-tak-chek.blogspot.com ... -break-already.html
Lady at Khatib's lower seletar Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:08 am
Dear Jack, ur lovely wife & children. Recently, U all are in my morning prayer (sometime 5am). As I pray for you last week. I show a tree being cut off but yet it appear a baby tree spring out from the log. It really show to my heart that ur pass negative had been cut off but new hope and restoration with greater love than before with your wife and children (better relationship is to come). To me the baby tree may take time to grow 2b a big tree again but I strongly believe with help of your own big log foundation (love of your family) this baby tree is a new life base on what your family love better than before. However, please do not forget, this baby tree need “WATER” from Heaven. “Do your best and the Lord will do the rest”.
This week, as I remember u again and hear from public angry why u drag ur wife to be in show explaination and may be directed by u to be fainted. I show a vision of prostitute women as stated in the bible as the public want to stone her to death for her sin. “lets stone her so that she die, she not reserve forgiveness because she is a prostitute”.
Well… well… “Let God be the judge who is right and who is wrong”
Jack and family, u all Take care . . . God bless you.
Stephanie Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:16 am
Hi Brother n Sister-in-Christ,
Greetings!
I am glad that my sis read the wan bao and told me that Irene, you are smiling peacefully. Glory to Lord Jesus!
Irene, do you know, ever since Lord fully come in me and whenever I prayed for others, He showed me vision of the adversaries.
The first time I prayed for my nephew because Lord showed vision of his whole heart covered by thick layers of fat. That afternoon, I saw a spirit as big as him, orange in color rose out of him and walked off.
That was the first time I saw such a big one. It was supposed to take his life but Lord saved him, he is 11yr old and school had sent him to specialist due to his fatness too.
That day, when Sis n I prayed for you, after the 2nd prayer, then I realised why so difficult to get the spirit out of you. There were 4 fully dark spirit walk out of you. 1st one almost black, the other 3 strong dark grey. My Christian friend ever told me if a man is fully black, he is taken by the devil.
I am glad that Lord is able to clear it for you. Glory to Lord Jesus! He came to earth as our Saviour because for 1500yrs, the Israeli proved that they cannot walk by the 10 commandments, even the best of King David failed.
Jesus walked a Righteous life to claim for us the blessing of Abraham. He knows we, who cannot be follow the law 100% and thus have to die. He died for us! Glory to Lord Jesus! He was imputed with all our sins and we are imputed with the Righteousness of God in Christ. All these, He freely given to us. All He ask of us is to believe. It’s as easy as this. Glory Glory!
I am glad that you and Jack accepted Christ and Now are the Righteousness of God in Christ. We are God’s beloved. It’s when we know how much Christ has done for us that we will know how much Abba in Heaven loves us. Glory Glory! Amen Amen
Shalom!
Hng Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:17 am
梁導，不要管醬多…
那個真的是你的私事，老婆都原諒你了，別人講什麽都沒有用的。
那一天真的逼到你沒有得拍電影哦，後悔的是他們自己，畢竟在m’sia 和singapore 只有你的電影可以看罷了…
很多人都會得理不饒人的，相信自己就沒事了。
good啊！加油！！
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:35
JTP Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:18 am
When you ask Jesus how much He loves you, He stretched out his arms and said “This Much” and He died on the cross for us. Sorry but even though Jack might had done something wrong, the one and only thing that will never ever change is how much Jesus STILL loves him as His beloved son. So whoever who are christians should KNOW this and whoever who are non-christian, you absolutly dunno God’s love is SOOOO wide and SOOOO deep! There is no such thing as not fit to be Christian or smth in that line cus in the first place, God knows humans DO sin but yet He still choose to send His beloved Son to die on the cross for our sake.
rf88 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:22 am
a leopard doesn’t change its spots. Time will tell but i believe u’ll do it again. Men stray cause of a lousy sex life at home.unless ur wife can do some wonders,i’m almost sure u’ll do it again. I pity ur wife n children, the humiliation tt they have to go thru. Though she may ‘forgive’ u, she wont trust u again. Believe me, i’m having first hand experience as we speak. To target young women, ur sick truthfully. Some role model u r. Men cant b trusted..sry..but true..
havier Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:32 am
since you know your wrongdoings then the most important thing is to change completely and wholeheartedly..
had been watching your shows since i was like 6 years old . always support you jack.
Which man in this world wouldnt commit this kind of error? theres A LOT of temptations even for us , common ppl, let alone is YOU!
be brave , and im sure lord will guide u back to the right path again!
HUAT AH!!!!!!
Jud Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:34 am
Note: The following excerpt is from the Bible.
“The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery.
In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?”
They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger.
When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”
Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.
At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there.
Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
“No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
John 8:3-11 (NIV)
Thomas Tan Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:34 am
相信陆续会有妞出来指正你,但多都不够格.臭妞,未付出或损失什么竟声讨国宝级梁导,居心叵测…..
tikopeh Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:54 am
你说婚外情是家事，你只需面对家人，是对的，我不否认，。我起初也认为大家不应该打落水狗。男欢女爱是别人家的事，很正常。
但你千不该万不该带老婆去记者会，借老婆原谅你来说服大家，这不是一个聪明的做法， 大家只会同情你的老婆而更加TL你。还有明知道是记者会就不要带没文化的再生儿子来丢人，还敢大声说”男人玩女人是很正常的”。真的是上梁不正下梁歪。梁大导，读了那么多书，作了那么多年的人，风流和下流的定义你不会分就不要混在一起。”知人善用”的结果就只是反映出”同类的鸟是飞在一起”
请你去和你没文化的再生儿子说 “男欢女爱是可能叫风流，但拿人家女儿来玩就一定是叫做下流。。。”
若他常作这种下流事叫他千万千万不要有孩子，以免得到报应。满身的佛牌也不用带了，带了佛祖也不会保佑他的。
要求大家原谅，但所写的，所说的都像在作戏。。还敢说会小心自己的言行举止和对待所有女生的方式，避免引起误会。。误会。。误会会上了又上的吗？人Tiko就要tiko的有style, 广东人说的有錯就要認,被打要站直， 不要一直利用家人的原谅你的说法来说服大家。
你深信，主耶稣不会在苦难的时候离你而去。。。但你不知道在你做对不起家人的事情的时候，你已经离主耶稣而去了。。
最后希望你明白， 自己勇敢的站出来认错，坦白所有已经发生的事件或还没被别人踢爆的事件。
那就真的对得起你自己和你的家人了。你也可能得到他们真正的原谅。
如果你敢勇敢自己站出来承认，那我就祝你和家人日后家庭美满。
17 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:55 am
Hi Jack,
It’s good that you have come clear. Though I am not a fan, I just hope that in the midst of all this..u and your family will become stronger. You’re really blessed to have such a good wife. Do treasure her..Press on..God Bless…
spring Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:01 am
If he had fallen uncontrollably in love with Wendy and hence the affair, so be it. But having read what he did to the others, his attempt to use his status and authority to ‘chase’ after them, I think something’s quite wrong with his integrity. Have not heard him apologise to the girls involved…
Infidelity may be private, but not hypocrisy Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:05 am
Infidelity may be private, but not hypocrisy.
The timing of local film-maker Jack Neo’s SEXUAL INDISCRETIONS could not have been uncannier – in the wake of the scandal tht erupted over superstar American golfer Tiger Wood’s string of affairs.
In Neo’s case, we sense a polarisation of views. Some say he should suffer the consequences, others want him forgiven and yet others say the media has blown it out of proportion.
The contrasting feelings of angst and sympathy towards the man suggest that the central issue appears to be his infidelity.
Is it?? We feel for his wife and childre who must suffer thru this episode. Yet, infidelity, while publicly taboo, is no uncommon in society.
And if it is common, why the big fuss?? Is it because it involves a celebrity? If that were so, similiar celebrities like American talk show comdedian David Letterman and a host of soccer stars would have faced an outburst of public indignation, which was not the case.
Must of the commotion revolving around NEO’S INFIDELITY IS NOT BECAUSE OF HIS CELEBRITY STATUS. Rather, the PUBLIC INDIGNATION IS PROMPTED BY HIS HYPOCRISY.
He propagates sound family values thru his movies and, hence indirectly advocates them.
It is fair to say that the man in the street identifies him with the family values he portrays so truly and vividly in his films.
Like Tiger Woods, who is suffering a similar fallout, Neo has PROPAGATED AN IMAGE OF BEING A CLEAN-LIVING MAN WHO ESPOUSES FAMILY-ORIENTED VALUES.
So, the contrast between his SQUEAKY CLEAN PUBLIC IMAGE AND HIS PRIVATE INDISCRETIONS is the reason for public disapproval.
The public opprobrium he is suffering is not because of his infidelity, BUT HIS BLATANT HYPOCRISY.
——extracted from ST Forum, March 13
yo Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:12 am
Not sincere.. never say sorry to those you hurt. especially those young gals.
imagine if your daughter is in those gals’ shoes, as a father, how will you feel?
you said those gals accuse you…
imagine if a jerk hurt your daughter & said to you that your daughter accuse him. how will you feel?
you prey on those young gals…
imagine an old man prey on your daughter…
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:35
Meiling Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:13 am
智强大哥，第一次看到你的时候是十多年前的事。那时我在events company做工而你受邀来做司仪，那时我还跟你谈起了彼此孩子读书的心得，你给我的感觉是你是一个好老公，好爸爸。我在你的电视，电影中成长。。。发生了这样的事情，你内心肯定非常难过，谁人无过？当新闻报道的时候，我第一时间想的就是你老婆，非常为你太太担心，。。。而不想要如何杯葛你。我祝福你和你的太太永远快乐，并且携手走完人生接下来的人生。我会永远支持你，还有你的作品因为你是个人才。千万不要气馁还是有很多人支持你的。加油！加油！
Dawn Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:27 am
Just a joke, No offence hor…
Think after all the comments & Comments No Enough, it’s time to give the Best Comment Award, Best News 2010 Award, Best Humour Award, Best Buddy Award (maybe give this award to Ah Nan.hee…)Best What-Not Award…etc.Also, maybe Jack & family can collect commission from the press companies ya…Wow, u goto any newspapers kiosk these few days, the papers are sold like hotcakes coz of him. Don’t play play…hee.
Food for Thought -
Quote John 8:7
“When they (Jews) kept on questioning him, he (Jesus) straightened up and said to them, “Let anyone among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her…..”
Yes, God Forgive (He Has a Big Heart) but we still have to face our earthly punishment & learn to be better people. Amen.
Des Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:32 am
Let those without sin cast the first stone – John 8:7
And I see many stones flying around..
Jack, what you did, already done. It is what you going to do now that will make a difference. Take good care of your wife and children, may God bless you and your family.
Disappoint Money No Enough fan Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:34 am
Jack, you have committed serious adultery. You’ve brought disgrace to your family, your church, your friends and your fans. You should know you are a public role model and your actions can influence the thinking of many.
Your fame and success, should give glory to God, not to yourself as this will make you feel like you are a “god” and that you can have all the women you want.
God is a forgiving God. If you really want to repent, go to church and seek for forgiveness.
stephen Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:36 am
Courage
Hi Jack,
since you are a Christian, I will use Christian words to encourage you.
When we think God is testing us too much, it is in fact a mental block we set for ourselves. A person was about to strike diamond but gave up and sold the land because he thought the testing was too much. He had been digging for far too many years – so he thought. The next man came and continued his work and found a giant diamond within a day. So know that it is always better to continue the fight than say the testing is too much – no matter how long it has lasted.
God tests us but will always give us new strength to pass the test- the further we walk the tougher road of resisting wrong actions, the nearer we are to freedom from wrong action. Go all the way, trusting God and we will gain our strength from God for the freedom from sin. Jesus said those who trust God with their life will gain life.
When you think only doing the wrong things can make you happy, it’s a lie. Wrong things make us happen for a while but much sadness and regret after it’s been done. Only God can give us true happiness. That’s when we stop looking for quick answers to prayers but sit at His feet patiently learning truths and drawing strength from Him.
When God fills you up then you can love others.
HL Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:41 am
Utterly disappointed. I grew up watching your movies, which were filled with family values. I enjoyed them because the messages you tried to bring across never fail to earn my tears. Yet as the director and producer of those movies, you did not even uphold those values.
Besides apologizing to your loved ones, i feel that you owe the society at large an apology. Being a celebrity or a renowned director, you should understand that your actions are constantly watched by many, especially the media. Therefore, think and weigh the consequences before you act. Any mistakes can be detrimental to your loved ones, instead of you alone. Nevertheless, i felt eased that you have stepped forward to clarify the issue. So pls take this as an important lesson learnt and never ever repeat it. After all, it hurts more to see your loved ones suffering, instead of you yourself.
Chris Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:50 am
梁导演，
只要你真心悔改，耶稣必会原谅你，帮助你! Amen. 神要我們謙卑認錯、悔改，記得別再犯同樣的錯誤了。好好珍惜你的太太和孩子吧！
康美凤女士，
这些日子可真难受及了。或许没有人能力够真正了解你现在的心情和感受，但是美凤姐妹，你要坚强哦！耶稣会与你同在，帮助你。你说你需要我们的支持和祝福。在这里我要以一棵最真诚的心来祝福你和梁导演的婚姻，愿神的爱来大大的充满你们，愿你们的家园从此以后都充满着欢笑声与喜乐。。I will continue to pray for you and your family
debaoholic Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:57 am
You are once foolish doesnt meant you will be foolish forever. Glad that you admit your mistake (not many people can do it), and God will bless and heal your relationship with your family. All the best and don’t stop producing excellent movies to entertain us all.
God bless.
Jordan.C Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:06 am
Hi,
i have been your great fan of you since young. we are all not perfect we all make mistakes in life but most importantly we learn from our mistakes and repent from it and continue to look forward and not backwards and cherish people around you. May GOD Bless upon you and your family.
priscilla Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:08 am
everyone has it’s ups and downs. im sure this is your downfall, maybe you brought it upon yourself, well everyone makes mistake. you’re only human too. thank god that your wife forgave you, your friends and family still stand by you, that’s all it matters righ?. i believe after watching so much movies you produced, you’re definately not the kind of person written on the news paper. surely you wouldnt have much affairs with the rest of the girls on the newspaper. see when you have fame, everyone dare not stand out but once you’re suffering from a setback, everyone wants to pull you further.
i hope you would take this opportunity to rest well,i’ll still look forward for your movies or anything about you. trust me, maybe majority hates you now, but your fans will alway stand by you.
jiayou, bu yao rang na xie kan bian ni de ren de yi!!!!
and pls, repent ur mistake and treat ur family better.
to mrs neo, IM VERY PROUD OF YOU, YOU SET A GOOD ROLE MODEL FOR THE IGNORANCE WIFE OUT THERE CHEERS!
PS: STOP POINTING FINGERS AT JACK NEO COS YOU’RE REALISE 4 FINGERS ARE POINTING BACK AT YOU.
all the best to jteam, excludind wendy chong. (PLS BE ASHAME OF YOURSELF!)
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:36
hazel Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:09 am
aiya. stop acting and just disappear laaa… this world has enough hypocrites.
X-Men Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:10 am
Well, Jack, unfortunately you are a celebrity that’s why this kind of scandals the media will definitely “explode” it!
Which ordinary guy don’t have extra-marital scandals…
To all those who condemn Jack, please asked your father or any guy whether they have it or not… May be you still don’t know what your father done years back when you guys still young.
If this scandals to your family, how will you react? Frustrated? Angry? so on & so forth.
I really wanna laugh out loud to those Christian who condemn Jack Neo, but I believe that the Bible did mention of forgiveness. Don’t you? Are you so holy enough to judge Jack or are you the GOD? Really don’t understand those Christian fella, are you really the GOD followers? Asked yourself, whether you really understand your Bible? I believe some of them don’t even understand a single word what the Bible teach.
If you guys wanna condemn Jack, please look around how many men did the same thing? Are they telling everyone that he have affairs? NEVER!!… until the mistress showed up in front of the house. Then only everything reveal! I do experience it before. So what the fuck, at the end of the day, the husband will asked for the forgiveness, whether you want to keep the family or part the family, that’s all.
So, everybody & media just leave Jack’s family alone, let them have their cooling period because you are not the one who judge him but the GOD will & also the wife & family. Are you his family? NO! So, what the fuck are you condemn him. JUST LEAVE THE FAMILY ALONE!!!
良心强 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:13 am
梁导，男人搞婚外情分两种，不是主动去找猎物的叫“偷情”，主动去找猎物的叫“偷腥”，偷情也许是“风流”，偷腥绝对是“下流”；人在做，天在看，记住每个人的心中都有一把尺，站在道德的层面上揭露爆料的人也好，多管闲事议论施压批评你的人也好，都不是伤害你的家庭的人，因为真正伤害自己妻子儿女的，还是你自己！我选择不原谅你，是因为你伤害自己的妻儿是你自己的事，但你伤害了别人的女儿，则是天地不容的，“做人”不是拍戏，做人就应该有人的样子，我想你做得漂亮不漂亮，你心知肚明！
梁太，没有人要求你不原谅自己的丈夫，同样的，你也不能要求所有的人原谅他，对你再大的伤害都是你的丈夫自己一手造成的，“老草”“嫩草”大家都是女人，或许你对丈夫宽容的当儿，也应该对被他所伤害的女人仁慈，真的患难与共，就代他跟人说声对不起吧！
SH99T Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:25 am
Mr & Mrs Neo,
Don’t be sad. Always remember, Your only concern now is your family. You may ignore all media and critism from those “nobody”. You’ve been in this line for so long, You jolly well know that SOME REPORTS CAN BE VERY EXAGGERATING!
Leave your work and Spend some quality time with your family. This is the time that they need you most. School holidays coming. Go for a short vacation. Relax.
人生不过如此。 最重要的是你和你的家人。带你的家人去旅行。 别理会那些阿猫或阿狗。 特别是那些无中生有又不知廉耻的‘怪人’。 让事情凋淡些再回到工作岗位上。我和我的家人都会支持你们的！ 加油！
PS
还有一句话对那位不知廉耻的 “MISS CHONG” 说: “你不只人丑，你的心更丑！” If It’s FAME you’re after? Let me tell you MISS CHONG, You will not get anything out from here and infact, WE WILL BOYCOTT ANYTHING THAT YOU’RE INVOLVED! I’m lucky to say that I don’t have a daugther like you!! AMEN! )
JS Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:42 am
A success person is not about how well he do, it is about how well he can recovered from a down fall
All the best 加油！
kent Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:56 am
I think u may watch back 幸福万岁。
The middle part. Uncle v daughter
Alien Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:04 am
Let the one who has made no mistake in life throw the first stone at Jack….
Nil Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:09 am
you are not fit to be christian at all. Confess sins and still go commit again. Don’t even have a pure heart!
Please Wake Up Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:24 am
“Your comment is awaiting moderation”.
If you dare to post 告白 in your blog, shouldn’t you be prepared to receive all sorts of comments from netizens?
I didn’t see my comments after #6768. 做错事, never present properly at press conference, now put up this moderation tactic. Yucks. 好好反省! 我不再支持你了!
Please Wake Up Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:27 am
“Your comment is awaiting moderation”.
If you dare to post 告白 in your blog, shouldn’t you be prepared to receive all sorts of comments from netizens?
做错事, never present properly at press conference, now put up this moderation tactic. Yucks. 好好反省! 我不再支持你了!
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:36
小满哥 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:37 am
我想问梁大哥；
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候鸟是因为气候与生存环境而迁徙。那么，爱，也是为了这些而移情吗?
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Kensankah Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:53 am
Jack, its a blessing your wife is a children of God that she has forgiven you! if not you are gone with the wind ! Take care of her and family! $$ can’t buy that !
-哥林多前書十三章
truth Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 4:20 am
I dont believe you are sorry for what you have done.why? because the only reason you are now a disgraced man is because the media found out.you know in your heart that if the whole of spore didnt know, you would have continued and go after more young girls. you said you are sorry, you are lying! you only did that because there is nothing else you can do, you cheated your fans for so long, why wasnt you sorry before the cat was out of the bag! you arent sorry, you just said sorry to salvage your career,your life your image. you have treated sporeans and pple who love as idiots for so many years, and now you want to cheat us into thinking you are sorry! I wont forgive you,I hope others wont, there are some crimes that cant be forgived, stop appearing on our tvs but i sincerely wish your wife and children will live well,treat them well!! but never appear in front of us again if you are still a man
Serene Yew Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 5:09 am
When I learnt from the press that you consulted a Pastor, and in your blog concerning your confession, you mentioned “Jesus will not leave you”, I could not believe that you are a believer of Jesus Christ! Even now, I truly doubt that you have a Holy Spirit in you.
This is because :
(1) whether in your life, your movies, or your speech, whenever you achieved success, you have NEVER, not EVEN ONCE, mentioned the name of Jesus Christ. You failed to give glory to Jesus nor thank Jesus for your achievement.
(2)Prior to filming your movies, you have been seen carrying joss sticks and prayed to other gods togther with your crew for success in filming. A true believer of Jesus Christ will NOT look for blessings from other gods;
(3) the content of your movies is always full of superstitions & prayers involving other gods, etc, there is not even a tinge of Christianity element in it. You were afraid that will affect the viewership? You have not shown much faith in our God.
You achieved success in your career all these years despite living in uncovered sins. Do you really think that God has condoned your sinful ways, or you are not subjected to the same yardstick that God used on others? Are you more special? Do you know about the grace of God? And that God is a long-suffering and merciful God, waiting for you to repent, and if you continue to be stiff-necked and not repent, there will come a time when God’s cup of wrath is filled to the brim by your continual act of disobedience, and He will pour out His judgement upon you.
I hope through this incidence, you truly accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord & Saviour, and truly “see” Jesus Christ. This will become your greatest gift / prize that you received from this whole incident.
Once you have Jesus, you will find your walk much easier, cos you will then seek wisdom from God (via the Bible), & not man.
In His Grace,
SereneYew (Da Yan Jing)
Zhao Ming Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 6:03 am
梁导： 虽说召开招待会是对自己，家人和社会的一个责任。但那种无与伦比的压力与您已经疲惫的身心实在是我们这里每一个人都无法想像，承受，也无法虚伪地‘一词支开’的。非常欣慰能看到您在众人面前表示您的歉意。您也完全的尽了男人（犯错后）的责任。许多人说您丢了男人的脸。换个角度想一想后，那是屁话。有几个男人可以做到这点大家心知肚明。您家人已经原谅您，我相信许多人会和我一样恭喜您。我相信也真心希望您能好好珍惜他们给予您那无私的爱(:虽然我只有19岁。很多人会说‘你讲那么多，你懂什么？’。 但我们因该想想，如果世界真的可以用年龄来判断，那根本不会有世界，生命更不会是生命。人是可以互相了解的。就让我们用人类最原始的感情去了解梁导现在的感情才是对他与家人最大的支持不是吗？
新电影：无可厚非，又是一部好电影。虽然比起其他国家的影片的确没那么有‘买点’但身为半个新加坡人的我已经能感受到片里头的人性和‘flavour’。梁智强每部电影都回被人骂‘烂’，也会使某些人拍案叫绝。我相信那是人们还无法习惯那充满浓浓新加坡卫的电影吧。说了也怪，为何香港片又OK呢？希望大家不会因为你的私事而无礼地抨击新作品。继续加油！
-从小看你看到大的小不点
To Jack: So say that your public apology is your responsibility towards the society, your family and yourself, but i strongly believe that this tremendous pressure and your already beaten soul is not something any of us here can or willing to withstand. Much less treat it as a mockery. I sincerely admire your willingness to publicly speak of such shameful fault and apologize. Some criticized you as the shame of men. After giving it some thought(i do agree at first), that was trash saying. How many of us men out here, in the world, cheating or not, speaks to the world about your wrongs/sins/faults and apologize to the ever judgemental world? Not many.
Now that your family has given you the ‘yes-yes’, i believe the applause would match up or even overwhelm the delibrate cries of malice. You had done your part and fulfilled your responsibility as a sinner. There is nothing the society can ask of you more besides praying silently for you and your family. Our sincere wish of you treating your family with love and respect can only hope to reach you and i believed it did.
I confess that i am 19. And many readers would no doubt, look at my post with distaste. Commenting on my tender age and foolish thoughts but hey. If the world, as many would say, be emphasized on age, then there will be no world. And life will never be. Let us feel Jack’s emotion with our primitive feelings. The very core and reason we are human. That way i thought, would very much help us understand what he had went through a little more, and be less skeptical about his actions and more love for him.
I also chanced upon a couple of comment saying that this whole post is a scam or religious propaganda or some crap? Please. It is as blatant as the night sky is black, that you dafts are the one making it one.
Is one seeking redemption and support from his faith, in this case Jesus, wrong? Was ever a child seeking warmth and comfort, forgiveness and support, advice and guidance from his father a sin? NO!
But is someone using the sincere pleas of a devoted, twisting the nature of it into some defilled intentions wrong? I would bet my young life on a yes. What different are you from the fallen?
Moreover, as a christian, you all insulted his attempt to seek forgiveness from god. Dear god, are you all even in your right mind? (or have you mistaken your positions as a devotee too?). If you can judge his prayers, then where do your prayers go? What part of Jack seeking help from his god irked you? Heck, Jesus gave up his life to clease this world of it’s sins! Are you ‘devotees’ now turning your faces away from this light?! The very foundation of Chirstianity? Please, think before you speak. Though words are literal, but they do hurt as shit.
‘Pulling Christ’s name in…’ ‘Humiliated Christianity…’. Are you treating him as your idol? Is this religion your ‘honourable title?’ Come on.
Jack suporter Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 7:16 am
Your news is all over the paper this few days saying that you are wrong , you are disgusiting , you are not sincere with your apologise.
What the hell is all this got to do with all this pepole? Just because you are a famous someone? All you need is apologise to your wife your children that all not even that young model and those who claim that you want to have an affair with.
Why you dont have to apologise to the young model that is because She in the first place know who you are and you are a married man. There is no excuse to say that she is being bluff or sweet talk by you to have an affiar with you (both are adults). That is all rubbish. You are 50 and she is 20 ,what is she aftering when she is having an affair with you, to me, just aftering for fame , wanted to have a role in your movie and get famous or aftering your money.
She let the public know that she is having an affair with you ,to me this is just purely revenge. Maybe she dont get what she actually wanted or what you actually promised her. That is my point of view why you dont have to apologise to her.
Lots of pepole will be angry and said that jack is a married man he have to control himself not to get into an affair with a young lady. To be truthful to yourself how confient is everyone to this kind of temptation not to say a young and beautiful lady ? How many lady is confient that their man is not seeing other lady or go by geylang or freelance prositution ? Just that most of them will close one eye open other if they are not caught red handed.
One lady boss say to the press that you wanted to have sex with her and wait for her at the hotel sometimes ago. That is also rubbish , if she want to expose this why didnt she do that at that point of time ? Why she wanted to wait till your affair is being publish in the paper then she start saying all this. To me what is the use of saying this at this point of time , rubbing salt on others wound? Gaining publictiy in the paper? If she have the guts and so call warning others she should say this when this incident happened. At this point of time when you are in deep shit, public will buy her story when you are on the negative side. So most of the public will be bluff by her motive.
One lady boy saying that you ask her/him for “service” in a massage palour. What the hell she/he work there as sepcial service massasger, you still have to cheek to let others know you do that for a living. Not say that jack didnt pay you for the service, you get paid u better have your mouth shut. Unless you find that it is very golry that you use your “mouth” , “hand” and other to servie so many man during your time in the massage palour? And when you sing at stage now everyone is imagine there is a “banana” in your mouth. He/she let the public know jack went to massage palour for special servie what is the big deal about this ? Everyday there is so many mans at geylang legal prostiue house, so what is the big deal just that jack went to a illegal one. She/he is just making a fool out of himself/herself.
Whereas for those who say that they are your supporter, be more realistic guys. You guys support him becasue of his flim and creativity not becasue of his personal character and his personal beheaviour. What did he bluff or cheated you guys ? Did jack ever claim that he will never have a affair ? or jakc will never visit a massage palour and ask for special service ? Just that now you guys know that jack is not a perfect guy and you guys claim that jack cheated you guys and bluffed you guys etc.
To me, jack what you did wrong is having a unplaned press conference, whoever ask you to have a press conference is a idoit. You should have plan well in the press conference, but now the press conference land you into a deeper shit.
Joe Yong Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 7:36 am
Jack, like us, is a Singaporean. There is no doubt he is talented. But he has gone astray. He fell and feels hurt. We as Singaporean brothers & sisters also feel hurt. I think after one week, he has gone through enough suffering and learnt his lesson. Let us give him a helping hand to continue his walk of life.
angrywoman Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 8:28 am
Jack, I think you have to stop prowling on young women. Your wife is a one in a million who can still accept you after all these. I am angry and disappointed that you allow her to appear in the press conference. You should be a man and shield her from the media instead of torturing her over and over again. I will not watch any of your films any more.Good Luck.
98168 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 8:36 am
主耶稣不会在苦难的时候离你而去的，不过，你是否一直在跟着他呢？还是平时不烧香，临时抱主脚？
Ah Hwee Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:16 am
God will forgive you,HE guide everyone who wants to be in heaven
i am your fans for so long, i watch your every movies
i am very disappointed that it happened
but just promise to the fans and everyone in the world that you will never let this happen again
and I will still support you
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:37
Doreen Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:23 am
hi jack,
i may not be a fan of yours, i may not be a friend of yours, i may not be any person that cast stones on people, i too have faults. everyone sin! be it a normal person, be it a christian, be it a Buddhist, be it any religion.
i believe that God have alrdy forgiven you! knowing that you are such a popular person among people in singapore, but press on Jack.
You are not alone. God has been always with you spiritually! intercede before the lord.
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=INKpqoxxWjA)
If possible let me pray for here, i know i can’t find any other emails to email you so let me pray for you here!
Father lord, i just wan to take this time to pray for jack, father you have seen him confessing his sins to you, father you have seen how much he and his family suffered, father you have also saw how the medias and other people repulsed his wrong-doings, lord i plead for forgiveness from the medias and jack’s fans and friends and family members and also i pray that you will help him pull through this period of trial. Lord i pray all this in your name. AMEN.
jiayou jack! =)
sandy Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:25 am
what lah all the chc ppl..you all condemned ris low but now support jack neo just because he’s from chc?
Josephine Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 10:36 am
Jesus loves you. Hope that you and your wife will remain strong for the sake of your marriage and children, and will stand up together once more, strengthened by the ordeal.
leo Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 10:49 am
要尊重每个人的生活，不论是你的妻子，还是别人的女儿。混口饭不容易，不至于因为你是导演就有拥有她们纯洁爱情的权利，从这个意义上来讲，你是女性的罪人；全世界的人都在关注你的太太，她是无辜的，不错；那些女孩呢？至少你的太太得到了一个女人应该得到的完整一生。她是一个完整的女人了；其他的女孩呢？她们同样刻骨铭心的在痛，而且备受指责。你如果不能给她们穿上嫁衣，请停止解开她们衣服的手。女孩们一定要自我保护，一定要自尊自爱。砸自己脚的石头都是自己搬的，不是么？
Frank Ng Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 10:50 am
我觉得梁导的行为已经不单单是婚外情那么简单了。如果你的外遇都是圈外人，无直接利益关系，我认同你的“私事”的说法。但如果你利用导演身份之便，以演戏成名等方法诱骗年轻女孩子投怀送抱。这已经是一种性贿赂，被看中的年轻女性为了成名没有选择，否则就会象乐轩这样落得无戏可演的局面。这与政府官员以升职加薪为诱惑，要求属下同其发生暧昧关系，不从便无出头之日，同样恶劣严重。
dawn Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 10:59 am
Believe there are quite a lot of people who will still see your movies judging from the public survey. You may lose some small percentage of audience. Need not consider stopping your productions altogether unless you sell food that poisoned people to death & therefore the stall must close shop totally. You are still your own boss & do continue to produce funny shows as some people will love to see them (of course some will still boycott). Maybe not so much of moral stories unless it’s about people turning good, repenting etc.then the audience will still accept. Comedies are always well-received in societies as life is so stressful indeed. You may want to consider getting Aunty Lucy or some new funny characters into your future movies. A lot of unproductive LOCAL talents with Money No Enough out there who need help. Use your talent in the right way & not you know what otherwise it’s very harmful & no good for anybody. In your new life (To Be A Better & Humbled Man), maybe you can also set up a Jack Neo Foundation to help needy people. Think instead of people throwing stones at you, you may get another award instead. Nothing Is Impossible. Ya,(to the haters, no point condemning people, it’s about how one can change for the better.) Smart people also can make mistakes, big or small. Nobody knows the future (only God) & all the best…
as a women Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 11:19 am
what done cannot be undone.
now onwards, put full hearts & efforts for your family – it will be stronger than past. times will let this scandals over soon
delicate this song from a wife to his husband..
江惠 家后
有一日咱若老 找無人甲咱有孝
我會陪你坐惦椅寮 聽你講少年的時袸你有外賢
食好食歹無計較 怨天怨地嗎袂曉
你的手 我會甲你牽條條 因為我是你的家後
阮將青春嫁治恁兜 阮對少年隨你隨甲老
人情世事已經看透透 有啥人比你卡重要
阮的一生獻乎恁兜 才知幸福是吵吵鬧鬧
等待返去的時袸若到 我會讓你先走
因為我會不甘 放你 為我目屎流
有一日咱若老 有媳婦子兒有孝
你若無聊 拿咱的相片 看卡早結婚的時袸你外緣投
穿好穿歹無計較 怪東怪西嗎袂曉
你的心 我會永遠記條條 因為我是你的家後
阮將青春嫁治恁兜 阮對少年隨你隨甲老
人情世事已經看透透 有啥人比你卡重要
阮的一生獻乎恁兜 才知幸福是吵吵鬧鬧
等待返去的時袸若到 你著讓我先走
因為我嘛不甘 看你 為我目屎流
I’m also once a victim just like your wife, she’s not alone.
likewise, i forgave my husband though i’ll not forget but our bond is stronger.
be good and turn a new leaf for your family. no more second chance!
LK Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 11:28 am
“你只欺骗过一个女生，其他女人是在落井下石？？？？“
梁先生，你实在太可恶了，事到如今，你还在作无谓的掩饰，进一步的伤害她们。你只是在继续的造孽，你刚刚说的哦：天在看。。小心啊！！
不能坦白，何必要求原谅？
芒果安娣 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 11:37 am
现阶段你什么经书都不必读，俺跟你算过今年你犯太岁，只须要每天念 “太太，万岁万岁万万岁” 或许可保住你的婚姻，否则。。。。
yt Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 11:43 am
Jack, time to move on. You did wrong and was man enough to admit it. Now, go back to your family and be a good father and a good husband. God bless.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:37
Peace Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 11:52 am
Hi Jack, just take a break. Bring your family away for a short trip. Tell Mrs. Neo to take care. Just ignore the press and media. Those who did these to your family will get their karma as well. We all know. Just like what you’ve said 人在做、天在看。
there’s another saying also: 宁教人打仔、 莫叫人 分妻。Ignore those trouble makers and move on. I’ll be waiting for your next production. Cheers!
女士代表之一 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:08 pm
早报今天刊出部分对你的专访， 你的答案好像告诉社会人士你在记者招待会所说的：
”都是我一个人的错，不关别人的事“ 是不诚恳的。
你说那些女人在你伤口撒盐？ 没有你自己制造的“伤口”，她们有机会撒盐吗？？？
你又再寻找代罪羔羊了！
Jack~Jerk~Juice Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:16 pm
What’s past is past. Jack, I’ve been supporting ur movies for awhile and agree with Jeffrey Sin that I’m inspired by the morals and values behind what you are trying to express. Strangely i realized the trend in mankind is they are extremely different creatures in work and in personal life. Probably unlucky you were ‘caught’, and maybe this is a punishment for you not cherishing the chance to straighten your path while you could, and yet you continue to stray and take on more risks. Thank you Jack for being a ‘jerk’ and these juices that came out of everything reserves as a lesson, a reflection and reminder for all Singaporeans. You may be forgiven but this incident will be engraved in all our minds. At least you took the courage to face the media and make a public apology. I taking a neutral point of view because i’ll like to see you ‘Walk your Talk’. Action everything you pledged in your blog to prove to the world you are deeply sincere and treasure your lifetime supporters – The Neo Family.
This song is specially dedicated to your family, once again, recognize how fortunate and blessed you are with Irene’s faith and support wholeheartedly in you and hope you’ll weather out this crisis bravely. Time will heal all wounds.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8eJP4kwQJVs
有一日咱若老 找无人甲咱友孝 我会陪你
坐惦椅寮 听你讲少年的时阵 你有外摮
吃好吃丑无计较 怨天怨地嘛袂晓 你的手
我会甲你牵条条 因为我是你的家后
阮将青春嫁置恁兜 阮对少年跟你跟甲老
人情世事已经看透透 有啥人比你卡重要
阮的一生献乎恁兜 才知幸福是吵吵闹闹
等待返去的时阵若到 我会让你先走
因为我会呒甘 放你为我目屎流
有一日咱若老 有媳妇子儿友孝 你若无聊
拿咱的相片 看卡早结婚的时阵 你外缘投
穿好穿丑无计较 怪东怪西嘛袂晓
你的心我会永远记条条 因为我是你的家后
阮将青春嫁置恁兜 阮对少年就跟你跟甲老
人情世事嘛已经看透透 有啥人比你卡重要
阮的一生献乎恁兜 才知幸福是吵吵闹闹
等待返去的时阵若到 你着让我先走
因为我会呒甘 看你为我目屎流
J Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:42 pm
你好，
我和我的家人，甚至很多朋友们都会继续支持你的作品！
凡事都有两面，虽有人指责你，但还是有人支持你的！
加油，愿你一家幸福，快乐 ：）：）
evisu Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:49 pm
i’ve always enjoyed the movies you made and as long as you continue making them i believe people will support you, jack neo is a great film maker, director and comedian, and the rest is he and his family’s business.
Please continue to make more good movies, never mind what sycophants say.
Don’t forget jack neo is the director that put singapore film industry on the international scene.
Freeman Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:52 pm
Dear Jack Neo,
I have been a fan of you since I was yong. When the news first broke, I was shocked as the other of your fans also feel.After reading about the incident, I admired the fact that you chose to confess your extra-maritial affairs to your wife, which at the point you were also given an opportunity to continue with it. I believe you did so because of your love for your family.
Sometimes in life, we only know the value of something when we are at the point of losing them(career, family). I am sure all of us faced this moment at more than one point of another. But only at this stage in life, we are able to see clearly who are the ones who will stay wih you and help you throughout this painful process (your life, your JTeam crews, and of course, your “real” fans).
I truly understand the process you are going through now is terrible, not only for you, but also your family and fans..etc. Newspapers everywhere are using this incident to their advantage to put you as the ultimate bad guy.
Do stay strong throughout this period of hardship,it will very soon be over, and when that day arrives, do give thanks to those who have helped you, and do treasure your family.
As a fan whom have supported you in the past, I will continue to pledge my support through this period of hardship.Don`t give up!
Regards,
Freeman
janetan Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:53 pm
当你在寻欢作乐时， 已经背弃家人， 现在有什么资格要求原谅？
当老牛吃完嫩草后，他回过头就假借耶稣圣名，要大家原谅他！
SHAME ON U!!!!
U BRING SHAME 2 YOUR FAMILIES, YOUR COMPANY, YOUR COUNTRY and even YOUR COUNTRY!
继续吃你的嫩草吧！ 可耻的男人！
You are well-known not because of your movie, but your shameless act.
阿男 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:54 pm
真服了你，整五十岁的人…
居然可以和一个可以做你女儿的女孩搞在一起。
你好棒！！梁倒万睡！！！
看了看，想了想。 人不可貌相。
滥用自己的地位能力，引诱嫩草们。
这终究是人性吧，并不能完全怪你。
或许不久后，就轮到您女儿在报纸上报料？
哈哈，反正她的年纪和那嫩草也差不了多少。
对了，我想“做人”这部戏…
就留给你自己看吧。
你比较需要。
有些人选择年轻的… 有些人选择成熟的…
梁倒选择大小通吃。
加油，梁倒真的为新加坡争光了！
盈盈，你也吃过了吗？？
哈哈哈哈哈哈
sarahhoo Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:57 pm
口是心非！
道德沦丧！
可悲！ 可怜！
咎由自取！
Cheng Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 12:57 pm
Hi Jack
Our God is good and He puts us through tests and trials because He loves us and wants us to be better through them. He won’t give you more than you can bear and while it doesn’t mean that all will be well tomorrow morning, it does mean that you have to persevere and remember your many blessings. Both of us are very fortunate to have wives who stands by us and fights with us. While my situation is very much different from yours, my business went through a very difficult period, but our good wives have displayed Christ’s teachings of forgiveness, grace and love.
There is a purpose to His testing and I wish you well for you and your family.
Regards
Cheng
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:38
pay for your sins Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:21 pm
I am not really a fan of yours but I like the movies you make. It is naturally heart-breaking to know this ugly side of you.
Of course everyone has flaws and makes mistakes but the thing that u did really scares me (I am a girl; this is coming from a girl’s perspective).
Shame, anger, thoughts of “why my father did what he did?” may be what your daughter is experiencing now.
We as outsiders shouldnt criticise u cos we r in no position to do that. However we have the rights to despise u as what u did is socially and morally wrong.
U asked us for forgiveness but clearly everyone is still upset with u and u need to live with it for the time being.
So, is forgiveness something that u shd be asking at this point? I doubt so.
I guess this explains why your reputation has being ruined and nothing u do can undo what has happened.
As a daughter myself, I feel disappointment n shame for your daughter.
The day u decided to stray means u r prepared for karma to take place.
Hence, face the music. U definitely need to live in this hellhole for a long while.
It is a test for you and the people whom u dragged along.
梁导演 自导自演 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:32 pm
早知如此，何必当初。当你在快活的时候，你有顾及到你家里的人吗？？
不要用主耶稣来当挡箭牌。
Jack Neo Sucks Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:32 pm
Jack Neo,I am very disappointed with you! When I was a child,when I know NOTHING. I loved your shows.. liang po po and such. You made people laughed ,I thought you will be a good role model but you are NOT. You are just one of those dirty man who cheat on their wives.
When those women tried to seduce you,in your mind.. what was you thinking? you were just thinking “sigh..forget it.. I will just cheat on my wife this once” but ..have you ever think for the woman? she trusted you and put her life in your hands ..she married you because she believe she can give up her beautiful youth for you.
But what do men like you do? you just forget all about her when she is old..and helpless. YOU ARE FAMOUS AND RICH but she is old now and have wrinkles.. have her beauty fade in your eyes? How could you have sex with other women happily when your wife was just sitting at home,waiting for you?
HOW COULD YOU?! she never did even thought of once cheating on you when she was young and beautiful but now,you just let womenn who want money and fame get to you easily. If you do love your wife alot,you will NEVER drag her to talk to those reporters AGAIN ,if you do love her,you will NEVER do this betrayal in the first place.
If I am her,I know my husband slept with someone else,I will feel sad and I will feel sad because I am old and I have wrinkles now.. and that I am no longer beautiful in my husband’s eyes… I will wonder is this why he cheats? this is what hurts most. That beauty fades like how a flower dies. And man? they only care about this.
wise man Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:35 pm
You are going a bit too far!
Melissa Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:35 pm
人非圣贤,孰能无过? 过而能改,善莫大焉.
People,
Jack neo is not God; he makes mistakes too. But just because he is a well-known director, everything is publisized. He and his family have gone through so much pain already, more than any normal not-known people. Please, for God’s sake, just forgive them and leave them alone.
Director Jack,
You have been forgiven by many people. Worry no more, for we will give you our fullest support. Take good care of yourself.
T.H Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:48 pm
Dear Jack,
Be focused on what’s most important and the rest will take care of itself.
Waiting for your next movie..
eeeyer Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 1:55 pm
梁婆婆?!
哼
;) Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:07 pm
Dear Director Liang,
I feel I should address you like this, because I really do respect you and your productions. I believe you have heard enough of comments, maybe you are really lost. I’m not saying what you’ve done is correct, but it’s human to err. Who hasn’t done wrong in their life? If you are just a normal man, you may not have to face all this. Just because you are a somebody, you and your family have to receive all this which I think is really unfair. Being a woman myself, I would forgive my man and forget what has happened if he really comes to say sorry and really mean and prove it. It may sounds very stupid to a lot of people, but I believe love do wonders. Love for your wife, Love for your family. Tell her you love her, give her a hug, tell her you are sorry. Don’t wait for the right time, do it now. I’m touched that she would really face this problem with you, I think if I’m the one facing this, I wouldn’t have the courage to do so. Be glad that when such things happen, you see who is the good ones and bad ones. People who will standby you when you fall, or give you an extra kick. I’ll never forget that you’ve brought laughters into my life, ever since I was a kid I’ll support being human.
Phoebe Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:16 pm
梁导，其实我觉得你不必太去理会那些人的批评啊..人谁无过呢? 只要是真心悔改，我们一定会原谅你的，尽管放心吧,我和一班朋友会继续支持你与你的家人,还有你的电影!你还会是我们的好导演.
不要给自己太大压力吧，加油!
Jason Koh C H Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 2:53 pm
hi Jack,
right from my young age,i’ve seen all ur variety shows and even your taiwan movie made when you are very young.
no doubt i feel sad not juz for ur family,but i feel very sad for u as well.
its always easy for the media n the public to point fingers at you n branded u as a sinner..
after so many years in the showbiz,i’m sure u realise that life is like taking a lift.you go up n you will definitely come down.
what doesn’t take you down will make you stronger.and with tis episode,u be able to see who’s ur real friend!
now,almost everyone is condemning ah nan’s behaviour at your press conference.but i choose to tink it in another way.bcoz,isn’t there wat friends are for.share wealth n woes together like ur family.
i hope u appreciate his actions n remember it in ur whole life.same goes for Henry Thia,’hui ge’.i feel that you r indeed a someone extraordinary in order for ur friends to stand up for u.
quote from ‘hui ge’-i wouldn’t be where i am without Jack Neo.
nonetheless,there will oso be those pple where we all know its you who painstakingly groomed n nurtured but yet from his words and actions to the media,its pretty plain to everyone who eventually gain out of ur misery and misfortune.
it could be a conspiracy to get you down,of coz not confirm bcoz we hv no evidence.but if he tinks tt tis is the right time to spread his small little wings instead of supporting his mentor then sad to say,in the future i will hv one more thing to boycott,other than his lousy kopitiam.
repay to others the gratitude you received but oso remember the wounds that pple inflicted on you.
lastly wanna say,i admired ur courage to ans to the public wat i tink u dun need to.be strong and mend the cracks wif your family.
i will be waiting for ur new movies soon!!!!
p.s you will survived all these.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:38
DD Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:13 pm
坦白说，我觉得你很CHEAP。 我只同情你的太太，你的孩子。没想到“时时骄傲的梁智强”，终于都有今天啦。你以为你自己是谁？？ Don’t anyhow act ARROGANT infront of people. 你吃一口饭，都是要靠观众/听众的支持的。
Jessie Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:14 pm
True enough we as mortals ourselves have no right to comment on the behaviors of others, their wrong-doings, short comings, etc… But then again, I hope Jocelyn can understand that being a public figure, Jack Neo, he is not only answerable to his family, children, friends and loved ones for his actions, but also the general public, his fans and supporters all these yrs… Being a public figure, he has to face comments and criticisms, no doubt. I guess why people do bother to post comments here (perhaps except those who just post for the sake of it/ simply being kaypo) is because these people had trusted him before, in a way or another… rallied support to his movies and productions. It’s the sense of betrayal that spurred people to respond. We are no saints, n we do make mistakes, undoubtedly. Humans… we cry and seek help aftermath. WHY don’t we think about the wife and children in the nick of time before anything happened??? Before we gave in to temptations??? What’s the use of crying over spilled milk in public now that your wrongs are exposed? Like a big boy crying to ask for forgiveness…
sister in christ Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 3:55 pm
Lord Jesus is always faithful.
It is usually us to abandon Him, Not Him abandon us
Focus on Him during this difficult period
His abundant grace will bring you amd your family through
Once our eyes are off focus, we will sink
It is always not fair that the family have to suffer the consequences even they did nothing wrong
What is a family truly mean?
Love, support, joy, peace…..
You have all these in your family
Do cherish them
Jesus loves all of you
spring Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 4:07 pm
SO JACK NEO, WE BELIEVE YOU ONLY HAD ONE AFFAIR. CAN YOU THEN TELL US IF WHAT THE OTHER GIRLS SAID ABOUT YOU IS TRUE? THAT YOU BEHAVED SO ‘TEE GOH’ TOWARDS THEM? YES? NO? YOU ONLY DENIED HAVING MORE THAN ONE AFFAIR. PLEASE CLARIFY FOR THE OTHER ALLEGATIONS.
AA Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 4:11 pm
Respect the name of Christ. The Great I AM hears you at all times. He knows everything one does, remember to be truthful in words and deeds. He is the judge.
wong Li Ping Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 4:14 pm
知错能改，善莫大焉。。只要你是真诚的悔改，现在所发生的事情，将会慢慢的过去，因为人类都是善忘的，让时间来冲淡这一切吧。。
别再回头看了，没有意义的，用行动来证明你对孩子们和妻子的诚意，好好的，慢慢的重新再建立起你在孩子们和太太心目中的形象，一个好丈夫，好爸爸。。
最重要的，是你千万不要因为犯了这一个错，而对自己失去信心，你是一个非常有才华的电影制作导演，让这一切冲淡了以后，我相信观众会重新接受你的。
你看中港台的娱乐圈，那些艺人被揭发的丑闻，例如：吸毒贩卖毒品，利用名气做性交易。。等等。
还有更多比你还要遭的错事，真的数不清，那些艺人被公众辱骂的程度，甚至比你还要糟糕好几倍。。
可是当时间久了，那些艺人还不是有如往常一样的回到他们的工作岗位，继续当他们的艺人，而公众还是一样的支持他们，不是吗？
以你的才华，观众一定会再接受你，支持你的。这段时间，就当做给自己放一个长假，好好的陪陪太太和孩子。
你一定要记得，能够成为一家人，是一种缘分，也是有今生没来世的，要好好珍惜，尤其是你的好太太，她是唯一的一个，会陪你走完一生的老伴，没有人比她更重要了。。
祝福你和家人，能够坚强的度过这一个难关。。
Raymond Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 4:20 pm
智强,
看了近期各媒体对你的婚外情的报道,以及你的太太如何在你最需要呵护的时候公开地原谅你,我想和你分享一首我的作词作品:
以为 词/ 罗启荣
是你说你放不下我
说你付出是习惯的执著
我就这样天天陪着你过
把你的谎言都当成了承诺
究竟你还爱不爱我
为何将我的一切给反锁
如果感情真的有对和错
只能怪自己原谅了你太多
* 以为盛开的花最终都会结果
以为再苦的日子我都能熬过
在我以为找到了终生寄托
你却辜负了我辜负了我
Jean Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 4:21 pm
Hi Jack
IN SPITE OF WHAT YOU HAVE DONE, I STILL WANT TO THANK YOU FOR BRINGING SO MUCH LAUGHTER INTO OUR LIVING ROOM WHEN YOU PLAYED THE ROLES OF “LIANG SI MEI” AND “LIANG PO PO”. YES I LOVE WATCHING YR MOVIES TOO. HOPE YOU GET YOUR LIFE IN ORDER QUICKLY WITH THE SUPPORT OF YOUR WIFE AND YR FAMILY AND TURN OVER A NEW LEAF. LOOK FORWARD TO WATCHING YOUR FUTURE MOVIES. JESUS LOVES YOU.
Elaine (Nurse0 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 4:41 pm
Dear Jack,
Just to let you know that this morning , we all pray for you and your family in our church. We want you to know , no matter what had happened, it is over.
Do not let Satan affect your family.
In Psalm 46- God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble
Psalm 37- Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes
Philipians 4: 6-7
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thankgiving. Let your request be made known to God. And the peace of God which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus
路人甲 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 4:57 pm
以前并不知道梁导演是信主之人, 因为你的电影宣扬了很多华人拜偶像的东西. 我个人觉得这是神非常不喜悦的事情. 当一个人在是非判断上出了问题, 出现婚外情之类的东西也就不足为奇了. 望梁导三思.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:39
BANANA Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 5:30 pm
OKAY!WHAT OVER IS OVER YOU CANT REWIND IT BACK RIGHT?I WILL NOT BECAUSE OF THIS THEN DONT WATCH YOUR MOVIES.BUT I AM NOT YOUR FANS LAH.YOU LIVE FOR YOUR OWN NOT OTHERS THEN FCUK CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAY.YOUR WIFE FORGIVE U LER THEN OTHER PEOPLE CANNOT SAY ANYTHING MAH..JIAYOU!!=]=]=]=]
san san Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
Please do not inflict anymore harm to your family. Love them with what you have from now on. Wishing you, your so supportive wife and the beautiful children a blessed ever after.
慈悲 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 5:45 pm
何谓支持？ 何谓不支持？
无论如何， 既然是个家，太太孩子都原谅了， 外人都应该祝福这个家像以往一样的温馨。
干嘛还有人去探讨道歉诚意不诚意。 于事无补嘛。 除了多事还能是什么？
小孩 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 5:47 pm
以前
我一直怀疑你是一个同性恋
一段婚姻
不过是你为了维持一种社会接受得到你的烟幕假象而已
可是
经过这次事件以后
我不得不接受
你的确是一个百分百男人这个事实
而
现在新加坡上演的这出文革式道德批判戏码
才是活脱脱的一幕社会维持你作为一个殉道烈士的烟幕假象剧
因为博爱
你被kiasu的新加坡人钉上了十字架
因为kiasu
所以他们争先恐后的都来向你丢掷石头
对于那些向你丢掷石头的新加坡暴民
你该宽恕他们
因为他们所做的
他们不晓得
DT Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 6:03 pm
Jack, I’ve watched your movies since little. I am now a husband and a father of 2. Your incident has indeed hit me a little. I do not want to use my own words to say anything to you but as a fellow Christian, I will quote God’s Word…
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1John 1:9
It’s not up to anybody to judge whether you are right or wrong. Let’s leave that to the Lord, Himself. For me, I just want to pray for you and your family. May God’s healing be upon you and restore what the enemy has tried to take away. Be encouraged brother!
music Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 6:05 pm
大家看看梁智強在他的部落格的文章吧..每個人都有犯錯的時候,每個人都有過去.世界上誰可以把自己一生的過去完全攤在報紙上.讓全世界的人批評呢?他對婚姻不忠絕對是錯的…可是反觀每一部梁智強的電影,都真的點出新加坡的社會問題..因為有他的創作,讓新加坡更有人情味,更寬容….梁導演..我們需要你的創作..請你勇敢走下去..
Spy Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 6:24 pm
After reading all comment . I just like to conclude
1. We are human we do make mistake .most impt is we learn from our mistake .
2. Thru out the process your wife is the hero . Because most of the gal in Singapore will not have the open heart to forgive but yr wife have
Moo Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 6:44 pm
看了这几天的报纸,我觉得你就像一只披着羊皮的狼. 已导演的面貌作色狼. 那十一个女人是认识的吗? 怎么可能说好一起来冤枉你, 好,就算是冤枉你的. 我从下就看你的节目,你从一名小演员到现在做导演. 从没有到有,现在全新加坡和马来西亚都知道的的丑事. 值得吗? 相信你偷吃时一定有想过事情揭发的后果. 那为何还要吃, 辛苦了几十年才得来的成果,何苦???? 生威导演,戏都有演啦,明知不可为而为.
CHEERS Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 7:15 pm
Jack
Along you are holding a treasure in you hands that you did not know.
Yet you had exchange it for worthless thing.
I strongly believe that now you had realised.
Irene had put away all hurts and shame to lift you up.
Is not easy for her, bcos you are a celebrity/director.
Take good care of her and your family.
she deserve all the love from you.
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOU FAMILY.
Sister-In-Christ Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 7:18 pm
To err is human and to confess and repent is a saint. I want to trust that your repentance is genuine as I read about how you first confess to your pastor and you are open to seek help from your pastor. This morning, during my worship service, I felt so touched by God’s love for us. We are all sinners and who are we to point at another person and call him a “greater” sinner. The whole world may condemn you but there’s no condemnation in Christ Jesus who had died and taken our sins to the cross. Because of your confession and repentance, I am very confident that you will no longer be the old man, but new man in Christ now. I felt prompted by the Holy Spirit to pray for you, your beloved wife and kids. God loves all man. Surely He loves you and your family very much that HE would lead me to pray for you. I am sure that I am not the only one to be led by God to pray for you . You are right to believe taht in times of trouble, God will never forsake you. Take heart brother, continue to seek to live and walk in God’s ways and with God’s help, it’s possible to restore your marriage and family to be far better than it used to be. I will support you and your family by constantly praying for you all.
Frankly I am not a movie goer, but I will bring my mum and kids to watch your latest movie ‘Being Human’ during this coming school holidays. Please don’t give up on your good works. When your trial is over, your life is renewed and transformed by God’s grace, you will soar to greater heights.
God bless you and your family.
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 10:39
john Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 7:24 pm
加油！！！
能保住家庭是你的福气，努力去修复它吧，你有一辈子的时间～
你的电影教会我不少，我想这一点点的支持也是我最多能给你的了！
还是一句，你要比谁都坚强，加油！！！
善德女王 Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 8:26 pm
智強，
你說你深信「主耶稣不会在苦难的时候离我而去的」，你用了「苦難」兩個字來形容你現在所面對的煩惱。你要知道苦難和信仰扯在一起的時候，「苦難」指的是一個人因為追求正義和捍衛真理而遭受逼迫。你現在所面對的災難，即不是為正義，更不是為真理，就連你也不得不承認這一切都是為了滿足你個人的私慾。與其說「主耶稣不会在苦难的时候离我而去的」，倒不如說「私慾既懷了胎，就生出罪來；罪既長成，就生出死來。」［雅一14］
不要輕易的引用耶穌基督的聖名，尤其是用在令祂蒙羞的事件上。當然沒有罪是耶穌不能赦免的，但是在你乞求耶穌的恩典赦免你的罪之前，我希望你能秉著悔改的心「先」去面對祂的公義。
basket Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 8:49 pm
一直很喜欢看梁导的电影。我会一如既往的支持梁导。加油！
Jo Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 8:54 pm
知错能改就已经是重点了，人不是十全十美的。
要珍惜您的好老婆以及家人：）
无论如何，我依然会支持您的电影！你的电影很棒！以及很有意思 ：）
I am not stupid Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:13 pm
haha.. so funny!
JOE Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:17 pm
你们认为全都是梁智强的错？？？ 这件是后不再支持梁智强？？ 你们好小孩子气！当你们把事情用坏的眼光来看它自然而然变坏的啊！！！如果你们觉得很生气或失望，我在这里代替梁智强跟你们说声‘对不起’！
梁智强!!加油！别被这些comment而被伤害！！！我支持你！！！
我在等待你新的杰作出来！ 我的心中永远都会留一架DVD来播放你的杰作的！！！
你们够了啦！好的不说！坏的all-out！讽刺很好玩吗？？？好过你们留那时间来充实自己的人生吧！
现在镜子很便宜，不如买几副来照下自己吧！现在你们跟本没资格来伤害或讽刺梁智强或他的家人！！
alantan Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:20 pm
” 重大伤害已造成，做错事但获得原谅的那个人怎样弥补过错对他的家庭来说才是最重要的。
随着时间的流逝，随着他的成长，人人对这件事的议论“应该”会慢慢被冲淡，若干年后，相信他应该还能重新站起来，应该还能是一位能带给大家许多好戏的导演。
这样惨痛的教训，很多人也许会说这是犯错者自己找来的，无论怎样，这个教训也可以是一面教导大众循规蹈矩的生活，教导大众千万不要执意犯错，教导大众要爱惜自己的家庭的好镜子。
愿梁导夫妻俩可以好好的去延续属于他们俩的爱情故事。
祝福他们。”
转帖来自：http://www.kuchingcatcity.com/vi ... &extra=page%3D1
Jas Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
Dear Jack,
Honestly speaking, your talent for movie production and your family business is totally 2 different issues. I will still support your movie. Please treasure what you have now, especially Irene. A good wife like her who stand by you is not easy. ASK yourself, which woman can “tahan” her own husband have affair? In fact, NO. Since she willing to give U a CHANCE, please make good use of it. God Bless!
Dear All,
Talking about affair, both Jack and Wendy is at blame. Don’t just push blame to Jack. It takes 2 hands to clap! Since Wendy knows that Jack is married, she should stay away.
Everyone know that the actual victim is Jack’s wife, Irene. I hope that those people who are not happy with Jack, i’m hope that you can give Irene and her kids a break, stop talking about this issue and let the matter rest. What had happened, already happen and we cannot turn back time but look forward. Since this is a family issue, IRENE already forgive him, who are we to say anything?
orange Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:35 pm
everyone dont scold jack! its his problem not ours. well said jocelyn. singaporeans should stop talking about this, if we keep talking about it its hard for him to move on, worse for his wife.
all the best to you jack, be strong! same to irene, we all are here for you! (:
Wee Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
For many years, you produced and directed movies out of your observations of the lives and heartbeat of the common Singaporean. Going forward, I believe you will be able to produce movies not just from observation, but personal experience – as a man who has done wrong but found courage to pick himself up and make things right.
Let your movies continue to inspire and encourage – only this time, with the authencity of a personal transformation and change.
Leo Ong Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:53 pm
I’m in no position to comment on what you did, but whatever you do you have my support.
Don’t let negative opinions affect you, you live your own life.
When you fall, stand up quickly. This is what makes us a man.
Sorry it is not written in chinese.
With best regards to you and your family,
Leo
Josephine Says:
March 14th, 2010 at 9:56 pm
I support Jocelyn wrote (comment 18) too!!!! We are nobody to give any comment about their family problems.To forgive or not..is not from us.Is from Jack’s family.So for those who kept on complaint PLEASE KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!!
To Jack : I really love your movies.You did bring laughter to me.Thanks.and please “Stand Up” again and create more great movies for us.I will support you!!
作者: 黎民 时间: 2010-3-15 11:29
名人性丑闻 记者会比一比
梁智强采取的记者会模式，与海外一些闹性丑闻风波的名人相似，同样不接受记者提问，纯粹是公开认错道歉。（图/档案照、路透社）
梁智强婚外情风暴记者会即时报道，请点击看视频。
成龙 记者同样不准发问
香港女星吴绮莉爆出和成龙有过一段雾水情缘，还生下了小龙女。成龙最初默不作声，后来矢口否认，但事情越演越烈，在舆论的压力下，成龙于1999年11月10日举行了记者会，公开道歉。
出席的记者一概不准发问，只能看成龙“真情流露”般的作出道歉，整个记者历时不到半小时，成龙事后被批是在做戏。
陈冠希 6分半钟 说10次Sorry
淫照风波发生近一个月，陈冠希总算在2008年2月21日露面举行记者会。他一个人面对500多名记者，不接受发问。在短短6分半钟的独白里，至少说了10次“Sorry”，希望大家能原谅他，还宣布退出香港娱乐圈。
老虎伍兹 主角道歉 未见妻踪
饱受婚外性丑闻缠绕的美国高尔夫球巨星老虎伍兹（Tiger Woods），销声匿迹84天后，上个月20日凌晨首次公开露面，透过电视直播发表道歉声明，承认对妻子不忠，并透露今后将借助佛教让自己重回正轨。
发布会现场只有他的母亲和部分亲友出席，妻子艾琳未见踪影。
伍兹为自己的不负责任及自私行为公开道歉13分半钟，成为全球焦点。
澎恰恰 4次发誓 中途服药
自慰光碟曝光7天后，澎恰恰终于在妻子的陪同下，于2005年2月25日下午露面召开记者会。
澎恰恰4次发誓及中途服药，声泪俱下绘述被设计的经过。由于记者不准发问，记者会最终还是留下不少疑点。
作者: 黎民 时间: 2010-3-15 11:32
［梁智强婚外情］ 梁导：给我100万也不敢再偷吃
“就算给我100万，我也不敢再偷吃了！”
为婚外情付出惨重代价，梁智强表示，就算给他100万，他也不敢再偷吃。如果他重蹈覆辙，肯定死无葬身之地。
梁智强昨天接受《联合晚报》专访时也说，希望公众给他一个“重生的机会”，他保证不会再辜负大家。
他说：“坏事传千里，现在整个亚洲都知道这个新闻，未来我一定会谨言慎行，也会好好计划。”
婚外情曝光后，“嫩草”相继浮出水面，使梁智强感到心力交瘁，而公众的批评声浪，也让他深深体验到搞外遇对家庭和事业的伤害。
他说，付出的代价实在太惨重了，他今后绝对会以家庭为重，不可以重蹈覆辙。
对于妻子在事件爆发后不离不弃，梁智强心存感激：“我的老婆是一个很好的妻子，跟着我20多年，吃过所有的苦，看着我从没有到有。”
他透露，婚外情曝光后，他曾想过要死，但是妻子跟他说，‘如果我没有离开你，你有什么理由去死？’，他才打消寻死的念头
他庆幸在现阶段至少已初步化解了婚外情风波，可以重新和家人过正常的生活。
他说：“给我100万，叫我重走一次，我也不要！每天心惊胆战，每天都在想着下一刻不知又会有什么事，像政治犯。”
作者: 黎民 时间: 2010-3-15 11:37
本帖最后由 黎民 于 2010-3-15 11:49 编辑
楼主担心什么，人家梁导夫妻根本不知华文“耻”字为何物，好得很呢……
刚刚去看了梁氏夫妇出席记者会的录影，两句话：
梁智强，你的“戏”好滥，还不如你老婆。
梁太，你真的不够美，人也没有定力，的确太平庸了。
SORRY，讲这话时我的确缺乏同情心，因为觉得一向都是梁导对社会极尽嘲讽之能事，而且什么SEX SCANDAL，除了打击社会公信、蹂躏道德尺度，并害到全新加坡男人更加沉沦在门禁和唠叨的水深火热之外，你们没有损失任何东西！
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-15 12:21
我、我没有担心，我以为梁导是知耻的呀。
作者: 远走高飞 时间: 2010-3-15 13:30
阿弥陀佛，男人女人，果然是来自不同的星球啊！
作者: 新加坡啦 时间: 2010-3-15 13:34
谁可以回答：康美凤女士在记者会出来做什么？？
阳阳 发表于 2010-3-14 23:19
夫唱妇随嘛
一个普通的女人，哪里是梁智强的对手！
作者: 我问卿狂 时间: 2010-3-15 14:55
应给知错能改者一个机会
（2010-03-15）
● 陈丽珠
梁智强能坚强的面对过错，不躲避，重新生活给大家一个很好的信息：当遇到挫折时积极面对，不逃避、不掩饰，给予自己一个重生的机会。相信这应能获得大家的原谅和支持。
之前，我们都在担心梁大导是否就如此把头藏起来不再见人了？可喜的是他勇敢地出来认错。让我们看到天无绝人之路，也看到家人劫后的笑容。祝福他们一家人，也祝福天下知错能改，重新生活的人。
这位女士差矣！ 这是以己度人啊。
梁导会难过？那就不是他梁智强了。
作者: 我问卿狂 时间: 2010-3-15 14:58
色字头上一把刀
（2010-03-15）
● 严丽珍
我国著名导演梁志强的婚外情事件未爆发前，许多国人对他都怀有一份敬意，佩服他的电影深具亲和力又能反映人民大众心声。
可是，在一夜之间，梁导演却因为桃色事件，而使人们对他的崇高美好的形象完全改观。
一路来默默支持他与拥戴他的观众，感到震惊与失望。
梁导演曾得过国庆勋章以及文化奖，是有一定社会地位的人，也因如此，众人对他的期望就更高。
在娱乐界，接触的美女很多，如果人们定力与抗拒力不够，就会轻易掉入粉红色圈套中而难以自拔。尤其是一个众人瞩目的著名导演，发生了婚外情，当然就会成为千夫所指，成为谴责与攻击的目标了。
梁导演的婚外情事件，最大的受害者即是他的妻子，还有孩子。
希望梁导演能从错误中成长，把家庭与事业放在第一位，永远牢记“色字头上一把刀”这句话。
事前尊敬梁智强的，以未成年人、天真阿嫂居多；事后以为梁智强被色字头伤到的，同样是这群人。
梁智强及其家人基本没受伤害，这是事实。
作者: 我问卿狂 时间: 2010-3-15 15:01
名导婚外情事件的看法 劝成功男人别毁掉自己
（2010-03-15）
卢传凤
梁智强婚外情被揭发，他在整个事件曝光过程中显得很沮丧；这显示名成利就后私生活不检点能带来多大的打击。
梁智强是本地最赚钱的名导演。他以往拍摄14部电影在本地票房达4127万元，对本地电影有一定贡献，并于2004年国庆日获颁公共服务奖章，2005年更获文化奖。
丑闻曝光，形象尽毁，也连累到家庭、孩子和事业，而最终还能获得太太谅解，他实在太幸运了！
作为名导演，私生活应该自律，尤其在演艺圈工作，难免时时接触作风大胆的美女，自己应该提高警惕，望“色”止步，不应把自己辛辛苦苦耕耘的成果毁掉。
靠形象、名声换前途的多是女人，不要把适用于自己的尺度硬套在男人尤其是无赖男人头上，因为没用。
头脑不清楚的女人也一样有发言权，这才是不公平。
作者: 我问卿狂 时间: 2010-3-15 15:06
梁智强这桩事，他本人是赢家。他老婆演技精湛，除了出丑，也没输什么。梁家的子女自然有钱有屋有人关照，也没什么。无知女模尽毁形象，前途大打折扣。
作者: 感性的微笑 时间: 2010-3-15 18:56
呵呵，主要是梁导前面的50年太不厚道，新加坡换了其他男人也招不来这么多口水，且看骂人者，人亦骂其人。可能这也是两极哲理。
有的人受伤，有的人挨骂，有的人破产，有的人保全，有的人一蹶不振，有的人蠢蠢欲动。。。
以梁智强的层次，他不会把发生的一切当事的，我看他还沾沾自喜呢。
作者: 猫鱼 时间: 2010-3-15 21:06
放在俱乐部的，转过来
47、今天有人说梁静茹不爱国 结婚居然去菲律宾结 不在中国结 后面700多个跟帖骂 最后终于有个明白人说了一句：梁静茹是马来西亚人
哈哈哈哈，笑死我了。。。
说到底想骂的人自己找借口骂而已。就像新加坡的梁智强，人家自己喝凉水一样没事人，一帮子黄脸婆先替人家害臊上了。说到底是替自己担忧，干梁智强甚事。梁的老婆大俗人一个，被梁智强耍得团团转。
作者: 道士 时间: 2010-3-15 21:12
嘿嘿嘿嘿，这里很多明白人。。。。。。
作者: 蓝色小鹿 时间: 2010-3-15 22:46
“从无生命物质的性能，到动物的本能，再到人类智能的发展，是一个系统的大历史过程。”（《大历史观》P283）
梁智强在偷腥中表现的是动物本能，当被揭发后想到离婚得分财产付巨额赡养费转而作态表示悔改，这是到“智能”的发展。
一滴水折射出全部光照，一个龌龊小人身上一样可以反映历史进程。
如果梁在震房车、玩暧昧的时候表现出智能的修养，在东窗事发时有尊重自身本能的硬骨，那他就不是江湖草台班子的档次，而是好汉了。
作者: 皎皎 时间: 2010-3-17 02:51
看了之后有些想说又说不出来的东西。转个贴算是比较吧：
这之前，偶尔看到老公出轨的帖子，心里总是不以为然，总觉得原因是多方面的，不成想，我的老公居然也出轨了。
从确认他出轨到今天正好三天，我做梦也不会想到在这短暂的三天之中会出现如此戏剧性的事情。
7号周五，老公一如往常来公司接我回家，在公司楼下正好碰见卖栗子的，我特别想吃，就缠着老公给我买，那天老公有点反常，甩开我的手面露难色，我还以为他怕在我公司门口怕看见熟人不好意思，还取笑他什么时候学会害羞。当晚回去他上网去了，我在客厅陪公婆看电视，去上卫生间路过时瞥了一眼，一句话跃入眼中：我也要吃栗子，还要吃你！
很难描绘当时的感觉，心惊肉跳，真的是，心跳剧烈，到了卫生间我努力让自己平静下来，很久之后婆婆叫我，我才竭力收拾好自己出来。他还在上网，婆婆嗔怪了他一句，他含糊了一声，过了十来分钟也出来看电视了。坐在我身边还掐了一下我，笑嘻嘻的。
看了一段时间，公公跟老公谈了一些工作上的事情，看他们谈的投机，我突然就想到了老公和那个人的聊天，就借口进去换衣服，到房间去并把门反锁了，老公在外面听见门锁的声音还喊了句：反锁门干嘛啊，老夫老妻的了。
电脑没关，心跳的相当快，老公QQ也没关，我翻出最近联系人，一个个看过去，一个叫“紫柠糕”（下面简称紫吧）的，头像已经暗了，才看了几句，我便确认了自己的猜想。
下面是聊天记录：
老公：你脑子进水了，鉴定完毕！
紫：我就是，身子里也是水！
老公：我摸摸。
紫：滚。
老公：以后不许这么胡闹知道吗？
紫：怎么了，害怕我伤害**（我的名字）啊？心疼她了？呵……
老公：别这么说，你知道我很难。
紫：知道，我就是想看看她长什么样子。
老公：你今天差点让我吓死知道吗？
紫：我不管，你今天给她买栗子了，我也要!
老公：你想要多少我都给你。
紫：嘿嘿，那要你呢？
老公：COMEON。管他的栗子呢。
紫：我也要吃栗子，还要吃你！
……
一阵天旋地转。
老公在期间喊了我几次名字，大概是让我快出来，我猜想他是怕我看他的聊天记录吧。我故意把衣橱开开关关，眼泪却止不住的掉下来，当时还没有卸妆，怕花了妆我就那样垂直着脸让眼泪掉下来。
和老公结婚三年，我们之间的感情一直非常好非常好，我从来都没有怀疑过他，公婆也特别喜欢我，我觉得这种事情是不会发生在我身上的，可是突然的，它就这么到了，而且从他们的聊天记录看来，有发生过关系了。
我还是有点不敢相信。老公一直喊我，过来敲门，我赶紧平复自己，换上衣服就出来了，他们没发现我有什么变化，大家都在看电视，是赵本山的小品回放，公婆和他都笑的很开心，我也陪着笑，心里却抖个不停。
当天晚上我像什么都没有发生一样，去睡觉了，晚上他洗漱完过来上床，抱着我说了声老婆晚安就睡了。我忍着心痛，一遍一遍的告诉自己一定要忍住一定要忍住，毕竟公婆在家里不能够爆发，可是身体却一直在抖，老公大概发现了什么从背后抱住我问你怎么了，他一摸枕头发现湿了，就打开灯就关切的问我怎么了。
我当时就拼命忍着，说没事，就今天上班遇到了一些不开心的事情，拼命的咬着嘴唇，一直在抖，他慌了，抱着我不停的问我怎么了。
就在这个时候家里的电话响了，婆婆当时还在厨房里（公婆都有晚睡的习惯）接热水给公公洗脚，我就去接电话，还没拿起电话，电话就挂了，公公出来了让我赶紧上床去，我穿着单衣，一面絮絮叨叨说怎么这么晚还有人打电话过来。老公也出来了，说可能是打错了的，紧接着老公放在卧室厅里的手机就响了，婆婆也从厨房里出来了，说：天天忙的，这个时候都有电话。
老公就进去接电话了，声音压的很低我没听清楚，公公站在门口说：快点睡觉，不要明天早上又起不来。
我那个时候就突然特别不想进门，往常的这个时候我是从来不会去在乎谁给他电话的，可是今天我突然觉得，打电话的就是那个紫。
我假装什么都没听见的走进房间，老公就说：不要闹了，我关机了。说完就把手机给关了。然后跟我说是公司的下属有点小矛盾，然后让我睡觉。
我就定定的望着他，突然觉得他很陌生，脑海里又突然浮现出一些不苟的画面，眼泪就直直的出来了。
我问：“紫柠糕是谁？”
话出口我就有点后悔了，起码我觉得自己应该搞清楚所有的事情才对，至少让自己掌握一些主动权，可是没有办法，话已经出口了，老公愣了一下，随即就是沉默。现在是三月，晚上仍然很冷，我穿着单衣手足无措的站在那，放佛是我自己出轨而不是他一样。
然后他说的一句话让我几乎崩溃了，叹气一声后，他说：你都知道了啊。
尽管我已经知道，但看着他亲口承认我整个人都坍塌了。
随后发生什么我快忘了，那一晚我都没睡，他不停的解释说和那个女人只是一夜情缘只是她一直缠着他而已。我批了一件羽绒大衣坐在沙发上一直就这么看着他不停的解释不停的解释，他解释累了还去厨房倒水喝，看着他喝水的那个杯子我突然觉得特别恶心，那是过年的时候我送给他的一只万象的保温杯，我当时觉得特别好看就买了送给他，现在觉得他那张吻过别的女人的嘴唇碰到杯子的时候，这个杯子就被玷污了。
就这样到了凌晨，我冷静了下来，说现在公婆在家里我不想过问更多的事情，你让我冷静冷静。
就这样第二天一大早我就去加班了，给家里弄好了稀饭就出门，其实单位里没有什么事情，可我大概是想要去逃避，就主动要求去加班了。
一整天都没有接到他的电话。
中午也没胃口，透过窗子还看到楼下那个卖栗子的还在，当时就觉得特别恐惧，因为周五下午那个女人有来过这里，就在某个我看不见的角落窥视着我的生活，我当时下意识的回头看了看，好像身后就有个女人，趁我不注意的时候就准备掐死我一样。
晚上我一直在朋友家，不想回家，九点左右，婆婆来电话了，问我什么时候回家让我给公公带些烟嘴上来，我说晚些回去。婆婆就嘱咐道说让老公去接我，不要弄的太晚了不安全。
果然十分钟以后老公打电话过来说让我回家，问我在什么地方过来接我，我说了地址之后就一直等他过来。很快他就有开车过来，看到那辆熟悉的白色别克车我突然一下很不愿意上车，想那个女人是否也坐过这辆车，甚至在这辆车上做过什么。
恼人的幻想让人不能自拔，我站在车门前一直恍惚，他过来一把搂住我说你别这样，什么都不要说我们回家再谈。当时眼泪就不争气的下来了，我冷冷的推开他就钻进车里去了。
在车上开始大家都沉默，到了家楼下他停好车，并不下车，突然说：我跟她摊牌了，我们分手了，以后我不会再和她一起，请你原谅我，我真的错了。
我听到之后心里没有太大的感觉，只是觉得，怎么事情会这样，我还像个傻子一样被蒙在鼓里，他们什么时候开始的，有过几次关系，诸如此类的细节问题一个个冒了出来。
我没理他，就直接上了楼。当天晚上我就有些发烧了，迷迷糊糊，就这样睡到了一大早，然后戏剧性的一幕，让我至今都有些瞠目结舌的事情，就这样出现了。
昨天早上我还在睡觉，老公发现我发烧了，一量吓一跳，烧到39°了，就赶紧起床翻箱倒柜的找药，公婆都起床了，一面埋怨着老公这些天没照顾好我让我生病，一面也去找退烧药。没找着老公就下楼去买药，婆婆就坐在我床头，心疼的看着我，说我工作太辛苦了。当时我也特别心酸，看着老人心疼的脸，我一面安慰着一面说没有大问题。
期间老公的手机响了好几次，都是短信音，我没理会，到最后直接电话过来了，婆婆说可能是什么人找让我接一下，我拿过来看了看，显示的是一个男客户的名字，我知道这个人，老公常提到，是业务上很密切的一个客户，我就顺手接了，还没说话，就听见一个女人的声音说：你下来让我见我一面好不好，你下来一趟，让我见最后一面，就一面好吗？好不好？
我立刻就明白是怎么回事，一下子没反应过来。
老公手机的外音很大，婆婆也听见了，婆媳俩就这么怔怔的看了一阵子。我的眼泪掉了下来。
我轻轻的跟话筒里的那个女人说：你好，我是他的妻子。
对方没说话，挂了。
这个时候老公就进屋了，看着我们两个，似乎有点慌，有点手足无措的站在原地，我把老公的手机给他说：刚有个人打电话过来，我给你接了。
老公翻了下手机，迅速的扫了一眼很快就没看了，大家一下子陷入了一个很尴尬的境地。公公倒了开水进来，诧异的问：怎么了？
老公说下楼一趟，婆婆似乎明白了什么，气急败坏的说：你要敢下楼你就不要回家了。
家里当时气氛很紧张，老公梗着脖子站在旁边，公公不知道发生了什么事情，婆婆一个人回房间去了，好像是在哭。我坐在床上默默的掉泪，老公就说：你把事情跟妈说了？
我没说话，事实上我什么都没说，婆婆是个很聪明的人，知道发生了什么事情。辛苦了老人，在这里说一下婆婆是个很开明也很好的女人，她待我就像亲女儿一样。
就在这个时候门铃响了，公公去开的门，跟老公说有人来找了。
那个女人上门了。
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未完待续
作者: 皎皎 时间: 2010-3-17 02:52
老公出去房间，婆婆也出来了，沉默了一阵子，突然听见那个女人一阵哭，哇哇的说了一大堆话，大概意思就是说对不起我不知道你父母在家，但我来了就说清楚吧，我怀孕了，真的对不起，真的对不起。
我当时就坐在床上，胸口一阵阵的翻江倒海。
事情发生的很快，今天周一我照常上班，昨天晚上我去了医院打点滴，婆婆一直陪着，一直在我面前落泪，说着作孽，整个输液室的人都看着我们两个，不知道的人或许是觉得我和她是一对患难母女吧，可是谁能够想到。
我有些出奇的平静，大概是人到了承受到一定程度的痛苦之后，就有些麻木。老公那边怎样我没打电话过去问，今天老公一直有发短信过来，如下：
“宝贝，不知道还能不能这样喊你。事到如今我唯一想说的话就是我很对不起，很，非常，真的，原谅我……”
“你好些了吗？头还疼吗？中午记得吃饭，你生着病不要去上班了回家好吗？让妈照顾你。我很想你，尽管现在没有了想你的权利……”
“我想了很久，真的很该死，我为什么会做出这样的事情。”
“突然很害怕失去你，不要这样，不能这样，原谅我……”
我一条都没有回。
我现在的想法是，努力让自己先平静下来，养好身体，春天太容易生病了。
下班了，不知道该不该回去，我该怎么办。
我现在所有知道的情况是：那个女人（一下称为紫吧）是老公（还是称他为H吧，突然觉得叫老公很别扭）的大学校友，也就是他平时常常与我提到的那个关系不错的业务很多的男客户——想到这里我都发笑，居然用了一个男性的名字放在手机里代替她，而每天他们都有电话来往，而我却那样信赖毫无怀疑。
这紫现在是单身，前段时间跟男朋友分手了，河南安阳人，现在怀孕两个月，是我老公的。
其余我一概不知。
我现在基本冷静下来，一直在克制自己不要哭闹，觉得那真的很没有风度，但是心里乱的不行，而且总有种心悸的感觉，我现在只是百思不得其解，为什么他在之前表现的一点都没有，我相信是他在事情暴露之后立刻提出的分手，或许就是在8号那天，然后紫受不了，9号跑到我家楼下要来见他，但我接了电话，她索性破罐子破摔，上楼来找H，结果没想到老人也在家。
还是很乱，我该怎么办?
我一直觉得他是好人，周围人对他的评价都非常好。总结出来都是非常讲义气，很开朗乐观，非常聪明、
我们是老乡，从小就认识的，但到很晚之后才来电，双方父母都比较熟悉的，恋爱了三年，结婚了这么些年，可我真的不知道，怎么会出现这样的事情，很想不通。
我是独生女，但绝对不是那种娇生惯养的女孩子，父母从小对我就很严厉。成绩一直不错，跳过级，也在上海不错的大学里毕业，现在在一家还算知名的国企工作，相貌当年在班上也是数一数二。可以说条件并不差，我现在只想知道，到底是什么让他出轨，是我对他不够关心还是怎样。
可我想来想去都没有想清楚，这么多时间以来我们一直很好，没有任何的异常，不得不开始佩服起他两面周旋的能力，不愧是高智商的人。
他刚才发短信过来了：
“在我心中，你的位置是任何人都无法取代的，你是我的好妻子，一生的伴侣。给我时间让我去解决好，我只希望你不要拒绝我，看到你冷漠的脸，我几乎都要崩溃了。”
我感觉自己不是几乎，是已经崩溃了。
晚上，没让他来接我回家，自己坐地铁回来的。平时都是他来接我下班的，很少乘地铁，我上班的地方在徐家汇，地铁有40来分钟，看着满车的人，有很多情侣，我突然就想，他们当中有多少是名正言顺的，还是有多少是情人关系……头要爆炸。
他也回家了，比我早到的，我进门的时候他正坐在客厅的沙发上抽烟，公公看到我进门之后立刻就迎上来说：你回来了啊。他却坐在沙发上看了我一眼就没反应了，公公骂了几句，说什么没听清楚，大概是说我回来了怎么都不迎接一下，坐在那里装什么。
婆婆在房间里睡觉，听见我回来了就叫我进去，说了好长一段话，听得我泪如雨下。
婆婆说了很多，但条理非常清楚，大意就是这样：
1、这次不管怎样，都是他的错误，婆婆说坚决和我站在一边。说如果H不要我跟那个女人在一起的话，她就不认这个儿子，更不会认那个女人做媳妇，我是她唯一的媳妇儿，唯一的女儿。
2、希望我能够安心养好身体，这段时间不要想不开。
3、希望我先暂时不要跟我的父母说，因为婆婆觉得这样的事情发生在她儿子身上她觉得很无颜面。最重点的是希望我原谅他一次。
老人说到第一点的时候我就哭了，因为不管怎样，我相信婆婆这段话都是发自肺腑的，她说出这样的话的确让我这个做媳妇的很感动，说到最后一点的时候婆婆也哭了，说她教子无方，不知道怎么生出了这样一个孽种，做出这样不要脸的事情，还弄大了对方的肚子。
当时我就说妈你别生气，别气坏了身体，说可能是我没有想到他工作中的压力，让他的心有了转移，不管怎样他都是你的儿子，我可以没有这个丈夫但你不能没有这个儿子。
婆婆就揩眼泪了。
回到自己房间之后，我开着电脑，桌面上还是我和他去年在厦门的照片，就觉得特别滑稽，他对着这样一个桌面和另外一个女人调情……
他刚刚发短信过来说：我今天睡小房间，求你，好好盖好被子，不要再着凉了，有什么事情打我电话，我手机一夜都不会关机，等你……
我想起来了在今年过年的时候，他去接我的父母来家里过年，当时还有我的小外甥，在车上他就接了那个“业务很多的客户”的电话，说：过完年一起去泡温泉，还故意问我要不要一起去，他知道我年后肯定是会非常忙碌的，我说我不去了让他们自己去，还笑着说要陪父母。
年初八的时候他就出去过夜了，说在外面泡温泉和客户谈生意，我现在知道那个时候他们在一起过夜……
想着就心疼。
还有紫说怀孕两个月了，现在是三月，那么就是在一月左右，发生性关系不止一次了，更甚……
头痛。
怎么会这样。
我和老公是从小就认识，是同一个区的。但是不是很熟悉，只是知道有那么一个人，小学时候同过学校，他原来是学校的广播站站长，其实也就是下两节课后去广播室念一个稿子，我小姨当时在广播室做勤查员，所以我也经常跑过去玩，会看见他专心的在那念稿子，声音很好听，我还记得小姨后来回忆说他的声音有“一种力透纸背的感觉”……也不知道这样算不算不规格的青梅竹马，但真正恋爱还是在他大学毕业的时候。我比他低一届，不同校。也不知道怎么就恋爱了，和他考大学考在同一个城市，每年寒暑假回来的时候都和他一起，就这样爱上了。
那段时间他刚找工作，一切都很不如意，我陪他找房子，打地铺，每周末都去他租的小屋里，学校去他家的公交车，沿途的站点我现在都能背下来。那个时候他很乐观，相信天道酬勤，一切都会好起来，他是个很聪明的男孩子，随机应变很迅速，商业头脑很好，人很讲义气，是那种平时不读书，小考小玩，大考大玩，成绩也能考到十名左右的。工作上也是一样，对我也很呵护。
其实我们在相爱之前都有过彼此的恋人，因为种种缘故分手，在这一点上我们都很默契的很少提及，觉得倒是感谢过去的那些人，塑造了一个现在彼此深爱的自己。
想想有点恍若隔世的感觉。
婚后一直过的很好，父母和公婆之间一直相处的十分融洽。我们现在都是事业起步阶段，虽然已经不错，但是预备再过两年要孩子，偶尔有提过几次，但是都觉得现在还年轻，没有做好要孩子的准备。
那个紫，是他大学的校友，具体怎样我并不清楚。
他说她是个特别单纯的女孩子，在家里也是独生女。这次怀孕，他没有意料到，说很早就想摆脱，但是一直不忍心，说好是最后一次，就没有用保护措施，以为会吃紧急避孕药。但我总不想相信，因为我觉得如果是最后一次，他不会还在QQ上那样轻松的与她开那种玩笑。
听他的口气很怜爱，很内疚。
我失笑。
现在我基本上能够稍微的平静下来。
我想今天晚上跟他谈一谈，我只想确认一个事实，他爱我还是爱她。
可我想，就算他说爱的是我，我又能怎样，我原谅他么？
想到这里就难受的泪如泉涌。
记得他曾经问过我说，如果我们婚后都遇见了一个让自己无法控制的人，会怎么办。我当时就笑着跟他说，要是你跟别的女人有染，我就一脚把你踹了，钱不给你，房子也不给你，车也不给你，孩子也不给你，让你一辈子见不到我。
我现在就真的有这种冲动。
很多朋友问我现在想要什么，我现在冷静的想想，我想要的是从前那种互相信赖，互相关爱的感觉，但我知道这种感觉肯定是回不去了。
不管他和她有没有感情，这些问题我暂且不想，他虽然没有亲口承认，但我知道他和她一定会有感情，让我心寒的就是这里吧，为什么平时我一点都看不出来，是他太狡猾还是我太愚昧。
这几天我不准备回家了，去一个闺蜜家住两天，他什么时候解决好，什么时候来找我。
他和公公刚给我电话了。
婆婆病了，心脏不好。
我说，我现在只要你一个结果，你把工作上的果断交出来，给我一个结果，不论是什么结果，你都处理好，交给我。其他的我不想过问。
老实说，我想离婚。
但这个词汇，太沉重了。
是不是很不理智？
我该怎么办。
在这里我突然特别想说一段自己曾经的感情。
我曾经在大学时候，爱过一个老师，他有妻子有一个三岁的女儿。但是我从来都没有去跟他说明过，我知道这样的爱肯定没有结果，我不能背弃自己的良心去拆散另外一个家庭。
我是对感情特别专一的人，那段时间只是一心想要去喜欢他，但是克制自己不去做份外的事情，那个老师对我也很好，我的作业他总是批注的很多，也很喜欢在一起聊天，在他的办公室里玩飞镖。也会去一起去吃饭，但每次吃饭的时候都会喊上同学一起。
我都不知道，为什么自己会那么喜欢他，崇敬他，就这样爱了他整整一个大学。也不觉得这种单恋有多痛苦，不管我有多么傻，直到后来我和现在的老公在一起。
毕业的时候，我让他给我的纪念册上留言。他拿去了整整一个晚上，第二天才还给我，上面的话让我第一次痛痛快快为了这段大学四年的感情，去天台哭了一场，是席慕容的一首诗，我现在还记得，说：“不是所有的梦都来得及实现，不是所有的话都来得及告诉你，内疚和悔恨，总要深深地种植在离别後的心中．你是聪慧如兰的姑娘，我想你亦懂得我的内心，距离总归是美，未来广阔，你有比我更好的未来，更幸福的归宿。”
老实说我特别感谢这位老师，他一定知道我很喜欢他，但他一直都保持着距离，引导我往正确的方向去做。
这段往事我从来没有跟他说起过，我只是觉得，这就是我的爱情观，你可以去爱，但是责任和义务，必须促使你去做一些不违背自己良心的事情，对得起自己，对得起别人的家庭，就对得起未来。
我不知道紫是怎么想的，我想她一定知道他是有家庭的人，你可以去爱我的丈夫，放在心里爱，我为此荣耀，因为证明他的优秀，但是既然有家庭，就请你退避三舍。
这时我收到了一条短信，应该是紫的。
“我不是你想象中无理取闹的女孩，我很爱你的丈夫，他也很爱我，我们曾经很相爱，在你之前。但他爱你比爱我更多，我很清楚，我有自知之明，我会离开。但孩子我一定要留下，求你，我回自己的老家去，不再打扰你们，也请你不要责怪H，他是无罪的，是我情难自禁。对不起，我唯一想说的话。”
什么叫做“我们曾经很相爱，在你之前”？？？？？？？
我脑子充血了。浑身血都往上冲了。
是不是很不理智。
我要平静，我要平静，我要平静。
这个短信我不想回复
我要回复吗？
我突然想起了一件事情。
就是他很多账号，邮箱包括网游账号什么的，都是gzn后面加一串我看不懂的数字，类似gzn12345,gzn1980，gzn1314等等，还记得那个时候我有玩笑的问过他，这个字母是什么意思，他说随便在键盘上打的。
那个女孩的网名叫紫柠高，反过来的每个字的拼音就是gzn。
觉得有种被欺骗的感觉。
在我记忆里，他大学四年有过恋爱，但是我一直没过问。
也不想知道太多他的过去。
这些账号是很早之前的，我记忆很模糊，但是现在他有个魔兽的网游账号，绝对是gzn****的，玩了很多年。
这个女孩叫高紫宁？还是什么。
我在乱猜测。
下午他来公司找我了，四点多我和他出去，在公司楼下的咖啡馆，从确认他出轨后，第四天，我们第一次面对面的坐下来认真的谈到了这件事情。
但结果很不好，我知道了很多我不想知道的事情，很残忍。
事情发生的很快，这四天中我真切体会到什么叫做泪如泉涌。
我和他用“真心话大冒险”的形式来叙说了这么多日子以来的前因后果。就是一问一答。他一直在抽烟，说公司的事情已经搁置下了，他只想全心全意的把家中的事情解决好。
我问他什么时候开始的，答案好残忍：去年的六月份开始的。
我很傻乎乎的问了一个你们做过多少次爱的问题，出口我就后悔了。结果他的回答让我更抓狂：记不清了。
紫和他没有恋爱过，却是他大一刚进校时第一个喜欢的女孩子，他曾经追求过他，但遭到她的拒绝，因为那个时候她有个已经工作了的男友，因为这个，他低沉过一段时间。（这个我有印象，那时候我念高三，向他咨询高考大学等情况，有聊到他的感情，他说那段时间心情不好，身体也很糟糕，我为了安慰他，还给他寄了老家的一大包特产回去）我问他那些账号是不是她的名字，他迟疑了一下说是的，说用习惯了也便没有去改。
我问他，怎么和紫开始的。他说，紫研究生结业，请大家在学校门口吃饭，正好那时候他回学校参加了一个论坛，也在那吃饭，才碰到一起。两个人互相留了手机号码和MSN，后来联系上了，知道紫和那个男友分开很长时间了，说到了当时他追求她的时候，忆苦思甜，就这样在一起了。
我问他是否爱她，他迟疑了一两秒说，曾经爱过，现在不爱。
我问确定吗？
他毫不迟疑的确定了。
我便说既然不爱为什么在一起。
他的回答让我觉得有点哑然失笑：为了弥补当年，为了证明自己。
我问，你证明什么，证明你很有魅力，让她后悔当年没有选择你吗？我眼泪泛了出来。
他就不再说话。
我又问，那紫爱你吗。他迟疑了会说，爱吧。
紫的确是怀孕了，至于是最后一次没用措施这个问题我不想问，我知道他肯定是撒谎了，想到从他出轨到现在，他穿梭在两个女人的身体当中，间接的玷污了我的真诚与信赖，觉得很痛苦也很肮脏。
我问他孩子打算怎么办。他说他一直在协调。问他协调什么，说协调着一种让每个人的伤害都降低到最低的方式。
我就有点激动了，说你有没有想过这个事情里面最无辜最受伤的是谁。
他的回答让我很吃惊：每个人都很受伤。
我就有点火了，手里那被咖啡当时很想往他头上泼，但我忍住了，我含着眼泪问他：所以你要付出均等的力量去安慰这每个受伤的人对吗？
他看到我有点激动，痛快的直揪头发（我现在已经不确定这种痛苦是不是装出来的），说：你不要这样，我们都冷静下来好吗？
我还没等他说完就说，我这几天还不够冷静吗？
再然后就吵起来了，整个过程我都很痛心，从他的言语中我
确定，他对紫是有感情的。
我只确认了这一点。
觉得自己很失败。
我很伤心的在他面前哭了，哭的很失态，很伤心，很窒息。整个咖啡馆的人都看着我们。
他的眼睛也红了，说我不能失去你，你打我骂我都可以，她的事情我一定会去协调，孩子不能要，我会说服她把孩子打掉。
我什么都没听进去，哭的头昏脑胀。
出来咖啡馆的时候我执意没有跟他回家，今天早上我把洗漱的一些用品带回来了，说去朋友家住，他说用车载我去，我也拒绝了，一口气低头冲回公司，正值下班的时候，电梯里出来好多人，我低着头走进去，在公司的办公室，我看见他还一直站在楼下看着上面，一直抽着烟。
好可笑，他竟然去买了一袋栗子。十多分钟以后他开车走了。
我坐在位置上，好惘然，爱情真的很脆弱，容不得半点背叛。
这时，他发另一条短信过来：对不起，我爱你。接着他又发了一条过来。“突然很想在路上就这么被撞死，但知道自己没有勇气。想起几天前你腻在我怀中剥栗子给我吃的情景，心酸和痛苦一并涌上心头，我知道自己让你受伤了，受了很严重的伤，也知道很难得到你的原谅……我刚去买了一包栗子，如果你愿意，我等你回来，一颗一颗剥开给你吃，可是我知道，这样的机会已经很难很难了，对吗？”
心里好痛。
我没有回复。今天晚上我不回家了，等我眼泪干了，情绪稳定了我就让我闺蜜过来接我，我跟她约好了，本来说今天晚上去逛街的，但看来我这个样子是没法去的了。
心里隐隐的痛，一阵一阵。
为什么会这样子……
他是肯定没法在外面过夜的，也很难晚回家，公公打电话过来说了，每天监督他早点回家，他是孝子，加上婆婆生病，他不会晚回家。
这两天他和紫肯定是有联系的，我不知道会怎样，也没有问。
本来昨天写了一些的，不成想写了没一会儿，有个不速之客黑客侵入我的计算机了，让朋友捣鼓了半天，后来又从www.pcaegis.com上买了个媲 西伊遮
斯，那个东东专门防止屏幕监控、键盘鼠标记录，防止聊天记录被偷看私密信息被偷取等。很多朋友让我注意财产，我自己有一份高薪的职业，完全可以养活自己，房子的名字归在他下面，但去年我在苏州用自己的名字购了一套房子。财产上我不会为难他，他也不会为难我，这个我相信。
紫发给我的短信和他发给我的短信我都有保存，以防后患。
这样做虽然很有必要，可我还是觉得很痛，什么时候开始，彼此相互扶助的夫妻，要用这样一种将来可能要对簿公堂的方式来监视。
今天晚上我是肯定不想回家的，现在头疼的厉害。
妈妈刚才来电话了，我没有告诉她，不想远在千里的她听到会伤心痛苦，她一直待H很好，总说我太任性要H让着我一点……如果她知道了这件事情，会有多失望……当年是她亲自把我交给H手上的。
身心极度的虚弱，觉得自己现在十分苍白和渺小，昨天和闺蜜一同回她家，看到沿途的城市灯火通明，觉得人生不过一世，遭遇多少困难险阻以前都觉得是成长。
有种一夜老去的感觉。
现在是上班时间，没有什么事情可做，整个上午都过的很混乱，早上迟到了，但所幸的是老总没有责怪我，他似乎知道这些天我身体不好，关照我可以在家里休息几天再来，听到那个家字我强颜欢笑，觉得那已经不是我的家。我现在能去哪里呢，什么地方都不想去。
昨天晚上在朋友面前狠狠的哭了一场，她是朋友圈种这个事情唯一的知情者，然而她亦束手无策无能为力，只有陪着我在家中一同大哭很对不起她……哭完之后反而觉得舒心很多。
朋友是大学同学，算的上是我和他一同走来的见证人，她只能有心无力。
昨天晚上手机关闭，一大早起来，如我所意料中一样，他的短信塞满了整个信箱。
还没有看完，他的电话如期而至，说知道我关机，但仍然打了一个晚上。问他什么事情，他说没事，只是想确认我有没有事情，我不想提及紫，但还是失控的提到了她，我问紫怎样了。
他说了一句，很不好。
我说我也很不好，他说他知道，所以一直打我电话。
心中十分悲哀，想问你是不是也一直在给她打电话呢，但话没出口。
我上次有记下那个女孩的QQ号码，和他们所有的聊天记录，一直放在我的笔记本电脑里，我却没有勇气打开它，生怕里面的每一句话都会腐蚀我的心。
中午没有吃什么饭，一个人坐在空荡荡的办公室里，望着天边发呆，期间公公有打两个电话，在这个问题上他说不了什么，只是不停的叹气，婆婆仍然在医院掉盐水，有公公陪着他。他在哪里我没有问，应该是在上班，紫呢，也在一起上班吧，每天都要见面。倒是我这个妻子，见不着了。
我是倔强的人，我知道什么都会过去，只要熬过这一段时间。可这段时间要到什么时候才能是个头，我不敢想也不敢望，只奢求它快快过去。
老实说，我差不多也算是个80后，对待爱情的态度多少沾染了一些80后的气息，然而这种事情发生在自己身上，除了深深的痛苦与悲哀之外，我现在想离婚的年头不停的不停的充塞着我的整颗心脏。
是的，我没有办法容忍以后互相猜疑，整天提心吊胆的日子。
可我下不了口，更决定不了自己的心。我知道自己仍然爱他，很爱，尽管他背叛我，但是他是我的丈夫啊。
感觉自己现在是在一个悬崖上，手脚都在流血，上也不是，下也不是。
我好想回家，回爸爸妈妈那，好想。
很多人要我做好提防，现在，紫对我的情况似乎很明确，知道我住哪，在哪工作，知道我的手机号码，可我却对她几乎一无所知。
我仅仅知道她是个研究生，他原来喜欢过她，被她拒绝，知道她研究生结业后不顾一切，去了他的公司，他作为公司的主管有权有能力把她放在身边。
刚才我去了他的公司网站，在员工活动中我看到了公司出去游玩的照片，猜测着那么多女人中哪一个是她，看到他，笑的那么灿烂！
我想我基本能够摸透紫的一些情况了。
H没有骗我，他的确追求过她，但那个时候，紫和另外一个男人在一起，就是我这个朋友说的那个已经订婚了的。
有心机，内向，爹妈去世了。
或许这是她说要回老家生孩子的原因，爹妈不在身边。
我突然很心酸，或许的确是她很可怜，我老公是个特别心软的人，是那种路上见到乞丐，不管骗不骗都会去给一些钱和一些吃的人。
为什么会这样。
突然间有一种幸灾乐祸的感觉，又很心痛，觉得他太傻了。
刚才我给他打电话了。
这些天第一次我主动给他电话，身不由己，只是忽然间，觉得这是个闹剧，我和他都是闹剧中的被害者。
他接的很快，似乎有些激动。
我约他今天晚上一起吃饭，希望能够平静的，认真的聊一次。他也承诺不再如昨天一般冲动，冷静的面对。
我想，我不应该这么消极被动的去等待解决问题。
我知道很多人关注我和他昨晚的事态，事情不好也不坏，因为就如一个网友回复的说道，没有什么可以称为好，也没有什么可以称为坏。
一个人心中似乎有一杆秤杆，我现在的出路无非两种，一个原谅，一个离婚，在我心中的这杆秤，偏向的是离婚。
我很知道，现在的自己已经趋于平静，想离婚不是自己头脑发热，也不是什么。
在反反复复的交谈、沉默之后，我确认了一个事实，他是爱紫的。
“或许比爱你多，也或许比爱你少，最贴切的说法，或许是一样多吧。这对你来说很残忍，我知道。”
这是他的原话。一个字我都不会记错,一个字都不会，一个字。
听到这句话我突然很释然。但眼泪还是很不争气的掉了下来，我看着他，看了很久，他迎接着我的目光，时不时的低头。沉默很久以后，我对他说，那我选择离婚吧，你带着你的孩子，最好远走高飞，越远越好。
他大概不会意料到我说出这样的话，猛的一抬头，我看到他的表情很吃惊。没等到他回复，我的双脚就像被人指定一般，转身就走了。
我想我是在逃避吧，那一刻我不想听到他说任何的话，不论是挽留还是感谢还是吃惊还是任何任何，什么都不想听到。
我一个人哭着在路边等的士，我知道他有追上来，或许因为结账的缘故，我没能等到他上前一把拉住我，钻进的士的时候，车里放着陶喆的歌。
“多想要向过去告别，当季节不停更迭，却永远少一点坚决……我了解，那些爱过的人，心是如何慢慢在凋谢……”
“心是如何慢慢在凋谢”，真的很恰当。
我昨晚直接回家了，司机把我送到门口的时候，我才知道自己向他报的是自己家的地址，婆婆听到我回来了拼命喊我去她床边，一把抓住我的手喊了声“孩啊”，老人苍老了很多，她说了很多话，我一句都没听进去。
最后我真的忍不住了，跟她说，妈你让我自私一点，你让我安静一点时间，你自己好好保重身体，这几天不要理我。什么都不要再说。
我哭着回房间了，发疯一样听陶喆的那首《寂寞的季节》，我以前这首歌听的很少，这一刻突然觉得为什么这样贴合我的心。没有目的地在电脑里看我和他的照片，厦门的，南京的，结婚照。他进来的时候我还在看，他却在我身边跪了下来，脸色很仓猝，但什么话都没有说。
公公喊他出去了，外面闹成一团，不知是公公还是婆婆，给了他好几个耳光，听到那个响声我觉得自己好心碎，往常我会很心痛很心痛吧，但那一刻我拼命用耳机塞住了自己的耳朵，疯狂的听陶喆的《寂寞的季节》。
一直听到现在。
我想昨天晚上的流泪，大概是这辈子最多的一次，到最后都没有了声音。他很晚进来的时候，坐到床边一直攥着我的手，那一刻有很恍惚的感觉，是这一切都没有发生过，他声音很颤抖，也很低的说：不要提离婚可以吗，这两个字听到我心打抖。
我想他或许是真的没有想到我会提离婚。我没有再哭，或许是没有眼泪了。
我告诉他，我不能容忍自己深爱的人同时徘徊在两个女人之中，我不能让自己的妥协来纵容你的心安理得，爱人只能有一个。我提出离婚不是为了成全你们，而是成全我自己的尊严，你以后的幸福与否都和我没有关系。
他没等我说完就打断我的话，掉泪了，他说他绝对没有想到事情会发展到这一步，更不会想到我会提出离婚。
那一刻我真的很想很想扑到他怀里说我不想离婚，但我忍住了。
我说今天晚上你别再睡外面，进来睡吧。整个晚上他都紧紧抱着我，我很想忘记一切和他做一次爱，但当他的身体碰到我的时候，我还是退缩了，不论他怎么努力我的身体都向一块石头一样冰冷，到最后我们都放弃了，他紧紧抱住我，感觉他的眼泪一直流进我的脖子里，反反复复都只有一句话说，对不起，别离婚，我们可以像从前一样。
我一句话都没有说，心里觉得很悲哀。即使不离婚，紫都会成为你心中一块永远都不能抹去的印记，我不想自己深爱的人心中留出一个位置给别人。我想，如果我走了，或许我能成为横亘在你和她之间的一个地方，我需要尊严。
不管紫是会得意还是会怎样，至少我确认了她的品格，如果她是这样一个人，相信H和她也不会走多远，我相信他会永远记得我，在一起这么多年，确认相爱到现在也有六年，他不会对我毫无感情，而至于他和紫的未来，我想说，看谁笑到最后，看谁能走的更远，不论那个时候我会怎样，至少我是正直的，也是勇敢的。
昨天，我问了他这些问题：
1、出轨是因为找真爱，还是追求刺激，还是？
2、那三是否真的爱你？抑或你只是替代品，或者下半辈子的救命稻草？
3、你是否能接受三成为你的妻子？（N手货，汗一个）你的家庭能否接受那三？
4、咱们是否有点不孝顺？婆婆被气病了，你还犹豫不决，我也没去照顾老人家
这些问题我都问过了。
他说的话尽管很残忍，但是我还是很感谢他，毕竟他是真实的说出了自己的想法，来让我能更好更全面的去看整个事情。
他诚实的告诉了我，第一次出轨的时候，是因为他当年的初恋情节，但到最后，发现的确有慢慢的爱上她。
他说紫很爱她，为他付出很多，流过很多眼泪。
我想，强扭的瓜不甜。
我和他相处这么多年，他很少掉泪，曾经和公婆们聊天的时候，公公还说过他小时候调皮挨打，一句也不哼也不肯掉泪的事情。
我相信他的眼泪是真实的。也相信他很痛苦。
有很多朋友问我是否还爱他。
在这里我要认真的，很严肃的说，是的，我还爱他，很爱很爱，爱到自己难以自已。
但或许是因为这样的爱，让我不能容忍他同时爱着两个女人，我的爱是自私的，是自己的。
我昨天去和他吃饭的时候，用MP4录下我们对话的全过程。虽然到现在还没有重新听。或许以后会有用，也或许，我可以在老的时候听听，年轻的时候曾经有过这样一次刻骨铭心的婚姻。
心好冷，我却在笑。
我要微笑。
今天一天几乎都在昏睡，他也没有去上班，在家陪我。
期间电话有一直响，但他都没接，他把手机关了。
公公也在照顾婆婆。
中午他还下楼买了很多水果上来，都是我喜欢吃的，草莓这个时节很多，我楼下有卖草莓的小贩，很多。
去买水果的时候没有带手机，就放在离我不远的地方，但我没有去看。
他说这几天他都不会再用手机了，他说只想一心一意陪我，不管是不是最后一次。
我告诉他说想独自静会，他和公婆在一起聊天，是我的事情，因为我听到不时传来的他们的骂声和哭泣。
上海的天很阴，我住在十楼，很想纵身跳下去。
呵呵，说着的，我不会。
我要好好活着，我要健康，勇敢，漂亮的活着。
在家里闷了一天，陪婆婆去医院，一家人都去。
雨后的上海空气也很清新，或许也不会那样阴霾。
我需要自己的洗礼。
他刚刚跟我说，他不会同意离婚，就算离婚，也不会和紫在一起。当着我的面开机给老总请了假，然后把电板拿了出来交给我。
我没有收，只是轻轻笑着握了握他的手，当作回应。
不管会怎样吧。
可以失恋，但不能失爱。原来有看过一本书《只有分手才能幸福》，说过这样一句话。
这是我心里面的痛；你没办法感觉到，你没办法理解，这就是我。
关于这篇文章，我可以诚实告诉大家：这是我的故事，不是谎言。
我想我在这个地方不会受到伤害，但我发现这个世界没有属于我的地方。
谢谢大家对我那么大的支持，非常抱歉我让大家为我担心和对这个事情争议。
对不起，非常抱歉。
关于我的老公，我们已经离婚了。
谢谢大家！
甜麦饼 发表于 2008-10-10 22:20:33
作者: 皎皎 时间: 2010-3-17 02:59
康美凤选择维持，甜麦饼选择离婚。她们的区别可以包括：年龄、美貌、子女的顾虑、财产等方面，但是我觉得更重要的是文化对人格的塑造上。
新加坡式的爱情可能更成熟，却不见得美妙。。。
问题是就算当代年轻人，很多人都务实到可怕的地步，对身心无益。务实是西化学来的，和传统的夫妻大义毫无瓜葛，我不觉得那是美。
作者: 半缘修道 时间: 2010-3-17 18:15
康氏是梁的第二任妻子。
记者会晕倒太假了。不过演技还不错。
梁和康的表现都不像是把“羞耻”当回事的人，他们认钱。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-18 18:20
有没有新消息？
威胁乐轩的到底是谁？
嗨别管那么多了，坏人肯定没有好下场。放心吧。
作者: 两极使者 时间: 2010-3-19 07:49
呵呵，梁导的《做人》宣传画报是这样说的：
“人”你懂得写，你懂得做吗？
作者: 两极使者 时间: 2010-3-19 07:51
顺笔：看得出来，至少对梁导而言，这个做人的标准和公众舆论、传统价值、礼义廉耻都关系不大。和钱的关系比较大。
作者: 黎民 时间: 2010-3-19 14:53
［梁智强婚外情］宣传新片满脸笑容 梁智强高调挨批
公关顾问：积极宣传新片让人觉得淡忘丑闻。
闹出婚外情风波，6天前还苦求观众原谅，梁智强如今却“恢复神速”，频频笑容满面曝光宣传电影，有公众批评他作风太高调，让人反感！
梁智强（50岁）最近被踢爆与22岁女模钟佳燕搞婚外情长达两年后，又冒出多名“嫩草”包括乐轩、法国女子以及变性人，出面指责梁智强。
风波闹了一个星期，梁智强上周五还召开记者会，公开认错道歉。不料，在过去的几天里，梁智强又频频带着笑容出席许多公开活动，好像完全不在乎之前闹出的出轨风波。
《联合晚报》接到许多公众的来电和简讯，对梁智强丑闻后若无其事的模样，大表不满。
有人说，风波虽然如今稍平静，但梁智强频频曝光，如出席上周末中巴鲁广场的宣传活动，以及昨天上972电台节目为电影《做人》宣传，出席电影座谈会。
公众认为，梁智强未免太高调，也太快不把之前所犯的错当一回事。一名公众说：“他之前和妻子一起道歉，妻子还晕倒，当时他好像很后悔，但现在似乎什么事也没发生，让人看了觉得很反感。”
明早10时，梁智强将上1003电台宣传《做人》电影。1003电台DJ黄文鸿、江坚文等人，今早为明天梁智强上节目作宣传预告时，上百名听众发简讯发表意见。其中，有一半表示：如果梁智强上节目，宁愿杯葛节目！
其中一名听众的简讯留言说：“他（指梁智强）上节目，我就会关掉收音机，对不起，我真的不想听到他虚伪的谎言。”
作者: 黎民 时间: 2010-3-19 14:55
梁智强有功。本地男士至少可以学学人家的承受力。
作者: 黎民 时间: 2010-3-19 14:57
骚扰乐轩电话 有一通来自梁家班成员
据悉，一名男艺人在乐轩向媒体坦言，梁智强曾尝试要和她交往后，用无显示号码的电话，拨电给乐轩。
梁导上电台节目，陈建彬临时请假。更多新闻内容，请看18.03.2010的《新明日报》。
作者: 黎民 时间: 2010-3-19 14:57
骚扰乐轩电话 有一通来自梁家班成员
据悉，一名男艺人在乐轩向媒体坦言，梁智强曾尝试要和她交往后，用无显示号码的电话，拨电给乐轩。
梁导上电台节目，陈建彬临时请假。
乐轩接到骚扰来电一案，据知，警方已查获数名来电者的身份，其中包括了本地的著名艺人。
据《新明日报》得知的消息，警方介入调查的乐轩骚扰电话案以来，目前已查获三四通来电，是从什么号码的电话拨出，其中一通来电，还是来自于本地娱乐圈的一位著名艺人。
据《新明日报》探知的消息，这名男艺人也是梁家班的成员，而且是一个相当红的艺人。据悉，这名男艺人在乐轩向媒体坦言，梁智强曾尝试要和她交往，还邀她上酒店开房后，用无显示号码的电话，拨电给乐轩。
一般相信，警方在调查期间，不排除把这些人传召到警局问话，最快可能是这两天的事。
《新明日报》今早联络上乐轩，但她不愿意透露进一步的详情。
据《新明日报》得知的消息，乐轩之前曾表示，将在本月25日启程的台湾行，将再次被延期。《新明日报》昨天报道，乐轩昨天曾回到新传媒拍长寿剧《想握你的手》。
据《新明日报》向该剧剧组了解，她的戏份目前还未拍摄完毕，需在下个星期再次拍摄，最后一天的拍摄应是在本月29日。
乐轩这次去台湾，是为了即将在6月份发行的专辑作准备，拍摄自己的音乐录影带。
——OMY
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-20 08:41
没劲没劲！一坡的人难得有契机这么群情激昂的，结果白叫唤了，输给梁智强的“时代精神”了！
作者: 皎皎 时间: 2010-3-20 17:57
梁智强会说：哭也哭了，晕也晕了，歉也道了，我该演的都落力演出了。任务完成，爱谁谁吧。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-23 12:36
嘿嘿，本来嘛，想靠起哄整倒人家根本上就是仇富心理在作怪，那是左倾年代的老黄历，嗳哟你看看这么多土，翻不得聊~
作者: 猫鱼 时间: 2010-3-28 09:45
［梁智强婚外情］上电台1003 七成听众表示原谅梁智强
上周记者会后的支持率仅13％！今早上电台1003节目，近70%听众表示愿意原谅梁智强！
梁智强婚外情风波爆发至今已有两个多星期，他上周四（11日）召开记者会，但由于老婆现场晕了过去，让梁导来不及说“对不起”。电台1003当天现场空中直播记者会，不少听众踊跃传简讯表示，梁智强记者会上没诚意，不值得原谅，根据电台多提供的听众回应显示，只有约13％听众愿意继续支持梁智强的作品，给他改过的机会。
事隔一星期，梁智强为电影《做人》宣传，愿意支持他、原谅他的听众明显多了不少，有听众说：“加油！我们支持你梁导。眼前的路难走，但总会看到爱和快乐”。另一方，认为梁智强不值得原谅的听众也大有人在，有听众表示：“我会花钱看《绑匪》而不是《做人》，因为《做人》的导演都不懂得做人”、“不要再演戏了”。
听众反应两极化，但根据统计，这回肯给他机会、愿意原谅他，继续支持他作品的观众有67％，和一个星期前的13％相比，梁导的情况显然“明朗”不少。
作者: 阳阳 时间: 2010-3-30 15:42
打了个水漂，风过无痕啊。
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